Girls or boys? Who pays?

I have read every single post in this thread and I'm actually embarssed to find the amount of POOR and BROKE boys on here. Boys who are even willing to let a girl pay for them on the first date.

im a girl and I've seen some of these posts and it's quite frank that many of these girls are jealous of the Op. I am too, my boyfriend is similar but just not as good. He used to pay for everything but recently pays for nothing, he's started being broke, he sounds like most of you men here,
Some of you sound angry and bitter, but truth is, your life is probably ****, you can't even afford to pa for a girl when you go out, someone said they ALways spilt,

I thought my boyfriend was bad but after seeing this I'm glad I've got mine.


Op. I think you're lucky but maybe pay for some things more. Although y our ratio is pretty fair tbh more than I pay anyway,

Technically him since he's the one working and I contribute with my student finance until I graduate and I'm a full time wife and mum. But he's always insisted that it's both our money (we have a joint account plus I have access to his personal account) so I guess both of us?

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You plan on graduating to a life of full time "mum" ?

Oh my, you're so butt-hurt it's ridiculously hilarious
She just has a bf any girl would wish to have and good for her!

I just hate this mentality. It's lazy & obnoxious. My GF doesn't suffer from such idiocy

But why. If a guy asks me out on a date I'd expect him to pay for it; just how it happened with me and my bf on our first date...
However, if OP's bf doesn't mind being the 'payer' beyond first date - then can I blame OP?
Nope, good for them both tbh.

No it's not that he "doesn't mind" paying. It's that she expects it & wouldn't entertain any other scenario. She'd dump her bf if he suddenly became unable to continue paying her way.

That, my friend, is dick behaviour.

Don't jump to conclusions. I wouldn't dump my boyfriend is he couldn't continue, we've been together for two years, he paid for everything for the first year so I would be more than happy to take over until he could continue, but the case is, I'm a very lucky girl and my boyfriend will always be able to continue paying my way.

OK, but that's not really what you've been saying - you've said things like - I wouldn't go out with a guy if he couldn't pay for me, a man should be paying, etc, etc.

If your thread was "Am I lucky that my boyfriend pays for me" then the answer would be yes.

But since your thread has been like reading something posted by a 1920's housewife who expects everything paid for her... You've come across as a bit of a dick.

You couldn't even answer my question - "what is the purpose of your existence, what do you bring to the table", instead calling me confused.

It's a simple question - I can see what's in the relationship for you - money. But what's in it for your boyfriend since you don't help pay anything, don't help around the house & don't even have sex?

Why is he with you?

OK, but that's not really what you've been saying - you've said things like - I wouldn't go out with a guy if he couldn't pay for me, a man should be paying, etc, etc.

If your thread was "Am I lucky that my boyfriend pays for me" then the answer would be yes.

But since your thread has been like reading something posted by a 1920's housewife who expects everything paid for her... You've come across as a bit of a dick.

You couldn't even answer my question - "what is the purpose of your existence, what do you bring to the table", instead calling me confused.

It's a simple question - I can see what's in the relationship for you - money. But what's in it for your boyfriend since you don't help pay anything, don't help around the house & don't even have sex?

Why is he with you?

He is with me because he loves me, I'm sorry if that's bit a good enough answer for you, but it's good enough for him.

IMO self-respecting men should pay for his girl. Why should we have to diminish every convention? It's a chivalrous act to pay, so why not (unless you have serious financial issues). And quite frankly it shows that you're doing good for yourself, why wouldn't women like that?
Also, if we don't **** about with dinner etiquette, why should we **** around with dating etiquette. Some of the responses here are tragic tbh.

Men (or women) should not do anything simply because society says so. However, they may still choose to do it because they want to, for other reasons.


"self-respecting men should pay for his girl"

Yeah, and the women should do all the cooking and cleaning!

I have read every single post in this thread and I'm actually embarssed to find the amount of POOR and BROKE boys on here. Boys who are even willing to let a girl pay for them on the first date.

im a girl and I've seen some of these posts and it's quite frank that many of these girls are jealous of the Op. I am too, my boyfriend is similar but just not as good. He used to pay for everything but recently pays for nothing, he's started being broke, he sounds like most of you men here,
Some of you sound angry and bitter, but truth is, your life is probably ****, you can't even afford to pa for a girl when you go out, someone said they ALways spilt,

I thought my boyfriend was bad but after seeing this I'm glad I've got mine.


Op. I think you're lucky but maybe pay for some things more. Although y our ratio is pretty fair tbh more than I pay anyway,

I did put in the sentence about etiquette for a reason. Paying can give a good impression especially for a first date. If you don't care about that then go ahead and tell her to split it like a nonce. I think you've took a premature gist of my post and went butt sore about 'muh society!' So I'm not going to bother re-emphasizing what I've just said.

You should pay for your own things.

I don't even accept birthday gifts from girls.

Lol. No offence but you're ugly! No girl probably would even give you the date and opportunity to pay for them.

OK, but that's not really what you've been saying - you've said things like - I wouldn't go out with a guy if he couldn't pay for me, a man should be paying, etc, etc.

If your thread was "Am I lucky that my boyfriend pays for me" then the answer would be yes.

But since your thread has been like reading something posted by a 1920's housewife who expects everything paid for her... You've come across as a bit of a dick.

You couldn't even answer my question - "what is the purpose of your existence, what do you bring to the table", instead calling me confused.

It's a simple question - I can see what's in the relationship for you - money. But what's in it for your boyfriend since you don't help pay anything, don't help around the house & don't even have sex?

Why is he with you?