My girlfriend doesn't trust me one bit

Title says what it is. Only young but this is the first 'real' relationship I've ever had. If you lovely guys and girls could give me some advice to some way of building up trust again - that would be brilliant. I can't even talk to another girl without her saying I'm flirting. We've been together for 7 months and I love her, she just doesn't trust me.

Any help is appreciated
-H

Reply 1

meenu89

19

Original post by harrybarnett

Title says what it is. Only young but this is the first 'real' relationship I've ever had. If you lovely guys and girls could give me some advice to some way of building up trust again - that would be brilliant. I can't even talk to another girl without her saying I'm flirting. We've been together for 7 months and I love her, she just doesn't trust me.

Any help is appreciated
-H

How on earth is she with you if she can't trust you?

Reply 2

donutaud15

22

Did you ask her why she feels that way?

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Reply 3

harrybarnett

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Original post by meenu89

How on earth is she with you if she can't trust you?

Honestly don't know

Original post by donutaud15

Did you ask her why she feels that way?

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I tried but all she says is 'leave me alone' or she says 'because all you do is talk to other girls' (which I don't)

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Reply 4

XMaramena

22

....how old are you guys?

Might just be the hormones making her a bit loopy dude

Reply 5

harrybarnett

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Original post by XMaramena

....how old are you guys?

Might just be the hormones making her a bit loopy dude

We're both 15

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Reply 6

donutaud15

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Original post by harrybarnett

Honestly don't know

You'll have to tell her that if she doesn't talk about it then you're relationship might not work. It can't go on with her being unreasonable surely?

I am a bit the same to your gf but my husband knows why and he makes sure I don't have anything to be jealous about.

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Reply 7

XMaramena

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Original post by harrybarnett

We're both 15

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Yeah she's probably just on a weird bit of hormone stages. They screw with you like that, make you paranoid and irritable. Just be a good boyfriend, ride it out, it'll probably settle down soon enough.

Reply 8

harrybarnett

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Original post by XMaramena

Yeah she's probably just on a weird bit of hormone stages. They screw with you like that, make you paranoid and irritable. Just be a good boyfriend, ride it out, it'll probably settle down soon enough.

I hope it does. And I forgot to mention that this has happened twice before and we have nearly broken up once and went on a break on the second. I think this really might be it though

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Reply 9

harrybarnett

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Original post by donutaud15

You'll have to tell her that if she doesn't talk about it then you're relationship might not work. It can't go on with her being unreasonable surely?

I am a bit the same to your gf but my husband knows why and he makes sure I don't have anything to be jealous about.

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I know what you're saying but I don't know what to do. It might just end up with both of us in tears breaking up

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Reply 10

kategibson123321

Original post by harrybarnett

I know what you're saying but I don't know what to do. It might just end up with both of us in tears breaking up

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cool story

Reply 11

donutaud15

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Original post by harrybarnett

I know what you're saying but I don't know what to do. It might just end up with both of us in tears breaking up

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Well a simple conversation like that shouldn't end in tears but if it does then it maybe for the best. Carrying on the way you both are at the moment just delays the inevitable and the no one here can tell you what to do unless you speak to your gf.

Reply 12

harrybarnett

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Original post by kategibson123321

cool story

Real considerate :sigh:

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Reply 13

harrybarnett

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Original post by donutaud15

Well a simple conversation like that shouldn't end in tears but if it does then it maybe for the best. Carrying on the way you both are at the moment just delays the inevitable and the no one here can tell you what to do unless you speak to your gf.

Thanks for the great advice. Its just a pain in the ass that we go to different school and see each other once a week. When we're together we'll fine - apart and that's where the problems begin

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Reply 14

thunder_chunky

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Original post by harrybarnett

Title says what it is. Only young but this is the first 'real' relationship I've ever had. If you lovely guys and girls could give me some advice to some way of building up trust again - that would be brilliant. I can't even talk to another girl without her saying I'm flirting. We've been together for 7 months and I love her, she just doesn't trust me.

Any help is appreciated
-H

Basically, your relationship is screwed.

Reply 15

XMaramena

22

Original post by kategibson123321

cool story

wtf

Reply 16

Gonzales95

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Without intending to be cruel, this isn't a very good basis for a relationship. For me, trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship - if she can't trust you, you're ****ed. If you want the relationship to last you're going to have to try to get through to her and have a serious conversation about this because it's a big issue.