Race dating opinions.

Looking at some of the threads by guys who are not really into black girls.
I can see some of the issues.
It seems largely people have no problem with dating black girls.
But guys from affluent backgrounds who look for marriage tend to have a problem.

most youngsters dont really think far ahead logistically in terms of marriage.
for most youngsters its just about finding someone you love.
leading a family as a unit or a house hold is rarely thought about.
the exception is young people from affluent backgrounds. their family is often affluent for a reason. because they view partners in this house hold management way.
for example they marry into wealth.
most kids from our generation don't really care about that. and when they do its very trashy gold digger girls.

affluent people operate like this.
your parents have "parties" (not raves but like champagne, hors d'oeuvres and bruno mars back ground music.)
where they get all their rich friends and all their kids to come round.
they put all the kids together and let them socialise.
these are all people with businesses and high education. who will see that their children do well and can provide business opportunities for each other and each others kids. "oh daniel jr has graduated as an architect? well there is a place for him at my company waiting for him" that kind of thing. those kids will maintain their links with those other rich kids and become the new parents with their own kids. always expending and gaining wealth.

so your a white british person from a middle class family. your parents own at least 1 business and you drive a 4x4.
thats the profile of this guy.

dating a minority.
minorities complain a lot because they have it hard.

so why would you want to date someone that complains about your privilege when you could just date someone like you and only worry about 1 difference. gender.

they have it hard
if you have it easy. and your looking for a wife to start a family with. why are you going to choose a women who has it hard?
surely dating another who is just as if not more successful than you. you want to marry someone that will help you move forward.
not carry someone who complains that will take you a step back.

kids.
having mixed race kids its difficult.
your going to be raising someone who is going to have a very different experience in life. plus have a very different identity to you. this difference between you and your own child will make it difficult for you to understand things from your child's point of view and therefor will be less able to coach your child through life as you would a child that had a very similar identity to you. not only this. but your child is going to inherit the same minority status as the women you have the child with.

so even if you've married this women and moved her into a nice big house and you've both got nice big jobs and you send your kid to a nice big school. at that school. at those "parties" you have. your kids will always be the minority.

even in a city like london that is probably the most mixed city in the world in my opinion i doubt you would find many mixed race children in the posh grammar schools. i mean two parents from different races means your kid is going to be a minority of a minority.

anyway... all stuff to think about.

There are certain things I dislike about this post. Firstly there are many black and mixed race people in grammar and private schools. Not as many as white but they are there. But white people will out number any ethnic minority.

The senorio you mentioned can happen with any two races whether the man or women is black, white, Asian, Spanish and so on. Some families don't agree with interracial relationships or dating someone of a lower status class. This doesn't just apply to black women as there are some black women who are of a higher status class. You just don't see them that often because the UK has a tiny black community.

There are other things that I don't understand about this post either. Like you mention a middle class family but you continue as if the families are aristocrats. I wouldn't call middle call with one business rich for example. There are thousands of black people who live that lifestyle and are intelligent and send their children to university.

I'm the last anon BTW. Maybe anon number 8.

well no there are not many. if there were many they wouldn't be a minority means small or lesser meaning the opposite of many.

i myself in the post let it be known that they existed but were "not many"

and yes theres things in my post which highlight issues that i think are unfortunate. but if you dislike it and think its untrue let me know.



yes i worded it specifically like that as to not single out black people. because i noticed the problem was the minority status.

but black women of high status and class are quite rare in this country as this is a white country. largely most of the black immigrants to this country have been working class. you will struggle to find a rich black area in the uk. but if you know of one please let me know.

yes they have a tiny black community. hence being a minority.



you can own a business and be working class. hence my mention of middle class. a middle class business would be something like owning a drs practice or small law firm. or possibly estate agents.

i have no doubt they exist.

but in my experience its rare that they dont mix. if there is a parallel black event then yes. but i rarely see that in the uk. i see maybe events for the adults where they leave their kids back home. but not usually at their big suburban homes big enough to fit 3 transit vans in the kitchen alone where they leave the kids in one of the other living rooms. i've seen it in africa and america but not the uk. not to say it doesnt exist. but as i said it'll run parallel to white events of the same kind but rarely do the two circles mix in a fair ratio. often they'll have tokens from each others community

but even sometimes the tokens. black or white. will be a mixed couple.
like a rich black guy at a white event with a white girl. or a rich white guy with a black girl at a black event.

i think maybe you've become a bit stung by my post.
i never said black people were not intelligent didn't go to uni or hold similar events. but you stating the fact implies that i was somehow calling black people poor and stupid. which i was clearly not.



Ok

Busnisses can invest in what they want

That would be rather unusual me not being a white guy I can only expect their response would be to laugh.

