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Original post by jennaz77
Females across all races generally do not approach men. We are talking about the issue between black women and white men.


The issue of approaching is linked in with that. How do those white guys know you like them if you don't go over and say hi and flirt? That's what guys do. Yes, we're expected to do it, but the girl a guy likes wouldn't know he was into her if he didn't make a move. So, instead of thinking there's a catch 22 situation where white guys avoid black girls because they falsely believe they aren't attractive to said girls, why not fix that by making it KNOWN that you're attracted?
Original post by DanB1991
Haha plenty do... lets just say however.... stereo-typically black women have little to no interest in white men.... and white men know this.

It's not that white guys generally are not attracted to black girls, just most think there's no point trying. Sometimes they're right, sometimes they're wrong.

As a black girl myself, i couldn't fit the stereotype you're portraying less, even if i tried. I genuinely have little interest in black men. I don't know, however my parents are accepting of whoever i date because in the end it is my choice. White guys, don't be afraid of approaching a black girl once in a while :')
Original post by Sarrah17
As a black girl myself, i couldn't fit the stereotype you're portraying less, even if i tried. I genuinely have little interest in black men. I don't know, however my parents are accepting of whoever i date because in the end it is my choice. White guys, don't be afraid of approaching a black girl once in a while :')


I'm quite frankly surprised with the amount of people saying black girls "are" interested in white guys.

Tbh my experiences at uni so far (bar one rather controversial exception) has kind of encouraged the stereotype. It's obvious to anyone though it's a bit of over the top stereotype based on the fact a stereotypical white guy will think black girls will not like them because.... well everyone hates white males... it's almost as if it's the last group in our society it's 'okay' to hate :P
Original post by DanB1991
I'm quite frankly surprised with the amount of people saying black girls "are" interested in white guys.

Tbh my experiences at uni so far (bar one rather controversial exception) has kind of encouraged the stereotype. It's obvious to anyone though it's a bit of over the top stereotype based on the fact a stereotypical white guy will think black girls will not like them because.... well everyone hates white males... it's almost as if it's the last group in our society it's 'okay' to hate :P


'everyone hates white males'

I know you're exaggerating, but it's not even founded on a shred of truth.
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Some like black girls, some don't. Likewise some black girls like white guys, some don't. I know many black girls in relationships with white guys and surprisingly they're dark-skinned too.
Original post by Anonymous Coward
'everyone hates white males'

I know you're exaggerating, but it's not even founded on a shred of truth.


Haha obviously as you stated it's an exaggeration, however it is generalised view of how white males are taught.

Ethnic minorities will not like you because your white and they see you as an oppressor...

Women (or feminist's?) will not like you because your a male and they see you as an oppressor...

Sorry I'm tired, so may not be making complete sense, but I've reading and looking at feminist and anti-feminist academic work for an exam on Tuesday! lol
Oh my gosh I always thought that white guys were just so intimidated by black girls, trust me, we are not all the same! :smile:


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Original post by Fruli
I know white guys generally aren't attracted to black girls but I wondered, Is there a certain type of white guy that appreciates black girls?


Yes, I want me a minstrel.
It's a real shame so many white fellers are hesitant to approach black girls.

Black girls and white guys - usually unaware of their potential together.
I like white men :smile: anyhoo the stereotype about the loudness thingy might be why, but we're not all that way, also the fact that some families won't accept it, I can only speak for myself but my parents really don't care they'll judge the individual his race is irreverent :smile:
Reply 30
I see black girls with white guys all time, it's not that uncommon. I don't really see the point of these kind of threads. The general consensus is usually "some do, some don't"
It depends on the guy and the girl. I can't speak for every black girl, but I'm attracted to white guys and I've found that white guys are attracted to me but I have to make it known that I'm attracted to them. idk, I think it's that chicken+egg thing
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Original post by thechemistress
You're right on racial prejudices from family, they tend to be a bit backward. However, not so much on cultural differences. In my case, I was born in England and raised in England by parents who were also born and raised in England. This is the same with a lot of other black girls in England, and they're pretty much British so I don't see where the cultural differences would be?


