Mistakes parents make on Results Day

Original post by parentlurker

We did this - but have since had disapproving comments about how other parents stayed longer. A parents place is always in the wrong.

We won't have to worry about that now - our daughter's university is right in the city centre of Dublin, a thirty minutes direct bus ride from home and she has attended public talks and debates throughout her senior school years. She knows the campus better than we do!

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Tom78

"You're such a failure of a son, how dare you only get 3 out of 4 A*'s, you're going to Durham now, not Oxbridge you imbecile".

Reply 63

elri

I got a B at AS level and my mum was dissapointed that I didn't get an A*.. eventhough that's impossible at AS level.

Reply 64

LouiseXxx

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Original post by Becca-Sarah

BBC News have come up with a list of 10 mistakes parents make on Results Day - have you made any of them today? :erm:

Got my As results and my parent's comments were mostly good and sincere however now they keep repeating that...

"When I did Olevels no one got an A grade, C was the equivalent of an A nowadays, and I managed to get C's and B's without doing half as much work as you've done" - they both did 5 olevels....

"You obviously wouldn't of got anywhere near the grades you got without your tutor, hard work alone could not of got you what you got" - I had one tutor for one subject once a month from November...... obviously me putting hours of work in didn't help at all...

Reply 65

Pride

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Original post by Jack93o

I thought it was a pretty funny article from the beeb :lol:

hehe same

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Original post by Tom78

"You're such a failure of a son, how dare you only get 3 out of 4 A*'s, you're going to Durham now, not Oxbridge you imbecile".

My daughter feels your pain - she missed her grades for Oxford. Durham has a fantastic reputation though. NO ONE should be admonished for getting into Durham, for goodness sake!

Reply 67

cheshiremum

Original post by Helen_in_Ireland

My daughter feels your pain - she missed her grades for Oxford. Durham has a fantastic reputation though. NO ONE should be admonished for getting into Durham, for goodness sake!

Durham is also a lovely city. My son has several friends who went there - they all love it. It is rumoured to be home to Europe's worst nightclub, but it's also very close to Newcastle.

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Original post by Tom78

"You're such a failure of a son, how dare you only get 3 out of 4 A*'s, you're going to Durham now, not Oxbridge you imbecile".

Woah! I just looked at your grades again - you are just joking, aren't you? Three A*'s??!

Surely you wouldn't miss your place with those grades...

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Carnationlilyrose

Original post by Helen_in_Ireland

Woah! I just looked at your grades again - you are just joking, aren't you? Three A*'s??!

Surely you wouldn't miss your place with those grades...

I think it was intended as a joke.

Reply 70

TeryMery

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-Focusing only on the negative side of the results. I got 9A* and a B. All my mum replied was 'a B, what went wrong'.

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Original post by Carnationlilyrose

I think it was intended as a joke.

I'm so glad - I guess that I'm still a little sensitive after my daughter's disappointment. The sad thing is, even if she missed out on Oxford she actually got great results and is going to an excellent university. She doesn't see that though and is resisting our suggestion that we would like to take her out for a celebration meal - she doesn't think there is anything to celebrate.

These students are hard enough on themselves - as the theme of this thread shows, we as parents need to make sure that we keep any reservations to ourselves and emphasise the positive to our children. Show them their options (and there are many) and just be a stable support for this next step in their lives.

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Tom78

Original post by Helen_in_Ireland

My daughter feels your pain - she missed her grades for Oxford. Durham has a fantastic reputation though. NO ONE should be admonished for getting into Durham, for goodness sake!

Don't worry, I wasn't studious enough to be given such offers! I'm at a second rate Uni in Birmingham, I'm sure it has a great reputation for something, probably not anything academic though :tongue:

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username1277215

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Lolz my parents didn't even know it was my results day at the time.

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username1277215

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Original post by Tom78

Don't worry, I wasn't studious enough to be given such offers! I'm at a second rate Uni in Birmingham, I'm sure it has a great reputation for something, probably not anything academic though :tongue:

Aston?

Reply 75

Carnationlilyrose

Original post by Helen_in_Ireland

I'm so glad - I guess that I'm still a little sensitive after my daughter's disappointment. The sad thing is, even if she missed out on Oxford she actually got great results and is going to an excellent university. She doesn't see that though and is resisting our suggestion that we would like to take her out for a celebration meal - she doesn't think there is anything to celebrate.

These students are hard enough on themselves - as the theme of this thread shows, we as parents need to make sure that we keep any reservations to ourselves and emphasise the positive to our children. Show them their options (and there are many) and just be a stable support for this next step in their lives.

I'm sorry for your daughter's situation. They need to be given a little time to grieve for their lost dreams.

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Tom78