Why on earth would I do THAT? Ok IF I did that for whatever reason, they would probably be horrified and disappointed but they would accept it... after 5 years maybe.
Every parent claims that but it's never really enforced....
Tell that to my (Asian) friend who was disowned and kicked out the house over a year ago because her boyfriend is white. No contact at all, even when she sends birthday messages.
Why on earth would I do THAT? Ok IF I did that for whatever reason, they would probably be horrified and disappointed but they would accept it... after 5 years maybe.
A simple test of boundaries
your parents probably aren't that controlling as you do what is expected of you
It when you step outside of these expectations that you see if they are truly 'controlling' or not.
Op, have you tried talking to them and pointing out how hypocritical it is when they presumably didn't have an arranged marriage?
Tell that to my (Asian) friend who was disowned and kicked out the house over a year ago because her boyfriend is white. No contact at all, even when she sends birthday messages.
How is that a loss ? No one needs parents like that. She is better off without them.
I have a problem when it comes to my parents. My dad is a Englishman and is pretty much agnostic while my mum is a strict Sikh. They have agreed that I must marry a Sikh man and they tell me they have agreed to a arranged marriage on my behalf to someone in India.
Now I don't really feel attracted to that many Sikh guys which is where the problem starts. I've seen the guys picture and I'm not attracted to him at all. I just think the whole beard and turban rules are quite unhygienic. It's not something i would like at all.
I prefer dating white guys or even other brown guys who don't wear the turban and have a unhygienic beard, as long as they are somewhat attractive. They have told me that if I don't accept this then I would not be allowed to live in the home
Any advice would be appreciated
btw im im a non practicing Sikh
Have you tried pointing out the fact that they're hypocritical since they did not have an arranged marriage and married from two different ethnicities.
Also have you told them that you are not attracted to this guy and that there is no point in getting married to him if you do not like him in the first place and by forcing you to get married they are potentially ruining your life and it could just end in a divorce.
Also this is forced marriage which is illegal. There is a difference between forced and arranged.
I have a problem when it comes to my parents. My dad is a Englishman and is pretty much agnostic while my mum is a strict Sikh. They have agreed that I must marry a Sikh man and they tell me they have agreed to a arranged marriage on my behalf to someone in India.
Now I don't really feel attracted to that many Sikh guys which is where the problem starts. I've seen the guys picture and I'm not attracted to him at all. I just think the whole beard and turban rules are quite unhygienic. It's not something i would like at all.
I prefer dating white guys or even other brown guys who don't wear the turban and have a unhygienic beard, as long as they are somewhat attractive. They have told me that if I don't accept this then I would not be allowed to live in the home
Any advice would be appreciated
btw im im a non practicing Sikh
Reminds me of East is East. Not sure how you can be forced into marrying a Sikh man when your mother married a white agnostic