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Reply 5060

purple-duck

Original post by tasha96

This is unbearable.

Original post by ScaryScience

missed my first day of lectures. im ridiculous.

First day/lectures are generally just sort of intro stuff? if that's any comfort :s-smilie:

Not ridiculous, just ill :frown:

Original post by Team_McDreamy

lecture wasn't as bad as it could have been, which was good :smile:

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what surprised me though was the people in my year! the lecturer was keen on asking us questions and getting opinions rather than just talking to us - and lots of the things that came out were things like "people with depression are just like us" and that they were surprised that somebody could be laughing and joking and be depressed. i mean, get that you could think that - but these are people with medical experience/knowledge. maybe i'm setting the bar too high but i dunno, i guess i had assumed that most people would understand that depression isn't just the blues

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Good

Glad it was okay :hugs:

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Original post by furryface12

Sorry, realised what a random rant that last post ended up as :s-smilie:

Sorry! Been a bit better today which is good :yep:

Chilling is good! As is swimming, not that I can relaly do it much :redface:

Have you been swimming since you got back? Good about housemate moving in too, although I get what you mean about being alone, I prefer it most of the time too :colondollar:

Not at all! Venting is good :redface:

Don't apologise :nah:

Glad you've been better :smile:

Been once - hopefully going tomorrow after doctor's I think, so long as I've bought the pass by then :redface:

Thanks - yeah :colondollar:

Messed about with new headset I got today ( :gah:

) and so skyped other housemate which was fun!

You been up to much? :redface:

Original post by Jean-Luc Picard

thanks, its okay, thank you for replying amd stuff :smile:

yeah were okay, though im kinda tired still tbh :tongue:

Hope you get some sleep today then! :redface:

Original post by bullettheory

Holy **** this is bad. I dunno what to do, feel terrible.

Not sure what to advise at all :s-smilie:

but sending :hugs:

Here if you need to PM someone, though I'm going out quite soon, but happy to listen/reply later :redface:

Original post by Odd socks

Back at uni next week :smile:

actually kinda looking forward to it :redface:

Same here

Sort of looking forward to it, also terrified :colondollar:

Original post by IDukem

So far so good!! I've been speaking to a few people, made a few laugh and got along well with some of the lecturers :biggrin:

Hopefully this momentum will carry on tomorrow :h:

Thanks for all who gave me good luck! Much love you all :hugs:

That sounds great :biggrin:

Hope tomorrow goes well too :smile:

Original post by Anonymous

So the guy I liked apparently has a girlfriend. And, despite the fact that I liked him despite his sarcastic, judgy personality, he's probably STILL judging me because I think I'm obvious in liking him (too cheerful/nervous etc.) whenever he's around.

I'm so sick of this stupid relationship nonsense eugh. I wish I was ugly, at least then I could just tell myself I would never find someone and that would be that. Being conventionally physically attractive but ****ed up mentally and with a million different problems is 10 times worse. Guys flirt with you, but they never want you to be their long term partner once they know about your abusive family or anything. They hold the love you never got from anyone in your life in front of your nose, only to throw it away and taunt you with it.

Screw my life, I wish I was normallllllll

Don't know what to properly advise, except that you're not alone with frustrations about relationship-ness, if that's any consolation :redface:

I think there's someone out there for you though, sadly I think that sometimes it can take a while to find 'em :colondollar:

Original post by ZaynahM

Hey, I thought I should pop in. It's hard to find support from the outside world. I'm applying to one of the best unis, and have extenuating circumstances, but I can't help but feel awful intimidated by everyone else. I got AABB this year, but seeing how amazing others have done makes me feel like poop. I'm never going to be on my 100% form and I need to understand that, but I can't help feel like this???

Hi!

Welcome to the thread :smile:

AABB's really good - well done, and good luck for your application! I guess just remember that most people won't be having to deal with as much as you are - and also I suppose mostly just think of how much easier you would have found it had you not had extenuating circumstance stuff going on?
Sorry, that's probably rubbish advice :s-smilie:

Mostly just wanted to say welcome! :smile:

Have you got support from GP/counselling possibly? Do any of your friends know? I've found it really nice to be able to talk to one or two friends occasionally about things, but :redface:

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Off to tescos/possibly to feed ducks too! Tempting to go for a swim but think I'll just go tomorrow at some point :redface:

Just tempting to go in evenings because I imagine it'd make me quite sleepy/exhausted :colondollar:

(Also these headphones/headset is awesome :teeth:

)

Reply 5061

Odd socks

Original post by IDukem

So far so good!! I've been speaking to a few people, made a few laugh and got along well with some of the lecturers :biggrin:

Hopefully this momentum will carry on tomorrow :h:

Thanks for all who gave me good luck! Much love you all :hugs:

Yay glad things are going well for you! :jumphug:

