What do you class as cheating?

A mere look at the opposite sex is considered cheating for me.

A mere look at the opposite sex is considered cheating for me.

I was having this conversation with a friend who thinks flirting (whether it be in person or over text/the internet) is cheating.

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cheating is a stupid concept anyway that derives from insecurity and an outmoded view of how a relationship needs to work (marriage). I don't see the problem with casual sex given that it's safe and I wouldn't condemn a girlfriend for having fun with other sexual partners.

EDIT: sex isn't some sacred act. what's the big deal?

Flirting, really?

I'm a natural flirt so I'd be screwed if everyone felt that way!

I used to think just like this, and even told my partner I felt that way in our first week of knowing each other. Sex is great - why deny someone it, if they want to have it? They can still love you and enjoy getting their kicks elsewhere, no?

A month in, and I felt completely and totally the opposite. Maybe you just need to fall in love to see it. P:

I don't really like the idea of marriage itself, and I dislike most outmoded trappings on relationships. However, if you are entering into a relationship that is built on, amongst other things, faithfulness and loyalty within the love (i.e respect!!) then cheating is a huge, huge problem. It's a total insult; it's a never-ending slap in the face. It hurts so much and can break you down. Sex/intimacy isn't some sacred act, but it's our act, and I don't want him to give it to anyone else - same goes for romantic affection, love, etc.

Lol. I don't even know if I flirt or am just being friendly most of the time. I'm equally chatty and open to both genders but when I try and be friendly to guys I always get re-marks of being too flirty... Surely that would mean I am flirting with girls then - should it make me bi? Yes. Am I? The last time I've checked I wasn't.

I guess I'll just have to wait and see!
Nonetheless, it is still based on jealousy, isn't it!

Lol. I don't even know if I flirt or am just being friendly most of the time. I'm equally chatty and open to both genders but when I try and be friendly to guys I always get re-marks of being too flirty... Surely that would mean I am flirting with girls then - should it make me bi? Yes. Am I? The last time I've checked I wasn't.

No? When he cheated on me I wasn't jealous, I was just hurt, deeply so. There was no envy. Who would I be envious of? I didn't want to be in anyone else's position. There was no space for jealousy - jealousy is one of the stupidest things. It was sole pain and confused anger, and a whole lot of aching. (: Fun times. But no, it's not inherently about being jealous, it's about being betrayed, tricked, lied to - it's about not knowing. It's awwwwl about the trust.