Original post by DietyI think your problem with the idea of submitting to God may be helped by thinking about how Christianity understands certain things. We are to be completely obedient to God so that in our aligning of our will to His we may be taken up fully into His divine life. When we talk about obedience it is not to a big mean boss going around telling us 'do this, do that'. The model of leadership we have is Jesus - the steward, the gentle shepherd, the one who said whoever wants to lead you must be your servant. We are also told in the Bible that 'God is Love', not 'God is a nice boss and you'd better submit to Him because He said so' - God is Love itself, and grace itself, and beauty itself - that which all of creation is merely a reflection and a shadow. In calling us to obedience, God calls us to a loving unification with Love itself. He does not do this for his benefit (for how can God want for anything), but only for our sakes (since He is Love itself and therefore loving by nature). Entering into this unification with the God of love in obedience must itself be a loving act (for how can we be united with Love if not by loving?), and true love is to empty the self and give oneself completely to the other - desiring only the good of the person loved. So if we truly want to be united with the God of love, we must love Him, and in doing so be obedient to His will for in love we empty ourselves and live for Him - obedience is the only option - but we know that this is not a one way servant-boss relationship, for in Christ we see the face of God as one who in leading, kneels to serve, and who loves us completely, therefore even as we give our whole selves in love to God, we find Him giving in turn Himself in love for us, chiefly on the cross of Christ.
I hope you were able to follow that, I was kind of thinking and writing and all theology is tricky to explain - kind of like trying to describe a grand room by looking through the keyhole.