Romantically straight but sexually bi...

I've kind of come to terms with my sexuality. I know that I could never fall in love with a man, get into a meaningful relationship with a man or even kiss one. There's only one part of their anatomy I'm attracted too. I've experimented with men & I have enjoyed it although I feel so guilty afterwards (even though I haven't cheated on anyone).

I've been I in love with a lady before & I find the whole female figure great. Kissing & cuddling is just as necessary as the sex. I know without a shadow of a doubt that if I had to choose just one gender to have sex with it'd be women. With the men it's just been about the sex but it is fun (it's also far easier to have casual sex with a man than a women, lets be honest )

There are terms out there which I've read like hetroflexible which are fairly accurate.
Are many other men/women out there in a similar situation? I suppose I just want to know if it's normal(ish).

Normal is non-existent. Your normal is what you want to do or what you do, do.

As a gay man myself, I don't really understand how you can just have sex with a man and suddenly be heterosexual after it and before it but just switch at that moment but hey whatever floats your boat.

Your sexuality is your sexuality. You shouldn't be worried about 'whether it seems normal'. You say you've come to terms with it so embrace it and enjoy yourself

I have hesitated to post anything about this without being anon before, but meh.
Basically what you have described is exactly what I feel (just without the actual experience bit). So nice I'm not the only one!

I'm kinda the opposite (could be romantic with men or women, but atm only see myself having sex with women) and lack experience in this area completely... but am sure you're def not alone! Don't worry so much

yeah normal, i know i guy the same

You shouldn't feel guilty if you experiment with men, like you said you're not cheating. I really wouldn't worry if it was normal or look for a term/label for it, I just say have a relationship/have sex with which gender you want. As long as it's legal, it doesn't matter I think probably more people feel how you do then it seems.

Thanks to you three too .

I must admit, I kind of thought (hoped) I'd grow out of this but if anything it's become more entrenched in my sexuality. It's a shame society on the whole casts labels around so easily (I'm guilty of this too on occasion).
It's kind of double standards too -
If a straight man experiments with another then he very quickly becomes labeled as bi/gay.
If a gay man experiments with women the majority would still class him as gay.

i've experimented with girls but i'm straight

I'm assuming you're a lady? I think there is less stigma when girls experiment, possibly as most men have the fantasy about seeing 2 girls together (including myself) & women are probably more accepting of the urge to experiment. But there's certainly still negativity there.

I didn't think I'd be the only one. You must have bigger stones than me then. Thanks for sharing.

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Nice to not be the only one haha.
It's only something I've really started to accept recently and only a couple of people know about it.
Wish I had the courage to go out there and find someone to experiment with lol.

It sounds like most people on here that are talking about loving both describe themselves as flexible... is it not just bisexuality?