Female bullying in the workplace - what do I do

Just remember she's just jealous!

Just tell her you get everything off eBay for 99p

How do you know I haven't experienced bullying in the workplace or have been bullied myself? Pretending like this is a woman-only issue is not doing you or the OP any favour, I'm sure it's easy to brushoff valid criticisms as "bitchy and vindictive" than to navigate to your closest mirror and reflect on your own actions.


Someone asking you to do your job does not amount to rampant bullying. Refusing to carryout certain parts of your job in favour of more auspicious working conditions makes you incompetent.

"you want to know what my problem is? You're new and you suck up to the owner,
You talk to everyone and you're confident. You dress like you're going out every day and chat to everyone. When I was new, I was terrified. I couldn't speak to anyone and I was scared to speak to the owner. And then you come in like some diva and think everyone loves you. I don't see why it should be any different for you than it was for me"

Not like this. This is done exclusively by women towards other women. Have you ever had your life systematically destroyed by people bitching about you because of jealousy.

You are just showing that you really don't get it...

She is bitching, making digs, turning everyone against her. That is bullying.

I don't believe anyone would actually say that. That might be the reason why they behaved they did, but to actually be able to admit that to you and themselves shows an unusual level of self-awareness. So you're either projecting your own feelings about the way she treats you and just telling us that that's what said, or this woman has been very honest with you about her character. It doesn't excuse what she's said to you, but you could try and have a bit of empathy. Taking her out shopping and buying her things was a ****ty thing to do. She's jealous of your wealth so you take her out and flash your money around? It seems you have a lot to learn about people.

Thanks

Yeah I think she seems like that too



So me being unable to do one tiny aspect of my job because of a diagnosed mental health condition is being a diva? Sorry what?

If someone came to me and asked for help for a valid reason Id do it, no questions asked. And no, she's making allowances because the disability discrimination act says reasonable adjustments must be made

Would you say someone in a wheelchair who asked for a ramp instead of the stairs should man up?

Not like this. This is done exclusively by women towards other women. Have you ever had your life systematically destroyed by people bitching about you because of jealousy.

You are just showing that you really don't get it...

She is bitching, making digs, turning everyone against her. That is bullying.

I get the feeling that you're tarring all workplaces and indeed ALL women with the same brush which is unfair. Just because you've been bullied doesn't mean the OP is being bullied.


The OP is also mentally ill this can all just be in his head we can't take her word for it and all we have here is her word for it.

I get the feeling that you're tarring all workplaces and indeed ALL women with the same brush which is unfair. Just because you've been bullied doesn't mean the OP is being bullied.


The OP is also mentally ill this can all just be in his head we can't take her word for it and all we have here is her word for it.

I get the feeling you have zero life experience. Or no female friends or siblings working in these types of environments.

No just these kinds of women. And the OP is a girl.

You lack a basic understanding of mental illness clearly.

I've asked the OP this before and she didn't answer. Do the colleagues know that the OP is mentally ill? This whole thing could have been "ironed-out" if the OP had explained herself. I suspect the OP hasn't done this which is why people are being negative.


You've got a chip on your shoulder.

She told them she had a germ phobia so yes she did explain.

And you've got absolutely no clue what you are talking about. You're one of those race to the bottom types clearly.

I get the feeling that you're tarring all workplaces and indeed ALL women with the same brush which is unfair. Just because you've been bullied doesn't mean the OP is being bullied.


The OP is also mentally ill this can all just be in his head we can't take her word for it and all we have here is her word for it.

I have zero life experiences because I think doing your job means just that doing your job and not asking people to make allowances for you because you've had it tough or something?


Being called a diva is not even hurtful it's a joke is what it is. If the OP is that fragile that he cannot handle criticism then he needs to quit working with people which is probably the best idea since this job is giving him anxiety.


The OP's boss told her to jog on basically. I think this speaks volumes.






I've asked the OP this before and she didn't answer. Do the colleagues know that the OP is mentally ill? This whole thing could have been "ironed-out" if the OP had explained herself. I suspect the OP hasn't done this which is why people are being negative.


You've got a chip on your shoulder.

Ignore him. What you're being made to go through is completely unfair. It sounds like blatant jealousy because you're obviously a confident, capable and attractive young woman. You make them feel worse about themselves and they resent you for it.

And I think if you have diagnosed general anxiety, she is discriminating against mental illness. Just remind her of that next time.


I think you should write a formal complaint to the company providing a detailed account of how her behaviour constitutes bullying.

Good luck, work place bullying is the worst Don't let them change you though, keep dressing and behaving how you want.

Oh OP, it's just sad how you're being treated. Be strong, don't cry over some jealous bitch, stand up to her. Recording what she says is best, imo.

Good luck with your problems, be they anxiety, your phobia, or the workplace.

I have zero life experiences because I think doing your job means just that doing your job and not asking people to make allowances for you because you've had it tough or something?


Being called a diva is not even hurtful it's a joke is what it is. If the OP is that fragile that he cannot handle criticism then he needs to quit working with people which is probably the best idea since this job is giving him anxiety.


The OP's boss told her to jog on basically. I think this speaks volumes.






I've asked the OP this before and she didn't answer. Do the colleagues know that the OP is mentally ill? This whole thing could have been "ironed-out" if the OP had explained herself. I suspect the OP hasn't done this which is why people are being negative.


You've got a chip on your shoulder.

She did say that.

Me have empathy?! To someone who's essentially mocked my phobia and treated my like **** because I happen to come from a wealthy background? Sorry, what? I've tried to be nice to her. What should I empathise with? She has no reason to dislike me. Jealousy is a horrible trait.

Sharing it was ****ty how?

I said I have generalised anxiety...

Employers have to make reasonable adjustments for disabilities, you know, so they don't treat is badly? For example having someone else do the bins and me mop the floor (which I'm fine with because I don't have to touch it) is a reasonable adjustment. I'm not saying I won't do any if it, just that one specific thing.

Yes, they do