i don't understand the logic of.self acceptance

From the way the thread has gone, I'm taking it the problem now is that you have little to no friends. I completely understand as I myself have no true friend apart from my beloved girlfriend. However the way to make friends is not to post in places like this. Instead think of something that you personally really enjoy and find a forum where you can talk and make friends. I know for a fact that you might not make any friends, and sure maybe you will graduate and there might not be anyone in your life right now. I felt the exact same way about 2 years ago when I was bullied to the point not even my parents would help me. Problem is life is all about balance. Right now your life might well suck, but I can promise you that at some point life will balance it back out.

If you want to talk feel free to message me~

Thanks man. In balance as said on my other (more important yet ignored?) thread, I'm really effing lonely at uni. Elsewhere less so but it still gets me down

Riku, you need to get over this one girl. This isn't the fifth time this has happened to you. It's the first. If you are so fond of being logical then you should know that this one experience does not provide enough data to see a pattern or draw any conclusions from. If she did ignore you a lot and paid more attention to this other guy then she was not being a very good girlfriend.

Look Riku, you are probably not as unattractive and unlovable as you seem to think you are. I have a sister who behaves almost exactly like you. She's basically an older female version of 'Riku'. She is still obsessing over this guy that broke up with her around a year ago. She seem to think that she has all these flaws that I have, personally never noticed. She thinks that she is ugly, stupid, not good enough and is constantly comparing herself to someone or another. It's freaking annoying. I'm sure that, just like my sister, you are also exaggerating all these perceived flaws. I had never noticed half the stuff she blabs about till she, herself, drew attention to those things. Contrary to what you might think, Riku, the world is not constantly watching your every move, trying to see you slip up or do something stupid and laugh at you.

Ignored might be the wrong word, unseen might be a better one. As someone without friends at school my advise would be to enjoy it, most people get bombarded with friends and it seems to be rather annoying to me.

Fourth actually. The first girl rejected me cos I was fat (Year 6) the second didn't stay for a second date and dumped me over MSN (Year 10) the third came out shortly after ending it with me we met each other twice in 6 weeks (Year 11) and this is the first girl I have dated after my parents divorcing at the end of Year 11. She left me due mostly circumstances but maybe someone else, it's hard to tell

I don't think my flaws are massive but TSR would beg to differ :-S
I am paranoid of people though

No the first three don't count as they were never your girlfriends, you had 0 dates with the first one, 1 with the second and 2 with the third.

I've had three girlfriends, lasting 4-5 months, 3 months and 3 years+(!) respectively, plus a few rejections in the past, but in light of the length of my current relationship even the two other girlfriends don't seem like they properly counted, let alone the rejections.

But having no friends is a recipe for disaster with a semi depressed person. It confirms the fear you're flawed and inlikable

Your posts have gotten more and more pitiful as the months have gone on, it used to be you were just insecure about your appearance and wanted some advice on improving it and stuff like that which is pretty normal, down to posts like this and the other one you wrote were you were ridiculously paranoid your dad was buying granola to lower your testosterone.

Ok...but ths is the only girl I successfully managed to get to obviously fancy me as early as Year 10, and my Year 16 self has to **** it up?! Talk about regression

Having no friends is a choice of yourself. If you want friends then you can go out and you can make friends. It's not that hard, and if for some reason you can't make any in one place, try another and another until you get some. There is nothing to fear about being flawed, nothing is perfect even the Vulcans you mentioned are flawed because they feel no emotion, even Spock is flawed for being a mortal. Enjoy your flaws they're what make you you.

Or you're just incompatible with the people on your course? I don't like most of the people on my course, but that's not to say there's anything wrong with them or me. There might be a lot wrong with all of us but I can't call them friends because we're so different.
Also, what does it matter? What does it really matter? What happens now/in university will not be the same for the rest of your life. Not having friends now doesn't mean you never will, it means you don't have friends for now. Eventually you WILL get a job and then you can go from there, befriending the people you work with.
Also your earlier comment of "I don't want to be an unemployed, broke, alcoholic, weed smoking bum on the dole like my old school friend I had to escape from because I couldn't help him" is all down to you. Unemployment and financial situation is mostly within your control, it's up to you to get a job. You seem to worry that you won't but most graduates share that worry. Being an alcoholic weed smoker is completely within your control. Just don't start, it's not likely for you to become addicted if you don't start.

Relationships break up and people stop fancying each other, that's not regression, it's natural.

What causes a man to go out with a girl that crushed on him in school, when she's now approaching her twenties? What has happened to me?

Because having flaws is normal.

I don't agree with the concept of people having "flaws". I think that flaws occur when you have one universal idea of perfection that everyone strives to be. In that case you will have some people closer to the generalised concept of perfection than others which evokes the idea of flaws in those who lesser achieve perfection. However, this argument doesn't necessarily apply to us. Because, we are all different, in physical and mental traits. The idea of being a perfect human being is irrational seeming as perfection is different in almost everyone's eyes. What someone may see as perfect may be the complete opposite for someone else. This is just my view on things, what do you guys think?

I realise that by the notion of perfect you are referring to fine-tuning as time progresses, which is realistic and I totally agree with what you are saying, everyone should strive to improve but reality is not many do.. neglect those because most people that end up in the top are people that continuously and ruthlessly improve themselves. You need to change your lifestyle, little by little. It won't change overnight as you rightly mentioned but if you just don't do anything about it.. then expect to nothing to happen. The important lessons though is that you do it for yourself and not for anyone else. The best thing you can do while you are still in university is to join societies, you will make many friends that way.

Well I assume you were attracted to her and she was a realistic prospect, what's unmanly about that?