How do you stop liking handsome guys when I am an ugly one?
Simple - how can I stop being drawn to handsome guys when I have, objectively speaking based on my looks, no chance unless they were mad.
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I hate fancying cute boys also. I wish I never saw them because now I think about them but cannot have them.
I don't really think you can change who you are drawn to. You fancy who you fancy. Perhaps it may be best if you spent most of your time with uggos.
This is a classical dilemma of dating and there is no good answer for it. Everybody tends want more than they can lay hands on. My advice is to flirt with a wide range of potential love interests. Of course there will be guys you would kill to date that need make no effort for you to adore, but equally there are guys who if they persue a bit you will fall for. I think some thing acceptable usually works out..
Original post by Anonymous
Simple - how can I stop being drawn to handsome guys when I have, objectively speaking based on my looks, no chance unless they were mad.
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No no, it is not objective. It's not. It's subjective. There will be somebody that you like that will like you!
This isn't an original thread either, do a quick search.
Original post by David B
Some good looking guys will immediately be drawn to your looks, but there is a handful which will look past the appearance and concentrate on your personality. I myself will get to know a girl before judging her.
Looks aren't everything. But there defiantly a bonus.
Looks aren't everything. But there defiantly a bonus.
According to Psychology, you're absolutely wrong about this. You immediately judge everyone in microseconds waaaaaay before talking to them, and even if they're the nicest person in the world, you're first impression (i.e, their looks) will persevere.
Original post by Anonymous
Simple - how can I stop being drawn to handsome guys when I have, objectively speaking based on my looks, no chance unless they were mad.
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Obviously there's some realism needed, but you shouldn't get caught up in negative thought cycles about who is "in your league" or whatever.
If you're only really attracted to conventionally looking guys, I'd say you've got to more pro active. If good looking guys don't have confidence, they can really struggle with girls. If you make the effort, and are willing to go out with someone with less confidence and more insecurities, you may be surprised at the guys you can attract.
You can't stop yourself from who you like but if you are drawn to people through their looks, then it wouldn't really help long term anyway.
There's nothing really anyone can say to stop you from being attracted to people you deem attractive. Just be confident in yourself and remember to base your attraction to people not only on their looks, but on their personality and common interests as well.
There's nothing really anyone can say to stop you from being attracted to people you deem attractive. Just be confident in yourself and remember to base your attraction to people not only on their looks, but on their personality and common interests as well.
Original post by physicso
According to Psychology, you're absolutely wrong about this. You immediately judge everyone in microseconds waaaaaay before talking to them, and even if they're the nicest person in the world, you're first impression (i.e, their looks) will persevere.
I agree that the first thing I notice is their looks, but that doesn't stop me from talking to them as it would with some people. If a girl asked me out, and I was deciding whether or not to go out with them, their looks wouldn't be a big factor in my decision.
Hey if you offer them sex you may have a chance with them depends how ugly you are.
Or you could just amaze them with your enormous...personality...
i dont know many girls who, if they start taking care of themselves, losing weight and having nice hair etc, wouldnt be at least bangable.
lose the spots, the weight, the weird hair, dress well, and there'll be guys out there creaming for you. works both ways, for guys as well.
didnt say its easy though
lose the spots, the weight, the weird hair, dress well, and there'll be guys out there creaming for you. works both ways, for guys as well.
didnt say its easy though
Original post by Anonymous
Simple - how can I stop being drawn to handsome guys when I have, objectively speaking based on my looks, no chance unless they were mad.
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Find a blind handsome guy.
Original post by BullViagra
i dont know many girls who, if they start taking care of themselves, losing weight and having nice hair etc, wouldnt be at least bangable.
lose the spots, the weight, the weird hair, dress well, and there'll be guys out there creaming for you. works both ways, for guys as well.
didnt say its easy though
lose the spots, the weight, the weird hair, dress well, and there'll be guys out there creaming for you. works both ways, for guys as well.
didnt say its easy though
nah, it doesn't work both ways. A man could be well dressed, well groomed, and in the best shape of his life, but still be ugly due to poor facial structure (or short stature).
Original post by Tai Ga
Give uglies a chance to.
Why? It's pointless if they don't find them attractive.
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