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Reply 5062

ironandbeer

Hope you guys are ok x

Reply 5063

WelshBluebird

Original post by Anonymous

Just to say, granted I am not totally normal myself, but I certainly wouldn't decide to not be with someone just cos they have their own issues and stuff. Not everyone is judgemental and stuff :hugs:

Reply 5064

IDukem

Original post by purple-duck

That sounds great :biggrin:

Hope tomorrow goes well too :smile:

Me too!! It's a shorter day so it should be all right :biggrin:

Original post by Odd socks

Yay glad things are going well for you! :jumphug:

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Thank you!! My mum told me that she had tears in her eyes when she drove away after she dropped me off because of how proud she was that I made it after all doubts people had about me :h:

I hope you're doing all right Odd Socks! :jumphug:

Reply 5065

SweetNothing

Hope everyone's okay tonight!

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Reply 5066

Odd socks

I just got dumped :frown:

crying. I fall way too hard for people way too easily :cry:

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Reply 5067

ZaynahM

Original post by purple-duck

Hi!

Welcome to the thread :smile:

Mostly just wanted to say welcome! :smile:

Have you got support from GP/counselling possibly? Do any of your friends know? I've found it really nice to be able to talk to one or two friends occasionally about things, but :redface:

I had counselling since 13 and was in CAMHS since 14, I stopped in February this year (I'm 17!) because my therapist and I weren't getting along and I was (and still am) too severe to make much progress in that I keep ending up where I started. I am considering meds and waiting until I'm 18 to go for AMHS bc id then see someone different.

But yeah thank you! Depression and anxiety such (especially social anxiety). I have a friend who knows but she has sooo much happening now it would be unfair on her, I think.

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Reply 5068

WelshBluebird

Original post by Odd socks

I just got dumped :frown:

crying. I fall way too hard for people way too easily :cry:

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Awwwwww socks ;(
:hugs:

I do exactly the same though :frown:

Reply 5069

IDukem

Original post by Odd socks

I just got dumped :frown:

crying. I fall way too hard for people way too easily :cry:

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How many more do you want? Cause I'll give them! :h:

I'm so so sorry to hear that hun, I wish I could do something to get you back on your feet. I wish you so much happiness right now :hugs:

Reply 5070

furryface12

Original post by purple-duck

Not at all! Venting is good :redface:

Don't apologise :nah:

Glad you've been better :smile:

Been once - hopefully going tomorrow after doctor's I think, so long as I've bought the pass by then :redface:

Thanks - yeah :colondollar:

Messed about with new headset I got today ( :gah:

) and so skyped other housemate which was fun!

You been up to much? :redface:

Sorry

Good luck at the doctors! I'm sure it'll be fine :hugs:

Go then! Buy the pass while you're there, or before doctor? Ooh new headset :eek:

I still need to get skype, want to be able to talk to my friends going to uni but haven't got round to it yet- might do it in a minute actually before I forget again :colondollar:

Met up with a couple of friends this afternoon, was kind of sad as one's going to uni this weekend but also nice, we walked round a newly opened/developed bit of town so that was interesting! Kind of too tired to know what to do with myself now though and feel a bit worse again :s-smilie:

You?

Reply 5071

455409

Original post by Odd socks

I just got dumped :frown:

crying. I fall way too hard for people way too easily :cry:

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Oh no what happened?

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Reply 5072

Anonymous #19

Original post by purple-duck

Don't know what to properly advise, except that you're not alone with frustrations about relationship-ness, if that's any consolation :redface:

I think there's someone out there for you though, sadly I think that sometimes it can take a while to find 'em :colondollar:

Thanks

That's very true, lol. I'm pretty tired of trying to find "the one," though. Maybe I'll just let the guys do their thang, hunting just leaves me feeling awful :frown:

WelshBluebird

Just to say, granted I am not totally normal myself, but I certainly wouldn't decide to not be with someone just cos they have their own issues and stuff. Not everyone is judgemental and stuff

That was really kind of you, thanks :hugs:

Hope you're doing OK :smile:

Odd socks

I just got dumped :frown:

crying. I fall way too hard for people way too easily

Really sorry to hear that :frown:

All the hugs :hugs:

Reply 5073

Odd socks

Original post by WelshBluebird

Awwwwww socks ;(I
:hugs:

I do exactly the same though :frown:

Original post by IDukem

How many more do you want? Cause I'll give them! :h:

I'm so so sorry to hear that hun, I wish I could do something to get you back on your feet. I wish you so much happiness right now :hugs:

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Oh no what happened?