If that's the case then there there probably wouldn't be any, but I've never actually met a black girl who considers herself British and whose parents consider themselves British. :s-smilie:
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Original post by DanB1991
well everyone hates white males... it's almost as if it's the last group in our society it's 'okay' to hate :P

I'd say most girls wouldn't mind a white boyfriend. Western societies are tailored to white males with media culture and everything.

I talk to a lot of girls in very personal levels and they don't judge a guy based on their race but on how they coordinate themselves.

Perception is a dangerous thing.
Original post by CJKay
If that's the case then there there probably wouldn't be any, but I've never actually met a black girl who considers herself British and whose parents consider themselves British. :s-smilie:


Well, now you have. Are you sure? I've met a lot of them xD
Original post by stargirl63
On average black girls tend to go for guys who would be accepted in their family as well. I know a few girls who wouldn't ever date a white guy because firstly he's white so "how would he know anything about anything we are interested in" and secondly their parents would probably laugh him out of their house. I know a Nigerian girl who dated a Vietnamese guy and she had to end it with him , because her parents didn't accept him - even though both were British.

Also a lot of black girls have already been with a black guy before - so once you go black...etc etc. I'm mixed and I don't particularly find white guys attractive, although there have been a few exceptions - it's their general vibe they give off which deters me.

I've also noticed that black guys are better at handling black girls. Black girls tend to be a lot more rowdy, and I know a lot of white guys who would easily back down, given a confrontation with the "single ladies" head movement ting. :rolleyes:

i agree on you on that. i am mixed with white, black and indian. i never dated a white girl before, because to me they dont look pretty or good looking, but i am more into mixed girl and black girls, but like i said it depend on the person. i live in Jamaica, most people say i am black but living in light skin body. i guess most mixed people wouldnt date white person. i agree on you with that. :colondollar:
Reply 36
Original post by Monster Mnch
I feel like people are letting society dictate their actions. I'm in an interracial relationship, and it's opened up my mind about my areas I probably wouldn't have encountered had I been in a "same-colour" relationship. It also comes from my parents as well (my mum's from Samoa, dad's from Aylesbury), and that's worked out well so it just stems down to me.

I understand the parents problem, but this is your life, not theirs. Do what you want to do.


Awesome.

Your mom must have missed her home though. Do you resemble closer to your mom or dad?
Original post by stargirl63
On average black girls tend to go for guys who would be accepted in their family as well. I know a few girls who wouldn't ever date a white guy because firstly he's white so "how would he know anything about anything we are interested in" and secondly their parents would probably laugh him out of their house. I know a Nigerian girl who dated a Vietnamese guy and she had to end it with him , because her parents didn't accept him - even though both were British.

Also a lot of black girls have already been with a black guy before - so once you go black...etc etc. I'm mixed and I don't particularly find white guys attractive, although there have been a few exceptions - it's their general vibe they give off which deters me.

I've also noticed that black guys are better at handling black girls. Black girls tend to be a lot more rowdy, and I know a lot of white guys who would easily back down, given a confrontation with the "single ladies" head movement ting. :rolleyes:

haha naww isnt it just cute that she thinks shes some sort of a diva:biggrin:
Original post by Sarrah17
As a black girl myself, i couldn't fit the stereotype you're portraying less, even if i tried. I genuinely have little interest in black men. I don't know, however my parents are accepting of whoever i date because in the end it is my choice. White guys, don't be afraid of approaching a black girl once in a while :')

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY

well hey there...
Plenty of Black women love white men. I do for a few reasons, but I have also been socialised to think that white men have all these horrendous stereotyped attitudes about black women or worse, I am scared of being fetishised for my ethnicity rather than who I am as a person.

It's really irritating when some white guys try to predict my tastes in food and music. It's alarm bells and off I go if Hip Hop, RnB or anything to do with chicken is mentioned. Rude.

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