I have no social life :(

Basically, someone needed to go to hospital due to drink. No one bothered contacting me, no one answered my calls, and I was just left in the middle of town on my own. I waited around for 2 hours. I walked around to the harbour, and just sat there on my own and I'm not someone who does this, but I got teary.

Buy some beers and drink them at home one night. Then drinking will not be as intimidating as you know what to expect.



I can emphasize with that. That is one of my fears :/ I only like getting properly drunk where I know where I am and can easily get home or to a friends place.

I'm 21. I graduated from University last year. I went to a local one. I went out a lot with them - like days out, we all had a good laugh etc, but since it's ended, they've all gone back to live wherever else and I've not really got anyone to socialise with.

I work, but I just feel my life is too much work and not enough socialising. I basically don't go out anywhere. Sometimes at work, they all arrange a meal which I've always enjoyed, but I want to go out more. The younger lot there (all my age) invited me out on the night.

I'm a young 21 year old. People still think i'm 17! I've never touched more than a drop of alcohol, and I've always been afraid to go out. Basically because I just feel really young compared to everyone else, and I'm not used to drinking and I just felt nervous about it. They said they'd take care of me (it was a bunch of girls/guys from work). Basically, someone needed to go to hospital due to drink. No one bothered contacting me, no one answered my calls, and I was just left in the middle of town on my own. I waited around for 2 hours. I walked around to the harbour, and just sat there on my own and I'm not someone who does this, but I got teary.

I go out a lot with my camera, or on my bike, but due to people's distances from where I live, different shifts, and because not many people I know cycle, I'm always out on my own and I hate it. I want to be able to go out with people.

I get called attractive. But i'm too shy. I've never had a girlfriend. I just feel so lonely. When i'm out, I see couples walking along holding hands and stuff and I just think "I want to be like that". I've never been a confident person. What can I do? I've been invited out again by the work lot, but I just feel too worried about it all. thanks! x

explains everything.

No it doesn't.

Sadly it does. There are two common reasons why someone might struggle to maintain a social life, either because they are weird or because they don't drink. Assuming OP is not weird, this is the reason he has no friends.

There are plenty of ways to make friends that doesn't involve drugs. Also plenty of things to do as well.

My dad hasn't drank alcohol in donkey's years. Yet he is always going out rock climbing and other related activities with friends.

You may not be able to socialize without a pint in your hand but that doesn't mean no one else can.

he didn't say drugs LOL. OP have faith, go out to a party and get hammered. Will be the best night of your life, then you will make friends

There are plenty of ways to make friends that doesn't involve drugs. Also plenty of things to do as well.

My dad hasn't drank alcohol in donkey's years. Yet he is always going out rock climbing and other related activities with friends.

You may not be able to socialize without a pint in your hand but that doesn't mean no one else can.

We're not talking about me, we're talking about the OP.

Your advice is therefore not only incorrect but also deeply unhelpful.

Some people say alcohol's a drug. Its not a drug, its a drink.

Sadly it does. There are two common reasons why someone might struggle to maintain a social life, either because they are weird or because they don't drink. Assuming OP is not weird, this is the reason he has no friends.

There are plenty of ways to make friends that doesn't involve drugs. Also plenty of things to do as well.

My dad hasn't drank alcohol in donkey's years. Yet he is always going out rock climbing and other related activities with friends.

You may not be able to socialize without a pint in your hand but that doesn't mean no one else can.

My point is that whilst leaning to drink would be one way OP could make friends it isn't the only way (which is what you are saying).

Alcohol is a drug. A drug can be consumed via drinking it in a liquid

The word "drug" is normally used causally to describe an illegal drug. Alcohol is not normally refereed to as a drug but it is one by the scientific definition of a drug. Ethanol is a psychoactive drug.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethanol
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychoactive_drug

Alcohol is a drug with all the pros and negatives it has.

Those friends I had at Uni never went out getting drunk. If they drank, they only had a quiet drink. Not the night clubbing sort. Also, I went out with 2 from school recently (a guy & a girl). We went for a meal, they had a cocktail/beer. I had cola. They said to me if I didn't want to have a drink, they wouldn't pressurise me to.

I can be a shy person, but I can be funny. You don't need to have alcohol to have a good time.

Of course not. You're completely right.

But its simply an amazing coincidence the amount of people who don't drink and then complain about their social life, isn't it? What an amazing coincidence. Really amazing.

I always worry a lot about things. It's probably because when you're so pissed out your head, you won't be able to worry. That's why people who drink are less likely to have these problems.

Congratulations, you are figuring out how it works. So what are you going to do about it?

If you are worrying about something in life, you should sort it. You don't drink alcohol to forget about it for the evening.