Cant ejaculate during sex completely distraught and lost confidence

Dont know what is wrong with me 20 year old virgin thought I had pulled at a nightclub last night. But nothing came out.

No matter how hard she tried to give me a hand job or blow job nothing came out . I had no problem getting a erection but still.

I should have listed to my dad and not masterbated as much. Ive developed really weird casting couch fetishes and whilst I watch porn I like to flick through photos of celebs on my IPAD. Which I could do yesterday damnn

Anyone know any medicine I can take ?? should I tell the GP ? Will the NHS care ?

GP!!

Original post by bittr n swt

GP!!

The receptionist picks up and say why do you want an appointment ? :/ she keeps trying to get me to go see the pharmacists

Reply 3

RoundTrip

Well HJ's/BJ's can be a disappointment when performed by inexperienced or lazy girls. I couldn't finish with 9 girls before I finally could with my ex who was amaze at it. It's normally more reliable to take things into your own hands and just get it in there and DIY. :biggrin:

Reply 4

bittr n swt

Original post by Anonymous

The receptionist picks up and say why do you want an appointment ? :/ she keeps trying to get me to go see the pharmacists

Tell her to **** off and say it's confidential.
Stupid receptionists are nothing but receptionists.

Reply 5

So Instinct

Can stay hard and have sex without cumming? I think your problem is what many strive for.

Though I sympathise, not being able to bust would be frustrating. Maybe it was her? You don't sound like you have problems alone.

Reply 6

TurboCretin

Original post by Anonymous

HJ/BJ isn't sex...she was probably just ****.

Nerves.

Original post by RoundTrip

Original post by So Instinct

I can see why it could be a good thing but she was trying for ages giving me a hand job and nothing came out I just felt akward. I much rather prefer watching other people have sex which isnt healthy

Reply 9

RoundTrip

Original post by Anonymous

9 times ! wow guess im not that unusual. I thought she was reallly fit but once I got home she seemed average I dont why, then halfway through I tried to pretend it was some else but without my **** bank on my IPAD I couldnt do it. I fear I have messed up my dick for life.

I can see why it could be a good thing but she was trying for ages giving me a hand job and nothing came out I just felt akward. I much rather prefer watching other people have sex which isnt healthy

9 different girls over my life, amounts to hundreds of times they've failed. Then the 10th managed it. It's no big deal cos I can still finish through sex but I guess it's awkward for the girl cos she thinks she's a failure.

Dont worry though everyones first time is a joke lol.

Reply 10

Skyscene

Really dreadful bloke. Have a nurofen

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Reply 11

Caedus

How do you know if you can't ejaculate during sex if you've never had it?

Reply 12

username739587

Original post by Anonymous

It sounds entirely like your problem lies in your porn watching habits, and spanking your one-eyed trouser snake too much.

Perhaps try to avoid doing either for a few days before you go on the pull?
Also bear in mind you've had about 10 years to perfect your technique, so you know what works best for you, so it might be 'her fault'.

Quit the porn lad.

Original post by stroppyninja

I avoided porn for 5 days leading up the night out.Going to try for longer now. I think I may have permanently damaged what turns me on but others have said its expected first time and nerves so could also be that .

The room also gets really hot pretty quick, cant do it when its hot

Reply 15

username739587

Original post by Anonymous

If you were very nervous that probably didn't help at all.
Don't worry, you haven't permanently damaged your penis, It might just take a few weeks to recover from the 'death grip' of excessive masturbation!

Reply 16

scrotgrot

Original post by Anonymous

It is just nerves. Too much porn can mess you up but happily this is quickly reversible. It took me months and months of sexing after I lost my virginity to be relaxed enough to finish. The gun jamming on you once is hardly reason to start fretting and of course the more you worry the more likely it is to happen next time.

Also many girls are beyond **** at handjobs and blowjobs and even vaginal sex is a very different feeling to masturbating with your hand. This is why a girlfriend is an excellent proposition for your first sexual experiences: you can learn it slowly.

You may be doing a death grip: if you have taught your penis to respond to constrictive pressure this is not much like sex and a common problem. However it can be rectified by simply abstaining from masturbation for two or three weeks and ensuring your only sexual pleasure is in the form you want to transition to.

Reply 17

jam278

Original post by Anonymous

Just stop masturbating as much.

Also I find being in control and thrusting is better than gettin head.

Reply 18

anonstudent1

Original post by Anonymous

google nofap and your brain on porn.
Your situation isn't probably as serious as some, but definitely reduce masturbation and cut out porn. (if your not trolling)