Guys: Would you ever approach a pretty girl who wears a hijab?

Yes why

This thread is so interesting
I've always wondered how the whole getting to know someone for marriage process would work in a way that is islamic but not awkward :/
Have to admit it's nice to hear people talking about marriage for a change instead of their bf/gf


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Does it matter what year you meet someone? Some girls I've spoken to say they only want to think about marriage in their last year.

Don't you think thats a bit shallow though? the ONLY reason you want to marry her is because of her looks, as you said you've only spoken to her briefly. However, I wish you the best of luck

Yh last. Inshallah. A lot of my friends want to too. Right nows bit too yyoung and theres more of chance of breaking up etc

as i said earlier, don't just go with what you're told, the hijab does more harm than good.

How does it do harm exactly? If it stops a guy having perveted thoughts about you and respect you. Them knowing youre a muslim girl so wont sleep around etc so no point trying it on. Well thats a good thing? Is it not

I admit that it is. And maybe she might not be appropriate for me when I get to know her. If that is the case then we simply won't get married. Hence why it is vital for me to get to know her in a Halal way.

"A woman is normally sought as a wife for her wealth, her beauty, her nobility, or her deen (religiousness), so choose a religious woman and you will prosper." [Muslim]

Beauty is important. Islamically it is important to be attracted to your spouse, but the end of the Hadith states the most important factor is Piety. I've consulted third parties who have stated that this girl is a pious girl. Upon finding this out I became even more attracted to her. More than the factor of her beauty, a lot more. But bear in mind she is extremely beautiful. And thank you, remember we believe in fate, not luck. But thank you again.

Thats fine but you cant just say youre going to marry her like your definite about it. She might not like you back. You should say you want to get to know her. Btw try and ask her parents directly rather than telling her first that you want to marry her. Tell them youve seen her at uni and have heard from around shes a good girl etc etc. So they know your intentions are pure. She might get a bit spooked if u ask her directly and she doesn't know u

If you don't mind, whats your stance on the whole 'how to get married' process? A clearer question would be what would be ideal for you if a guy likes you?

no, by wearing it you accept that you should cover up because of a mans desires, rather than teaching him that he should control himself, if a woman has a problem with my hair colour i wouldn't dye it/ cut it all off/ wear a hijab. id tell her to do one.

If I'm honest I'm actually quite strict about it so if a guy came upto me and asked for my number I would be absolutely mortified as I have no intention of getting to know a guy that personally
Its a really difficult questions tbh becoz somedays i just think to keep it as islamic as possible i will let my parents find me a partner and get to know then dat way
but other days i actually feel like it would be better to find someone at uni

anyways to answer your question if a guy liked me and was clearly religious and serious about it then I I guess I would find out more about him from other people and I would probably ask my brother to come along so I can meet him and get to know him but that might be awkward :/ but less awkward than my dad being there lol

Anyhow so after getting to know him for a while like dat and we both wish to marry I would probably inform my parents and then continue getting to know him but maybe he could come round to my house and I go to his obviously with the family around but not directly sat with us

But in all honesty it really depends on the situation for example if this is a guy who is in all my classes and who I see regularly and work with ect then of course that would be easier becoz we could skip to the telling the family stage becoz we know each other but if it's a random guy then it would be much more difficult I think

Sorry for long post and wats ur stance on this situation if u don't mind me asking



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But I don't have their contact details. I can only get the parents contact details from her.

a guy can still be turned on by a woman wearing a hijab though. If someones hot then theyre hot regardless of if theyre wearing a hijaab or not. But the hijab would show that she wouldnt be up for it. And for the hundreth time most hijabis dont cover up for mens desires. They do it for Themselves!

Ask around? Ask a mutual friend? Im guessing youre an asian. Its not hard.

Ask around? Ask a mutual friend? Im guessing youre an asian. Its not hard.

I'll ask her mutual friends then. It'll be awkward because all her friends are girls. Both of us don't do free mixing. And yes I am Asian, but she's not. She's African.

Noo I think asking parents first would be a bad idea. What if parents say okay but she says no from the get-go. I think you should ask her and if she's willing to give her parents contact details then it shows that shes interested also.

Noo I think asking parents first would be a bad idea. What if parents say okay but she says no from the get-go. I think you should ask her and if she's willing to give her parents contact details then it shows that shes interested also.