I can't get sexual with girls, going to die a virgin.
So i'm male, 23 and fit and strong and healthy but still a virgin and it's really bothering me to the point where i'm losing sleep over it and behaving in a needy way with every girl i meet.
I don't have bad social anxiety like i used to, but i am very introverted. I can interact with women very well provided that they start the conversation first and/or they are at least responsive e.g. i had a meeting today and it was just me and these two fit girls and we managed to talk for over an hour about all sorts of stuff and not once did i panic or anything at all.
On the weekend i went to a carnival where there were half naked girls everywhere and i didn't even dare to approach one because i felt that everybody would just turn around and laugh at me for even going up and talking to a girl and wanting to **** her. There was a girl there who goes to my church and she looked really hot with her skirt and i wanted to go over and say hi but i felt like i'd be judged a heathen and a sexual predator for even speaking to a girl i like. I didn't enjoy it at all. Drinking doesn't help either.
Another thing is that i've been receiving counselling from some christian people and we talk about God, Jesus e.t.c. It has helped quite a bit in restoring my confidence but i disagree when they say that sex is for marriage. I do not intend in getting married as it all just ends in divorce and there's no way i wanna wait that long to finally do it. All they say is that pre marital sex is bad and you'll be punished and burn in hell forever which is chit considering that people do much worse and they seem to be fine
Ugh this problem of failing to ask girls out because of feeling ashamed of wanting love and esp the fact that other people will overhear it (even if the girl says yes) just makes me waste away so many opportunities.
I don't have bad social anxiety like i used to, but i am very introverted. I can interact with women very well provided that they start the conversation first and/or they are at least responsive e.g. i had a meeting today and it was just me and these two fit girls and we managed to talk for over an hour about all sorts of stuff and not once did i panic or anything at all.
On the weekend i went to a carnival where there were half naked girls everywhere and i didn't even dare to approach one because i felt that everybody would just turn around and laugh at me for even going up and talking to a girl and wanting to **** her. There was a girl there who goes to my church and she looked really hot with her skirt and i wanted to go over and say hi but i felt like i'd be judged a heathen and a sexual predator for even speaking to a girl i like. I didn't enjoy it at all. Drinking doesn't help either.
Another thing is that i've been receiving counselling from some christian people and we talk about God, Jesus e.t.c. It has helped quite a bit in restoring my confidence but i disagree when they say that sex is for marriage. I do not intend in getting married as it all just ends in divorce and there's no way i wanna wait that long to finally do it. All they say is that pre marital sex is bad and you'll be punished and burn in hell forever which is chit considering that people do much worse and they seem to be fine
Ugh this problem of failing to ask girls out because of feeling ashamed of wanting love and esp the fact that other people will overhear it (even if the girl says yes) just makes me waste away so many opportunities.
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Original post by Anonymous
So i'm male, 23 and fit and strong and healthy but still a virgin and it's really bothering me to the point where i'm losing sleep over it and behaving in a needy way with every girl i meet.
I don't have bad social anxiety like i used to, but i am very introverted. I can interact with women very well provided that they start the conversation first and/or they are at least responsive e.g. i had a meeting today and it was just me and these two fit girls and we managed to talk for over an hour about all sorts of stuff and not once did i panic or anything at all.
On the weekend i went to a carnival where there were half naked girls everywhere and i didn't even dare to approach one because i felt that everybody would just turn around and laugh at me for even going up and talking to a girl and wanting to **** her. There was a girl there who goes to my church and she looked really hot with her skirt and i wanted to go over and say hi but i felt like i'd be judged a heathen and a sexual predator for even speaking to a girl i like. I didn't enjoy it at all. Drinking doesn't help either.
Another thing is that i've been receiving counselling from some christian people and we talk about God, Jesus e.t.c. It has helped quite a bit in restoring my confidence but i disagree when they say that sex is for marriage. I do not intend in getting married as it all just ends in divorce and there's no way i wanna wait that long to finally do it. All they say is that pre marital sex is bad and you'll be punished and burn in hell forever which is chit considering that people do much worse and they seem to be fine
Ugh this problem of failing to ask girls out because of feeling ashamed of wanting love and esp the fact that other people will overhear it (even if the girl says yes) just makes me waste away so many opportunities.
I don't have bad social anxiety like i used to, but i am very introverted. I can interact with women very well provided that they start the conversation first and/or they are at least responsive e.g. i had a meeting today and it was just me and these two fit girls and we managed to talk for over an hour about all sorts of stuff and not once did i panic or anything at all.
On the weekend i went to a carnival where there were half naked girls everywhere and i didn't even dare to approach one because i felt that everybody would just turn around and laugh at me for even going up and talking to a girl and wanting to **** her. There was a girl there who goes to my church and she looked really hot with her skirt and i wanted to go over and say hi but i felt like i'd be judged a heathen and a sexual predator for even speaking to a girl i like. I didn't enjoy it at all. Drinking doesn't help either.
