Race dating opinions.

Sorry for your experience! Maybe she has rejection issues I don't know! I hear you. I'm urhobo, we like the drink!lol not many people know of us. We come from around the Niger Delta.

Erm That has nothing to do with the post you quoted me on

yes I know someone who is urhobo. they told me quite a bit about Niger Delta. I also know an ijaw guy from there too. I was told urhobo had something to with coming back from the colonies (although im probably bastardising that whole story so forgive me.) but yes I'm Irish we love a drink too. infact Irish and Nigerians both love guinness equally! lol

Funny cos I live in Ireland and I would be classed as Irish bcos of my dual citizenship!lol

Now before anyone starts with the - Im not picky i like anyone/race doesn't matter everyones equal, please just don't, everyone true to themselves has a conscious preference, and this here is like a survey.
1. What would be the race you like to date from the most and why
2. What would be the race you'd like to date from the least and why
3. A bit personal- Your opinion of black girls (Be totally honest, I'm hear to learn
not judge)
4. During a study i conducted i found that many people believed caucasian guys did not like dating black girls, is this true, for those that would say yes, why.

Again, this is just for the sake of understanding other peoples choices, no judging here.


To all those out there thinking this is to give black girls a confidence boost or to tear down their pride, get of your high horse, some people enjoy seeing opinions of others for the sake of learning, i am here to see the generalisations, of course i know people are different everywhere, if everyone was the same life would be boring.

If you do not approve of the thread simply don't answer it, and waste my time.
Arguments are obviously expected but try not to me immature about it please.

Thank you to all those that have given me answers to work with

tbh as much as i love black girls from time like 95 percent of black women are walking around with asian hair its definitely a self hate issue no two ways about it .
All this black hair is "hard" to maintain and "its a protective style" is a cop out.
We are the only race that does it and it is not normal behaviour.
And lets be real about things for a second,the vast vast majority of asian and white girls and other races do NOT wear weave,im taking like 90 plus percent where as near enough all black women do.
Sure if there is an important social event,a prestigious gathering of some sort then yes other races they might wear extensions but black women are the only ones walking around with asian hair like its their own.
Also when a white or other races gets extensions they are getting hair that matches their hair texture.Black women are walking around with asian hair.
We are not flipping asian.nothing about us is asian.our hair grows up not down.
Imagine if white girls started walking outside their house wearing afros.Everyone will be looking at them like are these girls actually crazy or mentally ill.This is not normal behaviour.
Its self hate

i live in a white area and am black and have dated white guys but weirdly I've never dated a black guy. i guess the type of relationship you have has something to do with the people you surround yourself with and the area you live in. I am Nigerian and i do agree that a lot of 'black girls' are quite loud and outgoing purely due to the area they live in and the people they surround themselves with but i know loads of calm and lovely friendly kind and quiet black girls who are like that mostly because they live in that type of environment/area. Guess it goes to show that not all of them are loud outgoing and scary.
i am probably more obligated to date somebody white because im not the 'typical black girl' i.e. i don't have the 'assets' of a normal black girl because im petite and most black guys dont want to date me because of that and like the typical big bum and chest and thick thighs.
there isn't anybody that i wont date i don't really get affected by the color of somebody's skin or race
for 3 ive given my opinion above ^^
and lastly i dont think that white boys dont like them i think its because there scared of them and intimidated by some of them
tbh everyone is equal in their own way and relationships shouldn't be judged by race at all but a white person and black person AS TEENAGERS can definitely work and isn't rare.

Exactly, i hate voicing it out because of all the to condemning i get but, black people come of as too racially aware, its not necessarily a bad thing sometimes but most times it makes them hostile, i mean its good to be proud of your color but i wish people didn't use it to promote separatism

This. Very few of my friends would actually care. I have a few friends who are open to dating all different races so like white guys as well as black as well as Asian but majority of the black girls I know only like black guys and wouldn't really care if white guys (specially on an internet forum) thought they weren't attractive. I think a lot of people have started viewing black girls as victims who are all seeking approval from white guys but thats really not the case. Not all of us find it hard to get guys or are struggling in this dating world, in fact most of us don't even notice that we are the 'least attractive race'. I know when I was on a night out with my friend the other day, we were continually approached by asian guys, white guys etc. If it wasn't for TSR I wouldn't even think there was an issue.

I've always had the suspicion that having weave/relaxed hair was more a thing to do with maturity. for example commonly i only ever see black children with natural hair whilst their mother often has weave/relaxed hair.

and then it seems to be around adolescence that the weave/relaxer comes in.

so i just kinda guessed that the mother acts as a role model of womanhood for girls to aspire to and so they aspire to have hair like the mom. even if the moms natural the other girls at school plus noticing all the other women will must influence them.

i seriously find it hard to believe that rubbing lemon juice on you will stop your skin producing melanin. i think your friends are just scared you'll find out their bleaching or dont want to give away what they consider to be "beauty secrets"

as for the edo girl. yea as i said she was just the one girl. lol when i told me friend (Ijaw) seemed to be like "ahhh yes... she is just pissed because they used to be very powerful and are now very small... i understand why shes angry" dunno if he's just s**t stirring or if that that kinda gossip rivalry is true tho lol

I've always wondered, why is that if a white person grows an afro/dreadlocks they're considered "cool" or "edgy", but black women wearing weave is considered "self hate"?

