It costs so much because he lives outside of the city, and he lives there to stay close to his friends and brother. If he moved somewhere cheaper then it'd still cost loads in gas/public transport money, as he spends all of his time in the city. He tells me he's tried to get jobs before, but they're either too far away, which would again be pointless because he'd have to pay for transport money, or there's nothing going nearer the city. I don't know if he's just not trying hard enough...He truly believes he's going to make a career for himself as a personal trainer soon.
He does get job seeker's allowance, and he's not using drugs anymore, but he's still indebted to a lot of people from that time. This is another money issue. We don't normally do things like going to gigs either, normally just stay in, which is why I can't just bail on it. It'd be really weird to everyone if I did.
Yeah, I'm 18. My parents don't approve of ANY relationship, to be honest. They're too over-protective, so I doubt they would let him stay, even if he wasn't how he is.
I hope he didn't want to do it. I can't even consider that
Oh God, I'm defending him so much. I honestly don't mean to, it's just all flowing out :/
I think friends was kind of a loose term. We don't really talk, besides making plans to go out. I don't even know what you'd call us...Just a group of people that go out together? When we're out, though, we do act like friends, so maybe I could tell them then. But until then I have no one to talk to about this at all, which is probably why I'm ranting like a loser on some student forum.
I want to take time away, but I know I'll have to go to that gig :/
Anyway, sorry for ranting, but you seem like a nice understanding person
Thank you so much for your input. I was wary to reveal my age because I thought it'd give people another reason to tear apart the relationship, so it's good to hear someone in the same age-range. Also good to let everything out and have some more advice to think about.
Thank you