I'm about a 6/10 if that, under 6ft and overweight and I've been in relationships with or have been seeing very good looking to average women. Granted i do lift but thats for strength and health reasons, not vanity, like so many Zyzz wannabes do. Depends entirely on the person.
The sort of shallow people the OP is on about are those that frequent clubs and unless you're a 9/10 and shredded you won't get a look in. Ever considered that there are thousands of women who go to more civilised places or stay in because this sort of environment they dislike? I'd honestly rather stay single than meet someone at a club.
Please don't pretend you can't punch above your weight just because you are a male. That's such a terrible victim complex you have there. Its all about how you carry yourself in attitude, outlook and attire etc. If I shave well, dress up smart, smile and don't take life too seriously I get approached. Shock horror. If I dress not so smart and can't be bothered socialising and have a negative attitude then I don't. If you're unwilling to put the effort in yourself not only into your body but how you act and carry yourself then why should anyone give you a chance? You can take yourself from a 4 to an 8 easy if you put the effort in and no I don't just mean lifting - your whole attitude/outlook needs to change.