Oh, and shock horror, I am a black girl, my skin colour is like Kerry Washington, and I can't go out of my house without "white" boys and men alike hounding me, some even can't contain themselves e.g. they tell me I am beautiful, some stop their cars and shout to attract my attention and some look at me as if they are entranced or something. To be simply put, I get attention from mostly "white" and "asian" men than my own "race". You can choose to believe it or not, but it's true. And no, I am not fat or ugly, I have a petite frame.

From my experience and that of my mum, we are not the "least attractive" women, my mum and I can barely leave the house without a man looking at us. An attractive "white" man stared in awe at me, even with my mum beside me. I sometimes get "anxiety" with all the attention I gather when I leave the house, I have to prepare myself before leaving out of my house.

I think black girls are the least attractive. Not just on looks, but their personality's, which I find to be quite ugly/inappropriate at times.

Your overanalyzing and know it all attitude about black people is disgusting. Black people are not some bottom of the totem pole "sub-human" beings that you can analyse as a collection based on your anecdotal "evidence" which for all could be made up, it's the internet after all, but I won't go into that.

I pity the "black" girl who has a relationship with you/ marries you in the future because you are a racist, but it is sad that you don't even know how prejudice you are.Your children could be like most mixed race children I know, who hate their "black" side of the family and would want to make their future generations less black, by being with people of other races. I am sorry to say that I find this occurrence in the children of most relationship with "black" men and "white" women, so your case is quite rare.

I respect racist people because they do not sugar coat. A racist would body language would let you know that they don't like your "race". You on the other hand, have a covert attitude to racism. Even if you deny that you are not racist, you are prejudice and a bigot, and no, I am not calling you names, I am simply speaking on what I observe about you, from your posts on this thread.

Oh, and shock horror, I am a black girl, my skin colour is like Kerry Washington, and I can't go out of my house without "white" boys and men alike hounding me, some even can't contain themselves e.g. they tell me I am beautiful, some stop their cars and shout to attract my attention and some look at me as if they are entranced or something. To be simply put, I get attention from mostly "white" and "asian" men than my own "race". You can choose to believe it or not, but it's true. And no, I am not fat or ugly, I have a petite frame.

I cannot be bothered to do some "research" but there are members of the British royal family that married black women. One even married a yoruba Princess from ancient yoruba land royalty. Make if it what you may. Princess Angela of Liechtenstein is black american.

You say you have all these "love" for black women, but your opinions shows that you want them to feel unattractive and devalued.

Do make your mind up From my experience and that of my mum, we are not the "least attractive" women, my mum and I can barely leave the house without a man looking at us. An attractive "white" man stared in awe at me, even with my mum beside me. I sometimes get "anxiety" with all the attention I gather when I leave the house, I have to prepare myself before leaving out of my house.

I really do not care about some "research" about black women being the least attractive out of al "races".

I am an individual, not a collective, I really could care less. At the end of the day, it was a pseudo science research and it does not bother me at all.

I know that I am attractive (not being conceited, so I have been told)

I do not need the media to make me feel attractive.

Who cares about being attractive, at the end of the day, we all shall grow old .

No one would care then, why make beauty a priority now then? I find beauty vain because it is not longer lasting, like the saying "here to day, gone tomorrow"

Also, if you married based on beauty, what could happen when the person you married "lost" their beauty through a scarring accident, I guess you would use the old chestnut "I feel out of love" which translates to people really do not fall in love, but more in lust. Show me a man that loves without caring about what society thinks, beauty, life changing accident or sickness like cancer, "loves" even in poverty etc, then I would agree that he was really in love. I for one, do not believe in "love" except the love of God (Jesus, because it is unconditional in contrast to the "fickle type love" of human beings). Human beings "fall in lust/ attraction" not "love

I understand what you are saying but why are all black people one community? If it turned out that it was only white people who ate at chinese restaurants would you tell them to go to a british pub and help their communities?

You sound like we are depriving these black women of a goat to feed their families and that a tribe may not have enough money to buy seeds for their farm land if we don't 'support' them. Im pretty sure we are talking about the western world and many africans and carribeann have been here for 3 generations or since WW2.

if anything I would say there is too much black separatism. i have been ushered to the front of cues and had nods of approval from random black people because we are the same colour. wtf.

Also, Im pretty sure that most people who sell hair and are hair dressers are black. Obviously there are exceptions but black hairdressers are always high in demand.

First of, I'm not even planing of getting married,
I think dating is overrated,
and my life goal at leaf rn is to achieve peace everywhere or at least within me.

You don't know who i am, you have never met me or had a conversation with me so what ever you think about me is irrelevant.

Im not the kind of person to change just cause its what some guys, my parents/family or what society needs me to do alright. Thats not me.

Ill bet you haven't even read half my answers on this thread so keep your judgements to yourself.

