Race dating opinions.

Only child here is you a black girl with no self esteem like many other black women who needs white male approval for self worth.

To be honest as a girl you typically talk about hair, makeup, clothes and boys. As a back girl you are automatically shut off from the hair and makeup part if your friends are mostly white. Sometimes when you are young its easier to just go with the flow, relax your hair until you are mature enough to understand what really matters.

i wear my hair in braids because I am too lazy for natural hair. It spend about 6-8 hours every 2 months getting my hair done and for the rest of that time i don't touch my hair. For those who say it is easy to deal with, i would like to remind you that there are different grades of coarseness. Whilst your girlfriend may have had soft hair another may have really knotty coarse hair. Also when you wash afro hair it shrinks up to 10x its original length which means it has to be brushed out or heated to stop more knots from developing.

if i told any of you that you would only have to do your hair every 6 - 8 weeks what would you say. weave or braids doesn't make you insecure it just means you opted for an easier lifestyle which may be necessary to some or an optional benefit to others.

I totally agree with you matthewduncan and I will go further and say that I think a lot of black girls sadly maybe suffer from mass brainwashing/hypnosis.

I think the fact that the majority wear weaves is proof itself of a sort of mental disorder this in itself makes me less attracted to them because I cannot be attracted to anyone who feels their natural state is unattractive. A lot of them use the defence of it being easier to manage I think that is a big cop out these are the same people who will criticize the way a Caucasian mother of mixed raced children by mixed here I mean the child being of black and white parentage.

They will criticize the way a Caucasian mother takes care of her mixed child's hair and say she is not doing it right yet at the same time fail to see their own hypocrisy when they can't or choose not to manage their own hair and instead choose to wear weaves.

I see a lot of Caucasian mothers with mixed children and their kids' hair looks fine to me no one should try and point fingers at them especially women who have problems of their own when it comes to child rearing.

yea but ppl can make poor decisions despite their age.



i consider braids natural cause it looks like it could be your natural hair even if its extensions.



yea but not washing your hair for 2 months is kinda unhygienic.

uuum, Im sorry but I wash my hair once or twice a week. with braids in. Sorry if you didn't get that. LOL. Its with natural hair that people wash it less often because when you wash it it shrink 10x its length and its a pain to push it out again to stop HUGE knots forming. with braids you just shove some tresemme on your hair, roots and down the braids rise, repeat condition then spray with braid spray when you're done.

Its also quite sad that because I wear fake hair in a different way its seen as better even though my braids are almost waist length and is smooth so clearly isn't mine.

However I do get you points. I often have my natural hair out in between braiding and I always get at least 5 people everyday, touching my hair and talking about it like Im an alien or something. I don't really mind and as they are people I know id rather tell them about my hair than remain ignorant but some people i know feel uncomfortable when people single them out in anyway. whether it be their hair or their clothes or anything really.

Someone once said 'wtf you hair is like a sheeps hair or a bunny tail; thats so freaky' If you are the sort of person who remembers these things than you might be scared about showing you boyfriends your natural hair which could be thin, uneven, damaged or short. I don't judge because I don't know peoples circumstances but yes in some cases it can be because of insecurity.

I have no idea what you mean here by 'typical black girl' It seems to me you are comparing yourself to the stereotypical view of a black girl i.e being loud having a big bum and chest and thick thighs be clear here I am only using descriptive words you typed up. It seems you think you somehow more special or above these other 'typical black girls' you described, you must be quite a catch.

As for the bit I put in bold I think it's total gibberish its nothing but your assumptions sure some black guys may like girls with a big bum and thighs that is no proof for a reason why they don't want to date you. Reading your post I think it may be more to do with your unlikable personality.

So many generalizations in one thread

That's new. I'm zimbabwean and I've never heard of the whole promiscuity thing. As far as I'm aware zimbabwean girls are about as promiscious as the next girl.

Dark skinned black girls are at the bottom of the racial class.

I'd also like to add a bit to the topic of white men with black women. If you like white men then there are ones that like black women. To be honest so many black men have issues with black women's beauty that they only date white women. A lot of black women have been indirectly forced to to go with white men. Sad but true. Black women are the least likely to be in a relationship with anyone. But we are also less likely to seek men of other races as oppose to white and Asian women. So black men not considering black women and black women not considering other races means low partnership statistics in black females.

Personally I wouldn't care if white or black men dont like your skin colour. If you find the one person that does then you won't hair. Don't like a few men in your study put you of. Love has not colour.

Dark skinned black girls are at the bottom of the racial class.

Looking at some of the threads by guys who are not really into black girls.
I can see some of the issues.
It seems largely people have no problem with dating black girls.
But guys from affluent backgrounds who look for marriage tend to have a problem.

most youngsters dont really think far ahead logistically in terms of marriage.
for most youngsters its just about finding someone you love.
leading a family as a unit or a house hold is rarely thought about.
the exception is young people from affluent backgrounds. their family is often affluent for a reason. because they view partners in this house hold management way.
for example they marry into wealth.
most kids from our generation don't really care about that. and when they do its very trashy gold digger girls.

affluent people operate like this.
your parents have "parties" (not raves but like champagne, hors d'oeuvres and bruno mars back ground music.)
where they get all their rich friends and all their kids to come round.
they put all the kids together and let them socialise.
these are all people with businesses and high education. who will see that their children do well and can provide business opportunities for each other and each others kids. "oh daniel jr has graduated as an architect? well there is a place for him at my company waiting for him" that kind of thing. those kids will maintain their links with those other rich kids and become the new parents with their own kids. always expending and gaining wealth.

so your a white british person from a middle class family. your parents own at least 1 business and you drive a 4x4.
thats the profile of this guy.

dating a minority.
minorities complain a lot because they have it hard.

so why would you want to date someone that complains about your privilege when you could just date someone like you and only worry about 1 difference. gender.

they have it hard
if you have it easy. and your looking for a wife to start a family with. why are you going to choose a women who has it hard?
surely dating another who is just as if not more successful than you. you want to marry someone that will help you move forward.
not carry someone who complains that will take you a step back.

kids.
having mixed race kids its difficult.
your going to be raising someone who is going to have a very different experience in life. plus have a very different identity to you. this difference between you and your own child will make it difficult for you to understand things from your child's point of view and therefor will be less able to coach your child through life as you would a child that had a very similar identity to you. not only this. but your child is going to inherit the same minority status as the women you have the child with.

so even if you've married this women and moved her into a nice big house and you've both got nice big jobs and you send your kid to a nice big school. at that school. at those "parties" you have. your kids will always be the minority.

even in a city like london that is probably the most mixed city in the world in my opinion i doubt you would find many mixed race children in the posh grammar schools. i mean two parents from different races means your kid is going to be a minority of a minority.

anyway... all stuff to think about.