Stay at home mums have the hardest job and here's why.

Haha, i know so many Africans and Caribbeans who got the beatings when they were younger, and they would talk about it like its normal, because it essentially is pretty normal, its how some cultures demonstrate respect. These guys dont ring up childline afterwards whimping over how his mum gave him a backhand. He takes it in his stride and jokes about it.

Exactly . If you even try bring it up your fxxed

pretty sure the last time my friend brought it up he got in trouble more

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Absolutely agree with this. Having been raised in a career orientated family, I recently had to admit to myself that actually I want to be a stay at home mum for few years. Not easy since society seems to embedd in everyone's mind that there is something very wrong with being a stay at home wife and mum.



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Being a working single parent is harder than being a stay-at-home one, no matter what rubbish an insipid advert tries to put out.

You don't have to worry about bills, or payments, or earning enough money. You don't have to worry about spending enough time with your children. You don't have to take on all the responsibilities single-handedly, and if things go wrong you have someone else there to support and rely on.

Stay at home mothers are some of the biggest drama queens I've ever come across, and their marching battle to be seen as having a job "harder than yours!" is bordering on pathetic.

Agreed. There's a huge amount of judgement, from people with jobs for the fact you're not working, my mum's had a lot of stick for staying at home to look after us. But we turned out pretty well so she must've done something right And then there's a huge amount of judgement from other mums because clearly everyone else is bringing up their child wrong. The whole thing almost makes me not want to be a parent.

I don't think being a stay-at-home mum is the hardest job, but then a lot of things aren't the hardest jobs. Lots of jobs are incredibly difficult and even if they're not, many of them still deserve respect. Why do we have to rank things all the time?

Top, top post. Its weird to agree with you

It's like colluding with your arch nemesis, isn't it?

I was thinking for childcare, if both are working full time you'll have to pay childcare

Also what's the point? Why have kid to send them to a school to bring them up?

Yeah, but if you're middle class (and let's be honest most on TSR are) the wage will probably cover it, though ironically most graduate employers offer childcare vouchers.

I haven't asked them, they're my parents' friends, be a bit awkward! The kids are at Eton and Wycombe Abbey, given they live outside London I'd guess it will be partly an educational decision, that particular type of education is only really available as a boarder unless you're in London with access to Westminster/Paul's/NCLS and so on or happen by chance to live near somewhere like Eton or Charterhouse. In terms of why have them, so far as I can tell they still love them and having kids still brings them great joy, the kids are reasonably well adjusted, he's a bit cocky, but it kind of goes with the OE territory and she's evaded the traditional high achieving all girls' boarding school eating disorder. Also, got to have someone to give the whacking inheritance to.

It's okay but you can't go around claiming its the hardest job like the OP is

Being a working single parent is harder than being a stay-at-home one, no matter what rubbish an insipid advert tries to put out.

You don't have to worry about bills, or payments, or earning enough money. You don't have to worry about spending enough time with your children. You don't have to take on all the responsibilities single-handedly, and if things go wrong you have someone else there to support and rely on.

Stay at home mothers are some of the biggest drama queens I've ever come across, and their marching battle to be seen as having a job "harder than yours!" is bordering on pathetic.

I dunno, I think it's weird to have kids and then send them away. You have no control over their upbringing, you inflict horrible food and no home on them, push them away. It's horrible

If looking after a few kids at home is the hardest job in the world, those nursery assistants are like gods/goddesses amongst mere mortals.

Well you can choose what school they go to, given these schools have been pumping kids out for the best part of 3 centuries in many cases you can take a pretty good guess what you're going to get the other end, an Etonian for example is usually a very different kind of boy, and man, to someone who went to Winchester or, even more so, Bedales. The food's generally pretty sexy these days, unless it's Winchester for some reason, and they get their own room, you don't pay 30 odd k a year for nothing. In terms of having a home, I think many feel the school is their home, in the same way many uni students will feel their uni town is their home whilst they're there.

Key thing though is I guess the education and opportunities. I don't particularly like independent schooling, but somewhere like Eton has fantastic teachers (because they pay them a lot); small class sizes; an Oxbridge hit rate which most schools would happily take as their overall universty acceptances; mindboggling facilities; endless extracurriculars; and, if worst comes to the worst and your child manages to cock up in spite of all this, an old boy network which can see them right through life.

I have issues with people who are full time stay at home parents through the kids childhood and teenage years. First few years? I get it, I even admire it. After that? I think its just laziness tbh, but hey, to each their own. I could never be with someone who wanted to a stay at home mum/housewife forever. I

It's like sending your kids to a production line

Again that depends how you define success, I personally don't care for oxford rate, grades or an old boys network, in fact that would put me off immensely

I tried to argue the same thing with Tyrion a while back and got a torrent of abuse.