Does this mean you're gay or bisexual?

I consider myself bisexual because I am sexually attracted to both men and women.

However, in a example situation, if my dream man and my dream woman were laying on a bed together, and I was allowed to .... "spend some time and do whatever I wanted sexually" with one of them, I would ALWAYS choose the man.

Does that make me gay or not? It's very confusing.

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Reply 1

username917703

http://vistriai.com/kinseyscaletest/

Reply 2

noxxie013

If you're attracted to both men and women in the first place, then just because you'd pick the man in that scenario doesn't mean you're necessarily gay. Just more attracted to men than you are women.

I think what would make someone gay would be if they weren't attracted to women at all, in a sexual context.

Reply 3

Red one

Original post by Wilfred Little

http://vistriai.com/kinseyscaletest/

That's a silly questionnaire if I've ever saw one. :rolleyes:

Reply 4

username917703

Original post by Red one

That's a silly questionnaire if I've ever saw one. :rolleyes:

foolproof m8

Reply 5

Padwas

yes your prob more inclined to side with the gay side

Reply 6

Plantagenet Crown

No, just means you're more inclined to the gay side of the spectrum.

Reply 7

Ebony19

If you're not out as a bisexual but recognise your bisexual desires on the low down then it may be because the man is the forbidden fruit. I mean would your family be fine if you had a boyfriend?

Reply 8

Red one

Original post by Wilfred Little

foolproof m8

I'm sure that's what attracted you to it in the first place. :rolleyes:

Then again only a fool would use a questionnaire to determine their orientation.

Reply 9

username917703

Original post by Red one

I'm sure that's what attracted you to it in the first place. :rolleyes:

Then again only a fool would use a questionnaire to determine their orientation.

I already know my sexuality lol?

Reply 10

Red one

Original post by Wilfred Little

I already know my sexuality lol?

Are you gay? I'm getting a gay vibe from you.

Reply 11

username917703

Original post by Red one

Are you gay? I'm getting a gay vibe from you.

You say it, as if I should be insulted...

Reply 12

Isambard Kingdom Brunel

Original post by Ebony19

If you're not out as a bisexual but recognise your bisexual desires on the low down then it may be because the man is the forbidden fruit. I mean would your family be fine if you had a boyfriend?

They wouldn't approve, but I don't care what they think.

Reply 13

Four Queue

It's just you admitting to yourself that you have no game and think it will be easier to get laid with a bloke.

Reply 14

Ebony19

Original post by Isambard Kingdom Brunel

They wouldn't approve, but I don't care what they think.

You say that but the fact of the matter is in your mind ****ing a man is rebellion.
Forbidden fruit is sexier, you want it more.
Girls are on a plate and they would accept it if they knew you were having sex with your girlfriend, but they wouldn't if they knew you were having sex with a man.

Reply 15

River85

Original post by Isambard Kingdom Brunel

No. It just means you prefer to be sexual with men (and attraction is about more than sex anyway). It happens. Sexuality is a spectrum and is fluid. Not every person is 100 percent males, 100 percent female, or 50:50.

There are many who are bisexual (and may identify as bisexual) but prefer males over females or vice versa. This can be a constant preference or it can change.

So, yes, I would still consider you to be bisexual, if this is how you defined yourself.

Or, you know, just throw labels out of the window. I know I'm not bothered with them (and have never really felt comfortable referring to myself as bisexual anyway).

Reply 16

martin jol

Original post by Isambard Kingdom Brunel

bisexual with a preference towards males.

first reply nailed it (hehe) - sexuality is not black/white, everyone exists somewhere on a scale between 99.999999999999r% straight to 0.00000000000001% straight I.E ghey.

personally i'm probably about an 85% straight meaning i have caught the gay to a smaller extent that you (you are probably 20-40% straight meaning you have well and truly caught the gay)

martin x