Why is it difficult for girls to understand if they were raped or not Watch
Sometimes it's not as simple as it seems. Statistically, most rapes are done by someone that the girl knows and not by strangers so if she is in a relationship and is pressured by her other half to have sex or in some way forced then it would be rape but she may not see it in that way because they're in a relationship. It wasn't until recently that rape was even considered in a marriage, before that rape in marriage was not brought to law.
I'm hardly a White knight, but if it was a boyfriend who got her drunk or pressured her, it is rape, but at first she might question herself
I ****ing hate the world.
It happened to me by some random stranger who stalked me when I was on my way home after I went shopping one evening back in January 2013. I was manipulated/pressured/coerced (whatever you want to call it) into having sex and I kept saying no but the guy just would not take no for an answer. He kept becoming more and more physical and touching me inappropriately. When it came to me getting off the train I heard him telling his friend to go home because he figured he was "going to be a while". When it happened we were on my road, just 5 minutes away from my house and I knew I couldn't just run off and go home because he would then know where I lived and god only knows what would have happened if he found that out. I knew I had to let him do what he had to do because that was the only way he would leave me alone. He was a predator. I knew he wouldn't back down until he got what he wanted.
It wasn't until one particular night in September when I thought back to that evening (as I often did) and something just clicked in my mind and made me consider the possibility of it being rape. I spoke to a couple of people and they confirmed for me that it was rape because I made it clear to the guy that I didn't want anything to do with him and that I didn't want him anywhere near me but he just ignored me completely and continued doing what he was doing.
That evening the guy did such a good job at manipulating/pressuring me that it took me 8/9 months to realise that it wasn't my fault - it was his.
Not exactly, like someone else just said, getting drunk and taking advantage is rape but it may not cross the mind of the guy or girl if the one doing it is their partner
... Not like I can make sessile decision when I'm sober anyway