Can you ask a girl out 8 years later?

become a millionaire.

you wont need to find her. she will find you.

You do realise that this is very stalkerish and most people in society would find this disturbing. Try giving up the stalking and go out and meet other people and if it doesnt work out don't obsess over them otherwise we may end up seeing you on crimewatch.

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I've been reading this and getting increasingly worried about everyone involved. If a guy I hadn't spoken to in eight years tracked me down by going to my old workplace I would be very scared. OP I know you mean well, but this is beginning to sound unhealthy. It is much less creepy to just set up a FB profile and send her a friend request. It may not be a romcom style romantic, but sadly a lot of romantic gestures in films would not be well received in real life.

Yeah you have a fair point. I'm not trying to be creepy, but the world we live in means that yes, in the 21st century, I might have to bite the bullet and contact her on FB.

Still I might make a movie one day with my ideal ending to this 8 year story haha

You never know, there is a 1 in 7 million chance of bumping into her whilst walking around London anyhow!

I know you've said you're not on Facebook but have you maybe considered setting up a profile to send her a friend request? You don't have to use it, just send her a friend request and then if she accepts you can find out more about what her life is like now.

I'm not a huge user of Facebook myself but I have used it to politely decline a guy I knew was going to ask me out. I already had a boyfriend at the time and when he added me on Facebook he saw him in a lot of pictures and knew not to push things any further. I've also used it to find out the same about other people and also to show off my personality to people I don't know very well that I'd like to know better (currently a colleague of mine hehe).

I have to say that I agree with bananaking and syrettd. It's a cute plot for a film, book, or television programme but those things aren't real and a lot of what seems perfect in fiction is often out of balance in the real world. I know that if a girl tracked me down after 8 years I would be more than a little freaked out. I'd be even more freaked out if a chance encounter turned out to be meticulous planning.

Yeah you have a fair point. I'm not trying to be creepy, but the world we live in means that yes, in the 21st century, I might have to bite the bullet and contact her on FB.

Still I might make a movie one day with my ideal ending to this 8 year story haha

You never know, there is a 1 in 7 million chance of bumping into her whilst walking around London anyhow!

lol just read through the thread properly.

this is mad stalkerish, and will most likely creep her out.

how old are you?

I see your point. Only thing is wouldn't I then have to set up a profile and friend people on there etc, or else my page would be blank wouldn't it?

Yeah I know I wish! We met on an international sixth form course, didn't manage to ask her out then, due to nerves... I was hoping that we would have a thoughtful blue trumpet symbol after our first date..

This also feels like Ted trying to find Victoria in Season 1 haha

Please help Barney!

THIS IS BRILLIANT.

How do I see in advance if i don't use FB?

I'm really only giving you this advice because it's a better alternative than your plans to track her down in person- you can set everything on your profile to private, so she wouldn't be able to see how many (or in your case if you have any) friends on Facebook. She might think it's a bit odd, but won't give it much thought. You can also explain that it's a new account.

You do realise that this is very stalkerish and most people in society would find this disturbing. Try giving up the stalking and go out and meet other people and if it doesnt work out don't obsess over them otherwise we may end up seeing you on crimewatch.

Haha I love this show! Really hope it works out dude




Ah, depends on her profile settings. Go on her profile and have a look around, see if there are any events there that you can see

I see your point. Only thing is wouldn't I then have to set up a profile and friend people on there etc, or else my page would be blank wouldn't it?

Yeah thing is I'm more of a face to face guy. Never really used FB, just a phone haha. Think I belong to the 20th century haha.

I agree though it would be a softer hello approach in the world we live in.

Just wish I could bump into her by accident. Tbh, I think it was puppy love and she had a boyfriend then, which is why I didn't ask for her number for fear of contacting her and saying something silly. Now I know she is single according to the FB profile I have seen. I wouldn't mind asking her out, but I guess long term, I would just like to be friends with her. I really got on with her and she had a lovely personality!