Stay at home mums have the hardest job and here's why.

I did, but I didn't get what you meant But I do agree it's offensive to state working women don't care about their kids, I just have sympathy with red one because when I've mentioned it on here, I've been attacked, as have others, so it gets annoying

Does it have anything to do with you being a hypocrite? If you're going to be holier than thou at least have the decency not to display a flagrant double standard in your ostensible self-serving righteousness. You know what's funny Lucaf said the same thing in a more implicit manner yet you haven't quoted him why is that?

Running a house is a job. And spending time with your kids, taking them places, supporting them.

I'd have been very upset if my mum worked full time in my teens. I'm 19 nearly 20 now

I only made this thread since most people on this forum, as Tyrion Lannister mentioned earlier, are career oriented which is expected from a student forum however that doesn't allow you to dismiss stay-at-home mums as "scroungers" when there's a mutual spousal understanding in place.

"I do actually agree quite strongly with this. If one partner earns enough to comfortably support a family, there is no NEED for the other partner to work. If they do decide to work they are trading time with the kids for more money, which while not necessarily a bad thing I can sympathise with parents who are loathe to do that."

Because...that's much less of a personal attack than your post, totally different league.

People get too emotionally involved in **** like this, hence people claiming "but mummy loved me moar" and what ever other BS is among these pages. How people raise their kids is up to them, I don't think you can really rule that stay at home or none stay at home mum results in dysfunctional children in either case, plenty of folks have stay at home mums, plenty (I'd assume the majority) don't. You get weirdos/psychopaths from both, you get perfectly functional lovely people from both.

Too much drama in this thread, though just to cause you abject rage before I peruse other threads, I will disagree with the original premise of the thread and state I do not believe it is the hardest job in the world bar some extreme examples, though you could likely counter with another extreme line of employment.


...also my cat turned on my printer AGAIN...what does it want to print?

Running a house is a job. And spending time with your kids, taking them places, supporting them.

I'd have been very upset if my mum worked full time in my teens. I'm 19 nearly 20 now

Running a house is something you have to do whether or not you already have a job. As somebody else said, once the kids are in school that is six or seven hours a day for cleaning, shopping etcetera... Which are things you would still need to do if you have a job. As for spending time with your kids, again if they are already out of the house at school there is only a big difference on holidays, and once the kids can entertain themselves it is not even that necessary.

In the end different families make it work in different ways. My mum went full time as soon as my brothers and I were all in school, but she was a teacher so that meant she was only working when we were already out. Other parents might not work such convenient hours so I can understand why they might decide to stay at home or work part time. I just whole heartedly disagree that being a stay at home parent for teenagers who are out of the house most of the day, able to sort themselves out when they are home and help with the housework themselves is in any way comparable in difficulty than an actual job, let alone that it is the hardest one. I am not judging stay at home parents, and there should be no obligation for both parents to work if one can support the family alone, but that doesn't make it difficult.

Yes it's this post and I actually bolded the part which I thought was more offensive than my own post which you found harsh. Telling someone that they're trading time they could care and love their kids for $$$$ and the bottom line is not harsh?

That is you. As an African child, I can happily say I am happy my mum works. Only Africans/Asians understand the struggle of being called from upstairs to bring the remote that is on the table opposite them. I need a break. Not everyone wants to be suffocated by their mummy

Many of you ridiculed me for a recent thread I made where I mentioned that being a housewife and full time mum was hard.

Here's a video to prove it.

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I agree, my issue was with a person who claims to be a feminist but has massive problems with women choosing to be traditionally feminine. People like her give feminism a bad name

Yes it's this post and I actually bolded the part which I thought was more offensive than my own post which you found harsh. Telling someone that they're trading time they could care and love their kids for $$$$ and the bottom line is not harsh?

More that he balances it saying it's not necessarily a bad thing, I assume his point being that depending on financial circumstances although not ideal, it may be in the better interests of the family to "trade" what could be time spent with kids to bring more money into the family budget. Also your post seemed a little more personal in its approach and seemed to push the parent must chose work for themselves, not that they feel they provide better for their children by bringing in more money/creating more opportunities. That said, I missed where you said earning more money isn't necessarily wrong, so apologies for that.

Anyhow too much heat on this thread, despite my jumping in post I don't like confrontation very much, I think it struck a nerve or something, makes me think voices are raised even though its in text on a forum haha, arguments IRL make me cry cos I'm beta, so I'm gonna go find a thread about unicorns or something.

I suppose she's probably a bit extreme or old fashioned, in that originally I suppose the push was away from staying at home and trying to force equality in male dominated worlds (offices and such), so those among them who liked to stay at home and be a housewife would be looked upon with scorn. Though the point now is the choice is here, a woman can chose a career or to stay at home and there's not that much in the way of boundaries realistically.

I'm sure if your mum was at stay-at-home things would've been different.

Yeah I support choice. I don't agree with pushing equality, I agree with allowing people to choose what they want. If 100% of women chose not to work, that would be fine.

What?

You'll open a can of worms with me on this one, but I'd argue that if you can't say no and your parents are too lazy to get it themselves, that's your problem.

And it's not being suffocated having parents that spend time with you

But you can do it better if you have time. It's like saying someone finishing work at 10pm and someone finishing at 6pm both need to eat. They do, but the person coming in at 6 could make a much better, nicer meal than the person coming in at 10

I mentioned this on another thread
school finishes at 3, full time work finishes later. You can have that time.
When your child is a teenager, with free periods in GCSE and 6th form, you can do stuff with them then
Again I disagree. I've always done stuff with my mum, still do. I can't stand people who "leave kids to entertain themselves"


I think it depends on the family and the circumstance. Someone could have a really easy child, someone else could have a difficult one. You can't really say