Relationships before the age of 25 are pointless. Discuss.

It's practise for the relationships that you don't balls up later on.

If people only started dating at 25, all the teenage/early twenties dating drama would just happen later in life.

If antipathy doesn't reply its because the paedo police have tracked his IP address and taken him away for "questioning".

25, why?

Oh it's just you said he was 'over 25' when you got together I was just being nosy (secretly hoped you were going to say 40 or something)

I'm of the opinion that serious, committed relationships before reaching your mid-twenties are pointless. What's the point? People are literally wasting their time, and indeed their lives, being in relationships. And it's pathetic. The number of people breaking down, and claiming their lives have "fallen apart", and all this **** - why do people do it? You're young, you've got your whole life ahead of you? Why not use the time to earn some money, get a decent degree, travel the world, succeed in some way or another - why do you choose to waste your time with someone who you are almost definitely going to break up with (badly), and leave you feeling depressed and insecure for ages afterwards? I know loads of people who've done badly in exams, missed uni offers, job opportunities, the list goes on, because they've spent all their time focused on their relationship.

I understand there are upsides, but you DON'T need to be in a relationship to get them;
1. Spending time with someone you get on with: You've got friends/family for that. Why spend so much time with one person, when you could use your time better and use it to meet more people and make more close friends? Plenty of people I know have isolated themselves from their friends to be in a relationship, and once they've broken up, they've got none left to turn to.
2. The sex - you don't have to be in a serious, time-consuming relationship for that - there's one night stands, or friends with benefits (if you want to be exclusive)
3. Conforming to social expectation: "All my mates are in relationships, so I should be too". if you're in a relationship for this, you're a right pleb.

Now, I'm not against relationships in general. It's just I believe they should be after Uni at least, or when people are stable and independent in their lives, because at least then there's a chance of a future together. (The 25 in the title was an arbitrary figure; take it with a pinch of salt). Before-Uni relationships very very rarely work out. So why put yourself through all that effort?
(And finally, before anyone says I'm saying this because I'm bitter, I'm not. I've been in a few relationships; with people I've properly clicked with, and ended them because I hated the commitment; realising how many hours it was taking out of my life, and for what?)
So answer me this TSR, why do people invest so much time, effort, emotion and money into something that invariably is going to end in tears anyway?
I know this is a controversial opinion, but I feel I've given reasonable enough reasons to show why I don't think it's a ridiculous standpoint.

How is it naive?

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Divorce can happen for any number of legitimate reasons, especially when people marry young.


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Yes and sometimes it can be sorted and divorce avoided. And why with young marriages in particular?

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You said there was no reason why people should divorce...

People who get married in their teens and early twenties are far more likely to make a mistake.


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I was in a relationship from 18-20 whilst I was at uni. It failed, but I learned a huge amount from it, about compromise, fighting for what you believe in and making sacrifices.

Ive now been in a relationship from 22-24. I own a house with my partner. I manage a shop and a team of 8 people. I have a decent income. Without my previous relationship I would have made far more mistakes in this one. This relationship hasnt stopped me from achieving anything, it has only helped mw to prosper. Why on earth would a relationship have to be a negative.

Yes priorities change, but changing directions dont always mean bad changes.
Are you in a relationship yet ?
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One friend's parents have been together since he was 17 and she was 15 and they are married with two children and very happy. Another friend's parents got married when they were both 18 and are still very happy. I personally have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we are both under 25

And are you guys still together

And are you guys still together