Yeah if they feel that looks nice, whats it got to do with you?

They might be, I still don't understand why its your business. You aren't talking about the white girls who walk around with weave, or the asian girls or anything like that. Solely focusing on the black girls. If a white girl gets extensions, its just beauty but if a black girl does it suddenly they hate themselves?

Its not a serious problem, its about as serious as the problem of make-up, or fake tan or heels or push-bras. Its just one of the many things girls do to make them look nicer. If you have problem with girls doing stuff to make themselves look better or to make themselves feel more comfortable thats another issue but don't act like black girls are all self-hating traitors.

I'm not going to lie and say black girls don't try to emulate western culture by using weaves, contouring their noses etc but I don't necessarily think that means they hate their blackness. I don't think its that big of a deal. Its like European people who try emulate Japanese culture, they think something looks nice so they do it themselves. If I think long hair looks nice and I want to have long hair, I don't see the problem? That doesn't mean I want to be white or that I hate being black, I'm just adopting part of the western image that I like. Just like how some European will wear tribal print clothes, doesn't mean that they want to be part of an African tribe, they just like tribal print so decide to wear it because they view it trendy. We all adopt stuff from eachothers cultures.

A white person growing their own real hair in to dreadlocks is not the same as black women wearing weave.

Yes dreadlocks may be of black culture however these white people are not wearing fake dreadlocks on their head its their real hair not a fake imitation which they purchased from a store.

Whereas black women are choosing to wear hair from different sources this hair is not their own they did not grow it. It either comes from horses or women from other nations usually in places like India.

How is it that you cannot see the difference? perhaps you just choose to overlook it but people with intelligence can't be fooled.

Yes it can look cool or edgy on a white person having dreadlocks and sometimes it even looks disgusting the fact is its their own actual hair.

To other posters who will argue that white women also wear weave, yes this is a fact, however, they are wearing a weave similar to their own hair texture you don't see a white woman wearing a fake afro on their heads all year round in order to look like a black woman. So your argument does not stand up because they are not wearing it to look like women from a different culture.

I can't totally blame black women I don't really understand the mental process behind wearing the weave it's never attracted me, I can only assume its a way to adapt to the western idea of beauty. Really though a person should love themselves and be happy about how they naturally look if you can't do that I question how you can love another.

Also you are passing this negative thought process down to your daughters which is wrong do you ever think of this? would you not want to stop this cycle of self hate? This weave industry is a quite a big business and the money does not even go back to your community since most of these hair companies are not owned by black businesses.

Also remember if you're telling the men in your community that this western idea of beauty is what you want to look like don't blame them when they go get themselves a real western woman with real western hair.

A white person growing their own real hair in to dreadlocks is not the same as black women wearing weave.

Yes dreadlocks may be of black culture however these white people are not wearing fake dreadlocks on their head its their real hair not a fake imitation which they purchased from a store.

Whereas black women are choosing to wear hair from different sources this hair is not their own they did not grow it. It either comes from horses or women from other nations usually in places like India.

How is it that you cannot see the difference? perhaps you just choose to overlook it but people with intelligence can't be fooled.

Yes it can look cool or edgy on a white person having dreadlocks and sometimes it even looks disgusting the fact is its their own actual hair.

To other posters who will argue that white women also wear weave, yes this is a fact, however, they are wearing a weave similar to their own hair texture you don't see a white woman wearing a fake afro on their heads all year round in order to look like a black woman. So your argument does not stand up because they are not wearing it to look like women from a different culture.

I can't totally blame black women I don't really understand the mental process behind wearing the weave it's never attracted me, I can only assume its a way to adapt to the western idea of beauty. Really though a person should love themselves and be happy about how they naturally look if you can't do that I question how you can love another.

Also you are passing this negative thought process down to your daughters which is wrong do you ever think of this? would you not want to stop this cycle of self hate? This weave industry is a quite a big business and the money does not even go back to your community since most of these hair companies are not owned by black businesses.

Also remember if you're telling the men in your community that this western idea of beauty is what you want to look like don't blame them when they go get themselves a real western woman with real western hair.

Weave is never made out of horse hair.

'Money does not even go back to your own community' - why would I care about a business owner just because they are black.

Weave is made from horse hair maybe you need to do some research and I don't expect a woman with self hate issues to care about her own community.

I think you are more aware of the way others see you then you claim this whole thread was started simply because a black girl needs approval from white guys. It's sad you black women seek the attention of white guys so much you treat them better than black guys I mean even your whole personality changes when you date white guys and this is a fact, I am not the first to say it you bring the negativity to the black men but the white guy gets all your good bits.

I also think the problem here is you are basing all your energy on your looks most of the time a person's attraction to another is not about looks look at your behaviour look at your personality and the way you treat others attraction is not simply based on the physical.

Black people are too racially aware, I am surprised you would type this nonsense Sophea you being black yourself. Of course black people would be racially aware when they have probably grown up having people judge them simply on the colour of their skin.

I don't know any black people that promote separatism as you state, than describing black people us hostile just where are you going with this ? this post was just confusing especially coming from yourself a black girl perhaps you are not totally aware of yourself maybe.

Not surprised though cause you created this whole thread for an ego boost being a self hater.