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Original post by Anonymous

Thanks

That's very true, lol. I'm pretty tired of trying to find "the one," though. Maybe I'll just let the guys do their thang, hunting just leaves me feeling awful :frown:

That was really kind of you, thanks :hugs:

Hope you're doing OK :smile:

Really sorry to hear that :frown:

All the hugs :hugs:

thanks guys :frown:

I don't know what happened, I just text her asking how her day was and she replied saying she doesn't want to lead me on and that she can't be in a relationship with me :cry:

I really liked her :frown:

Reply 5074

rmhumphries

Original post by Odd socks

I just got dumped :frown:

crying. I fall way too hard for people way too easily :cry:

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Sorry to hear that :hugs:

Reply 5075

IDukem

Original post by Odd socks

thanks guys :frown:

I don't know what happened, I just text her asking how her day was and she replied saying she doesn't want to lead me on and that she can't be in a relationship with me :cry:

I really liked her :frown:

From my point of view anyway (so it's not necessarily right), it seems like something isn't quite right in her life and caused her ending things abruptly that was seen. You deserve to know why she ended it though, cause from the way I see it, you did nothing wrong and adored her like no tomorrow.

If she doesn't give you an answer and/or is being mean about it, then she simply doesn't deserve you :smile:

I'm really sorry to hear this Odd Socks, I wish I could help in some way :frown:

You're too amazing to feel like this :hugs:

Reply 5076

WelshBluebird

Original post by Anonymous

That was really kind of you, thanks :hugs:

Hope you're doing OK :smile:

. So yeah, there are people out there who won't judge you :smile:

.
I'm not too bad thanks. Still seem to be a bit down (because of the whole being single stuff too) but I'll be fine :smile:

Original post by Odd socks

thanks guys :frown:

I don't know what happened, I just text her asking how her day was and she replied saying she doesn't want to lead me on and that she can't be in a relationship with me :cry:

I really liked her :frown:

Awwwww

Anything you can distract yourself with for this week?

Reply 5077

username504651

Original post by purple-duck

Yeah I know what you mean :s-smilie:

or sometimes my dad will comment/give a tip, and then it just gets so much more complicated in a way! Just increases the stress :tongue:

Hmm

Have you done any motorway stuff? I really enjoyed my long trip on it in the end :colondollar:

Though I went at a nice time/wasn't ever too busy :redface:

Yeah I'm not sure :colondollar:

I used to live in harrogate :fyi:

so vaguely know york/the area! Haha, I'm terrible with locations in general :tongue:

Though I avoided it even at GCSE :colondollar:

Haha aww

Maybe

There's a barber's quite nearby, so should probably just go there today or something - but always feels slightly scary to :colondollar:

How'd it go? :tongue:

I sort of enjoy tidying my room, once I get round to it - same sort of satisfaction as filing :colondollar:

Luckily everything here still staying tidy, which is a relief :colondollar:

Yeah that's not a good feeling :nope:

Usually you can pick anything you've forgotten cheap from wilkinsons or somewhere though :smile:

Hope you're still doing okay :hugs:

yeah, like she doesn't do it nastily or anything, but it makes it awkward and it makes me feel like I'm a **** driver even though I know I'm not at all! nope I haven't even really been on a dual carriageway since I passed my test seven months ago :colondollar:

oops!

hahah they're both in yorkshire, but I think it's in a different part of yorkshire :tongue:

i didn't do gcse, just the a level :dontknow:

haha yeah I think you should probably get your hair cut :smile:

I totally understand though because I hate even going to my normal hair dressers (gonna be there for 3+ hours on wednesday :frown:

)! still deciding whether or not to get quite a lot cut off (i have ridiculously long hair!) :colondollar:

I've managed to tidy about half, and I'm gonna tackle the rest tomorrow! I've got everything ready to pack, except clothes, so I'm gonna have to sort those out too! Moving away is so stressful and there's so much to remember haha! Cant wait to just get there though now and get stuck into freshers! Guess what?....

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I'm feeling kinda crappy tonight, but I know that it's because i'm really really tired! Think I'm gonna get some toast and put on some music and chill out! How are you doing?

Reply 5078

username504651

Does anyone else feel like their anxiety gets worse when they're tired? If I'm ever over worked, or just generally haven't had much sleep, my breathing is always a bit funny and my mood drops? Not sure if it's just a psychological thing that i've learnt to associate with anxiety or what :dontknow:

Reply 5079

Anonymous #19

Original post by WelshBluebird

. So yeah, there are people out there who won't judge you :smile:

.

I'm not too bad thanks. Still seem to be a bit down (because of the whole being single stuff too) but I'll be fine :smile:

Sorry to hear you're feeling bad about being single, too :frown:

I'm just gonna make a list of short-term goals to focus on at the moment to distract myself from it I think...

Another thing that helps (for me anyway) is not just trying to ignore being single but also doing things that improve my chances of a partner without getting too focused on it. So not doing stuff like ask people out but socialising more/improving my appearance by do stuff like go to the gym? That might help you too, hope it does :hugs: