I'm jealous of my (rich?) best friend.

Get over it, life ain't fair.

why dont you get your own job? i know people will say 'oh there arent any' but i went into town today and applied for 3 where thry had job vacancies. you just have to get out there and look!

I want to, but I don't know if that's just going to me competing with her? (in this situation at least)

what? Just go and look for a job, why should it have to be anything to do with her? You obviously want money - so go earn some!

Bump.

Jealousy is the worst thing for there to be in a friendship.

Why on earth would you want to improve yourself just so she can envy you? Grow up.

I'd disagree. I think jealousy can also make for a healthy incentive-focused friendship. I have friends who are academically focused and we compete based on grades, who can earn the most money, uni spots, work. This creates that atmosphere where we're all striving to do better than the next person, although it's not to an extent where we hate each other for doing better.

There may be some sort of pride element towards our friendship. However, I think our closeness justifies the competitive nature of our friendship.

Jealous and healthy should be in the same sentence. Jealousy is followed by resentment, and from what OP has said she's actually feels discouraged to look for a job because of her jealousy.
If you're friends were jealous they would be trying to knock your grades down and make it difficult to find work. They would be giving the exact opposite of good advice. They won't focus on themselves because jealousy is a feeling towards you.

If I'm jelous of my friends achievements, instead of knocking them down, I'll strive to be better than them and that's the incentive function for you to make for a more productive environment.

No you wouldn't because jealousy is in relation to what your friend is doing, what you're doing is out of the equation. I don't know why you're trying to convince yourself there's jealousy in your relationship.

Get off your ****ing ass and get a job instead of moaning on TSR.

jealousy doesn't mean you want the person you're jealous of to rot in hell.

This is BS. If you can't tell your "best friend" that there is an issue, then you ain't really friends. This happened to me, I asked my ACTUAL FRIEND to have a little more tact, she fist bumped me and we got over it.

We are best friends, but she is quite a sensitive person. She takes offence easily and becomes defensive. That's just her personality.

Maybe talk to her a little about that then? Make clear that you don't want to offend her. Don't think I could be friend with someone I couldn't talk to openly, but I hope you guys resolve it.

Thank you! It's just in the past, for example she was copying me quite a lot, and I gently approached the subject you know saying she has great taste herself etc, and she got very annoyed and defensive. I've approached it before, like in a jokey way like "please don't send me loads of pictures of everything you're going to buy because it will make me jealous lol" and she just asks "would that really make you feel bad?" which obviously makes me feel stupid.

Thank you, as I mentioned before I feel I'm constantly surrounded by the things that make me jealous i.e her showing me everything she's bought, talking a lot about how much money she's making. How can I distance myself from her whilst still be best friends? I don't want to distance myself and upset her, when the problems not with her, it's with me.

Jealousy is the worst thing for there to be in a friendship.

Why on earth would you want to improve yourself just so she can envy you? Grow up.

We are both 16. She has got a job in shop that a family member runs. She will be making lots of money - probably over a £1000 in the summer holidays. It's making me really jealous, and I hate to admit it, but I don't feel happy for her. I do appreciate what I have, but I just feel jealous that she will be buying lots of lovely things. For example, say if there is something I really really want, she will think "oh that's nice" and buy it. Simple as. I know it's materialistic but also knowing she will want all these days out and trips as she can afford it, yet I will have to decline. Plus, I will be getting a bus pass so I can't exactly decline a shopping trip because of lack of bus fare. How can I get over this jealously of her making loads of money? I know it's really pathetic and mean, but it's made me want to do something to improve myself, just so she can envy me.

Whilst I understand you, some things are easier said than done. I want to know how not to be jealous. I hate being jealous of her for being better than me.

We are both 16. She has got a job in shop that a family member runs. She will be making lots of money - probably over a £1000 in the summer holidays. It's making me really jealous, and I hate to admit it, but I don't feel happy for her. I do appreciate what I have, but I just feel jealous that she will be buying lots of lovely things. For example, say if there is something I really really want, she will think "oh that's nice" and buy it. Simple as. I know it's materialistic but also knowing she will want all these days out and trips as she can afford it, yet I will have to decline. Plus, I will be getting a bus pass so I can't exactly decline a shopping trip because of lack of bus fare. How can I get over this jealously of her making loads of money? I know it's really pathetic and mean, but it's made me want to do something to improve myself, just so she can envy me.