Just came back from the gym, showered and did some reading.
Pleasantly surprised to see actual civilized conversation past few posts. Good to see some rationality here in the past few pages.
The truth is that it seems the average man (especially if he is ethnic) just needs to jump through numerous hoops.
The truth is that someone can use that time to something more productive. I mean like make some more money, do something you actually enjoy. Do I like being an extrovert, trying to entertain girls and try to sell myself to anyone? Not at all. I'm naturally reserved, introverted and prefer to spend time with myself or a small group of close people.
The hoops it seems you have to jump through doesn't sound fun, just the end reward sounds fun (the sex or relationship). I mean come on, this **** shouldn't be so complicated and long winded (well it isn't for good looking guys).*
I'm not someone who gives up easily, in fact I've had to work my socks off to get where I am (used to be fat, now ripped. Crap GCSE's, graduated from top 5 uni etc) and I usually like it when my back is up against the wall and all the odds are against are against me. Most of all I like proving people wrong. Whenever I undertake a monumental change to my life I always think would my male inspirations also partake in what the end results of what I want to achieve is in. Would Rafael Nasal take time off his strict regimen to chase girls? Would Julius Caesar (pre dictator) put off his plans to conquer Gaul to chase girls?
Obviously I cannot make the same comparisons as I have nowhere near the same responsibilities but it's just something I like to think of about how great men would react or tackle problems which I am facing.
Guess I have to accept that I'll have to change my lifestyle considerably to get girls or just suck it up and accept that I'll get nothing. I guess this is where my bitterness for the top looking guys and girls comes in; they don't need to do anything.
I just signed up for my local tennis club, haven't played since uni finished. Perhaps it will also help me get out of this mental rut I've been in for two months.