If you're so offended by this post why did you even leave a comment, i make it a point to avoid things that annoy me and i advice you do the same.
My third question is personal because i am black, I'm i was asian/white it would still be the same but in relation to the race, you know why because if you wanna fix a problem you start from the the bit you know hence people that are black because i am black.

I am no self hating teen or racial supremacist i am a human being, and i am tired of human beings hating each other because or petty differences.

How else do you expect me to help in cleaning up a mess when i know nothing about it. Its disgusting that people just always want to see the bad side in everything a person does.

If I've said bull**** I'm sorry, but you've really pissed me off, looking for other motives in something as simple as a survey for the sake of understanding people

You sound like a child,

Most Black people are too racially aware, and i stick to this statement, they are too hostile and i stick to this statement.

Why? Because i grew up in a community of people always blaming another race for their issues other than themselves.

Its like a typical broken home of a rich family. your kids are doing drugs and instead of letting them own up to their mistakes you blame the friends they hang with, which may be the case, but friends can only influence that child so much, the rest is on them.

My mom's mom would tell me to wary of the white people, the white people are crazy, they do drugs, they kill, and when i point out blacks do the same shed say something as daft as, its the white peoples fault they put the blacks in a tough spot.

The whites that i know didnt grow up with their parents telling them to treat blacks as inferior, but most blacks i know and i have read about, or seen in movies are raised to exculed anyone that isn't black and dim any none complimenting statement as a racist one.


Do you really believe that every black man in jail was put there because they did not commit a crime and the cops are racist.

I have many black friends that treat each other like ****, but have witnessed so many times when a white girl so much as muttered a bad word, she was being racist.

Yes there are racist whites

But news flash there are black racist, chinese racist, japanese, german, italian.

All I'm saying is if blacks really want to fight racism excluding other races, and criticizing them isn't going to do ****, thats what almost destroyed the civil rights movement for the blacks in the USA.

Instead of hating on people because you assume they are racist why not i don't know be different, be friendly, be less, cruel.

Thats all I'm saying, i don't know the white culture as well as the black culture, and I'm just trying to see what the non blacks know about the black culture. If they are wrong i correct them, its their choice to take the correction i can't make them love all blacks.

I have ever met a racist white, I've met some big on stereotypes but none that wanted to exclude me because i wasn't white.

I don't see culture i see personalities and if your sucks which so far you have shown me, then i really don't want to know you.

I'm not stung tyvm.

But your scenario suggested that a poor women will struggling with a white man. WELL DUH. They are of different social classes.

But there are black women who own businesses which in your scenario, you ignore. You suggest that all black women in the are lower class than an affluent white man which you have no evidence of. You also suggest that a black women that have had a hard life won't encourage their man to move forward and you have no evidence of that. So what if she had a hard life. Its what you make of yourself.

You suggest that all black women in the are lower class than an affluent white man which you have no evidence of.

You also suggest that a black women that have had a hard life won't encourage their man to move forward and you have no evidence of that. So what if she had a hard life. Its what you make of yourself.

Black people and white people do mix.

They mix as much as white and Asian people and Asian and black people.

Stop stereotyping and generalising black and white relations when you have no evidence of this.

Lol you're clearly not here to do nothing but try (and fail) to make me look like a bad guy, with a low self esteem. Don't project your personality on me, if you really had an argument to oppose mine (which is obviously what i am here for, you would have replied my last thread first (if you even have a reply) or at least you would have given a more decent argument that calling me a child with a weak self esteem.

Im sorry if my truth hurts, but there are some people who actually give a damn about the world as a whole, and want to better it. As far as your self esteem accusation, you would not be the first to think so, or the last, it doesn't mean you're right.

Btw i have had a conversation on this matter with about four people on this thread with reasonable arguments and none of em has tried name calling or averting the issue, it speaks a lot for their personality and maturity.
Ill bet if you and i were face to face you would be yelling and screaming your head of instead of bettering your argument.
Good bye, and quit wasting my time

What people also fail to understand is... imagine this senario:

You like a guy
he happens to be white

he doesn't like you
you accept it because you know not everyone will like you.

You find out that he only doesn't like you because of your colour

you are badly affected and maybe want to find out if other men are the same or not as you haven't had much relationship experience .

I'd also like to add a bit to the topic of white men with black women. If you like white men then there are ones that like black women. To be honest so many black men have issues with black women's beauty that they only date white women. A lot of black women have been indirectly forced to to go with white men. Sad but true. Black women are the least likely to be in a relationship with anyone. But we are also less likely to seek men of other races as oppose to white and Asian women. So black men not considering black women and black women not considering other races means low partnership statistics in black females.

Personally I wouldn't care if white or black men dont like your skin colour. If you find the one person that does then you won't hair. Don't like a few men in your study put you of. Love has not colour.