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How do meet girls in your 20s?

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1. Jobs can be busy. And you have limited time even on weekends where you do actually have to catch up on sleep from the previous week and get enough to be alert for the next one or you get fired. And you woudln't necessarily meet girls unless you signed up for yoga or pole dancing.
2. Not everyone drinks and you don't just meet ppl by drinking.
3. London can be friendly for tourists or if you have friends already. But do you meet people (20-30 yr olds) just walking about or even in a bar? Not just see them, but meet them, as in get introduced or start talking to them and then actually talk to them on a day after that.
4. Agreed with this point. But if you are surrounded by unlikeable people at work or in a pub, how do you meet likeable ones?
5. A pub is not the only place on earth to meet people. And pubs tend to be extremely noisy. How do you hear yourself talk or talk to someone else? Pubs are good for watching a footy game with your mates, not really meeting bourgeouis 20 yr olds who are looking to date.
Original post by pshah2
I don't know, lots of ppl at my uni watched those sitcoms haha

I play a few sports or did do it a lot at uni. But I'm not sure that meeting some 20/30 yr olds at footy club at a local gym is going to mean becoming part of their friendship group?


Of course. If you find a decent sports club, you automatically become part of the social group and invited out to socialise regularly simply by signing up, and you can then set about identifying members you have most in common with to be real mates with.

How would that help you meet girls your own age?


Because a) they might know a load of girls they can introduce you to and b) now you have someone to go to the pub with, where you can both meet girls together.




That would also take up a lot of my free time on the weekend which is feasbily the only time I have enough time to go for a 2hr session there.

In London, it seems really too busy to mingle and just chill and meet ppl when you're working.


Stop making poor excuses. If you work 40 hours a week, sleep 40 hours a week, that leaves ~80 hours for you to socialise. Everyone else manages it, you just need to learn to manage your time better.
Original post by cole-slaw
1. You seriously think people just stop all of their interests just because they get a job? Of course not, that would be a terrible idea, you need some kind of social outlet outside of work hours. Even with a busy job you've still got 6-8 hours to fill every evening and 48 hours every weekend. That's load of time for hobbies and socialising.

2. Well, that's their problem. Not drinking is just stupid.

3. I've always found London quite friendly. I can't remember the last time I went down there and didn't get chatting to some random guy or girl in a pub.

4. If they're unlikeable then you wouldn't want to be friends with them anyway, so where's the issue.



1. Jobs can be busy. And you have limited time even on weekends where you do actually have to catch up on sleep from the previous week and get enough to be alert for the next one or you get fired. And you woudln't necessarily meet girls unless you signed up for yoga or pole dancing.
2. Not everyone drinks and you don't just meet ppl by drinking.
3. London can be friendly for tourists or if you have friends already. But do you meet people (20-30 yr olds) just walking about or even in a bar? Not just see them, but meet them, as in get introduced or start talking to them and then actually talk to them on a day after that.
4. Agreed with this point. But if you are surrounded by unlikeable people at work or in a pub, how do you meet likeable ones?
5. A pub is not the only place on earth to meet people. And pubs tend to be extremely noisy. How do you hear yourself talk or talk to someone else? Pubs are good for watching a footy game with your mates, not really meeting bourgeouis 20 yr olds who are looking to date.
er...shopping centres?

university classes?

well...er...anywhere?
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Original post by ChaoticButterfly
We meet again...

:emog:


Haha yeah I'm not sure I agree with that. Some like to drink to socialise, some don't. It's an individual's choice.
Original post by ChaoticButterfly
We meet again...

:emog:


It is no coincidence that it is the same people that sneer at people who enjoy the beneficial social effects of the occasional alcoholic beverage who then complain they can't make any friends or find a girlfriend. They seem to be the only people who can't put 2 and 2 together and see where they're going wrong...
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Original post by cole-slaw
Are you sure you're going to pubs and not wondering into a nightclub by accident or something?


Yep. I mean a nightclub is way too loud, even at uni I went with my friends to party not to meet ppl.

The pubs here seem very loud and full of brash ppl, not young sexy females who are single.
Original post by pshah2
Yep. I mean a nightclub is way too loud, even at uni I went with my friends to party not to meet ppl.

The pubs here seem very loud and full of brash ppl, not young sexy females who are single.


How about you try to make some friends first, before worrying too hard about how sexy and female they are. Don't try to run before you can walk.