Another thing is that i've been receiving counselling from some christian people and we talk about God, Jesus e.t.c. It has helped quite a bit in restoring my confidence but i disagree when they say that sex is for marriage. I do not intend in getting married as it all just ends in divorce and there's no way i wanna wait that long to finally do it. All they say is that pre marital sex is bad and you'll be punished and burn in hell forever which is chit considering that people do much worse and they seem to be fine
Ugh this problem of failing to ask girls out because of feeling ashamed of wanting love and esp the fact that other people will overhear it (even if the girl says yes) just makes me waste away so many opportunities.
That is not going to get you laid!
Unless you plan on joining a church, talking about pre-marital sex or Heaven/Hell/God etc... is an instant turn off...
Sounds like you want to be some kind of celibate monk...
Sounds like you want to be some kind of celibate monk...
Go to america, there are horny,fit girls there that will meet ur needs
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Original post by Anonymous
So i'm male, 23 and fit and strong and healthy but still a virgin and it's really bothering me to the point where i'm losing sleep over it and behaving in a needy way with every girl i meet.
I don't have bad social anxiety like i used to, but i am very introverted. I can interact with women very well provided that they start the conversation first and/or they are at least responsive e.g. i had a meeting today and it was just me and these two fit girls and we managed to talk for over an hour about all sorts of stuff and not once did i panic or anything at all.
On the weekend i went to a carnival where there were half naked girls everywhere and i didn't even dare to approach one because i felt that everybody would just turn around and laugh at me for even going up and talking to a girl and wanting to **** her. There was a girl there who goes to my church and she looked really hot with her skirt and i wanted to go over and say hi but i felt like i'd be judged a heathen and a sexual predator for even speaking to a girl i like. I didn't enjoy it at all. Drinking doesn't help either.
Another thing is that i've been receiving counselling from some christian people and we talk about God, Jesus e.t.c. It has helped quite a bit in restoring my confidence but i disagree when they say that sex is for marriage. I do not intend in getting married as it all just ends in divorce and there's no way i wanna wait that long to finally do it. All they say is that pre marital sex is bad and you'll be punished and burn in hell forever which is chit considering that people do much worse and they seem to be fine
Ugh this problem of failing to ask girls out because of feeling ashamed of wanting love and esp the fact that other people will overhear it (even if the girl says yes) just makes me waste away so many opportunities.
I don't have bad social anxiety like i used to, but i am very introverted. I can interact with women very well provided that they start the conversation first and/or they are at least responsive e.g. i had a meeting today and it was just me and these two fit girls and we managed to talk for over an hour about all sorts of stuff and not once did i panic or anything at all.
On the weekend i went to a carnival where there were half naked girls everywhere and i didn't even dare to approach one because i felt that everybody would just turn around and laugh at me for even going up and talking to a girl and wanting to **** her. There was a girl there who goes to my church and she looked really hot with her skirt and i wanted to go over and say hi but i felt like i'd be judged a heathen and a sexual predator for even speaking to a girl i like. I didn't enjoy it at all. Drinking doesn't help either.
Another thing is that i've been receiving counselling from some christian people and we talk about God, Jesus e.t.c. It has helped quite a bit in restoring my confidence but i disagree when they say that sex is for marriage. I do not intend in getting married as it all just ends in divorce and there's no way i wanna wait that long to finally do it. All they say is that pre marital sex is bad and you'll be punished and burn in hell forever which is chit considering that people do much worse and they seem to be fine
Ugh this problem of failing to ask girls out because of feeling ashamed of wanting love and esp the fact that other people will overhear it (even if the girl says yes) just makes me waste away so many opportunities.
You know you really don't have to have sex. If sex/related stuff makes you feel uncomfortable/upset then just move on and try other things. If you can find happiness in other parts of life then you will have no need for sex.
There is nothing bad about remaining a virgin.
if it's just about having sex then just get with escorts.
Original post by King Leonidas
That is not going to get you laid!
Yeah no **** bro.
Original post by Scienceisgood
Unless you plan on joining a church, talking about pre-marital sex or Heaven/Hell/God etc... is an instant turn off...
Sounds like you want to be some kind of celibate monk...
Sounds like you want to be some kind of celibate monk...
You’ve totally missed the point. I don’t want to be a celibate monk, I want to **** loads of girls, but I can’t approach them sexually for fear of being punished by God and being seen as a creepy weirdo or being done for sexual harassment by daring to talk to girls.
Just be upfront and honest with her about what you want, you'll be surprised how many girls actually want the same as you 
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Original post by Kool_blaze
if it's just about having sex then just get with escorts.
I'm unsure about losing my v plates to an escort.
Escort?
You are destined to die a virgin with that attitude.
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Original post by james1211
What attitude? What u on about?
Original post by EatAndRevise
Escort?
Don't really wanna lose my v plates to an escort......
Heaven and hell don't really exist mate, just live by your conscience.
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Not to sound weird or obnoxious but just be yourself, literally there is someone for everyone, panicking and stresing never helped anyone, just try and sack up and get out there fella
Original post by Anonymous
So i'm male, 23 and fit and strong and healthy but still a virgin and it's really bothering me to the point where i'm losing sleep over it and behaving in a needy way with every girl i meet.
I don't have bad social anxiety like i used to, but i am very introverted. I can interact with women very well provided that they start the conversation first and/or they are at least responsive e.g. i had a meeting today and it was just me and these two fit girls and we managed to talk for over an hour about all sorts of stuff and not once did i panic or anything at all.
On the weekend i went to a carnival where there were half naked girls everywhere and i didn't even dare to approach one because i felt that everybody would just turn around and laugh at me for even going up and talking to a girl and wanting to **** her. There was a girl there who goes to my church and she looked really hot with her skirt and i wanted to go over and say hi but i felt like i'd be judged a heathen and a sexual predator for even speaking to a girl i like. I didn't enjoy it at all. Drinking doesn't help either.
Another thing is that i've been receiving counselling from some christian people and we talk about God, Jesus e.t.c. It has helped quite a bit in restoring my confidence but i disagree when they say that sex is for marriage. I do not intend in getting married as it all just ends in divorce and there's no way i wanna wait that long to finally do it. All they say is that pre marital sex is bad and you'll be punished and burn in hell forever which is chit considering that people do much worse and they seem to be fine
Ugh this problem of failing to ask girls out because of feeling ashamed of wanting love and esp the fact that other people will overhear it (even if the girl says yes) just makes me waste away so many opportunities.
I don't have bad social anxiety like i used to, but i am very introverted. I can interact with women very well provided that they start the conversation first and/or they are at least responsive e.g. i had a meeting today and it was just me and these two fit girls and we managed to talk for over an hour about all sorts of stuff and not once did i panic or anything at all.
On the weekend i went to a carnival where there were half naked girls everywhere and i didn't even dare to approach one because i felt that everybody would just turn around and laugh at me for even going up and talking to a girl and wanting to **** her. There was a girl there who goes to my church and she looked really hot with her skirt and i wanted to go over and say hi but i felt like i'd be judged a heathen and a sexual predator for even speaking to a girl i like. I didn't enjoy it at all. Drinking doesn't help either.
Another thing is that i've been receiving counselling from some christian people and we talk about God, Jesus e.t.c. It has helped quite a bit in restoring my confidence but i disagree when they say that sex is for marriage. I do not intend in getting married as it all just ends in divorce and there's no way i wanna wait that long to finally do it. All they say is that pre marital sex is bad and you'll be punished and burn in hell forever which is chit considering that people do much worse and they seem to be fine
Ugh this problem of failing to ask girls out because of feeling ashamed of wanting love and esp the fact that other people will overhear it (even if the girl says yes) just makes me waste away so many opportunities.
I'm 18 and waiting for marriage, and just speaking from my perspective if you approach me and instantly sexualise me and that is your main intention then it comes across incredibly unattractive - I get wanting the desire to have sex but if that's the primary reason you want to go up to a girl so she can not make you a virgin anymore then mate, it's not a good move. honestly, just see them as something more and you'll realise there is more out of a relationship than sex and you'll appreciate being with that girl someday more and realise sex isn't everything
Get sexual with boys then.
Original post by carrotcakejack
Not to sound weird or obnoxious but just be yourself, literally there is someone for everyone, panicking and stresing never helped anyone, just try and sack up and get out there fella
Went to an event today and asked this girl for her number but she turned me down. Although she did give me her Facebook, dunno if i should add her, she looked creeped out as i asked her for her number.
Does it matter?
Okay, so sex hasn't happened for you yet. So what? It's not as if everyone else is getting laid 24/7. I don't see the big deal with sex. 'You've had sex.' - Good for you! 'You haven't had sex.' - Good for you!
It's not like sex suddenly changes the world. You still have that essay to write in the evening. If you want to wait until you find someone special, you do that. If you don't but you still can't find sex, it doesn't matter.
Okay, so sex hasn't happened for you yet. So what? It's not as if everyone else is getting laid 24/7. I don't see the big deal with sex. 'You've had sex.' - Good for you! 'You haven't had sex.' - Good for you!
It's not like sex suddenly changes the world. You still have that essay to write in the evening. If you want to wait until you find someone special, you do that. If you don't but you still can't find sex, it doesn't matter.
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