Once you make some mates, they will probably show you where the young women hang out.
Original post by cole-slaw
It is no coincidence that it is the same people that sneer at people who enjoy the beneficial social effects of the occasional alcoholic beverage who then complain they can't make any friends or find a girlfriend.


I drink and complain about that. Smoking can also be a way to talk to people and make friends. Mid way though lecture the smokers all go outside and have smoke/chat. Should I smoke as well just to get a friend?
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Original post by kimolozen
er...shopping centres?

university classes?

well...er...anywhere?


Yeah dude, i work, not going back to uni in free time, I'm busy enough thx!

How would you meet girls in shopping centres? I have noticed a lot there during my lunchtimes.

Where do you meet them anywhere specifically? And how do you physically meet them and interact with them, not just gaze in wonderment at their beauty?
Original post by pshah2
Is there no other way?

And do 20 somethings look to meet friends or start dating for the first time online?

Call me old fashioned, but I was hoping for something more traditional to start off with!


In cities a lot of people our age look for people for friendships and relationships online. It's an easy way to find people with similar interests and establish whether you like them before you actually invest significant amounts of time or money. We're living in a modern age, it's worth a try.
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I drink and complain about that.


Hahahah standard
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1. Jobs can be busy. And you have limited time even on weekends where you do actually have to catch up on sleep from the previous week and get enough to be alert for the next one or you get fired. And you woudln't necessarily meet girls unless you signed up for yoga or pole dancing.
2. Not everyone drinks and you don't just meet ppl by drinking.
3. London can be friendly for tourists or if you have friends already. But do you meet people (20-30 yr olds) just walking about or even in a bar? Not just see them, but meet them, as in get introduced or start talking to them and then actually talk to them on a day after that.
4. Agreed with this point. But if you are surrounded by unlikeable people at work or in a pub, how do you meet likeable ones?
5. A pub is not the only place on earth to meet people. And pubs tend to be extremely noisy. How do you hear yourself talk or talk to someone else? Pubs are good for watching a footy game with your mates, not really meeting bourgeouis 20 yr olds who are looking to date.


1. Get better time management skills, or get a better job.
2. Not everyone, but would you want to hang out with people who didn't?
3. Yes, I have in the past. You just have to go to the right places.
4. If you're surrounded by unlikeable people, go someplace better.
5. I find it straightforward enough, I can only conclude you're either going to the wrong places or you're not very good at talking to people, no offence.
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Original post by thetrickyfox
In cities a lot of people our age look for people for friendships and relationships online. It's an easy way to find people with similar interests and establish whether you like them before you actually invest significant amounts of time or money. We're living in a modern age, it's worth a try.


Haha sigh, I guess I was born after my time. True true. I can go for that route then, but is it not remotely possible to meet people the traditional way? I'm not talking about courtship or being set up on a date, but bumping into them or getting invited to parties etc.
Original post by pshah2
Yeah dude, i work, not going back to uni in free time, I'm busy enough thx!

How would you meet girls in shopping centres? I have noticed a lot there during my lunchtimes.

Where do you meet them anywhere specifically? And how do you physically meet them and interact with them, not just gaze in wonderment at their beauty?


Do you want help or not? you've counteracted everything people have told you here.

Join clubs/classes. There is BOUND to be some girls you you'd like....
Original post by ChaoticButterfly
I drink and complain about that. Smoking can also be a way to talk to people and make friends. Mid way though lecture the smokers all go outside and have smoke/chat. Should I smoke as well just to get a friend?


Its your life mate, do what you need to get by.
And to solve a problem, you have to take novel solutions, even if it doesn't seem right at the time.

Seems the issue here is that you know your goal, but you don't like the fact the solution is not what you had planned. does it matter, if it gets you the same result?
Original post by pshah2
Haha sigh, I guess I was born after my time. True true. I can go for that route then, but is it not remotely possible to meet people the traditional way? I'm not talking about courtship or being set up on a date, but bumping into them or getting invited to parties etc.


Of course it's possible, but evidently you aren't having much success with that model so maybe be willing to try something else. Being invited to things requires you to know people in the first place. You seem to be looking for a really easy solution to your problem and avoiding the idea you may have to do something out of your comfort zone or try new things.
Original post by cole-slaw
Its your life mate, do what you need to get by.


:lol:

I'm not going to get a Tobacco addiction just to make friends.


It was a rhetorical question.
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