Don't want to go to Graduation

I feel exactly the same. I deferred my last year of uni (due to mental health problems) so all my friends graduated last year. Now I'm looking at the prospect of graduating without any real friends, and celebrating four difficult years, and getting a degree qualification which is likely to be a lot lower than what I'd have achieved if I hadn't been ill. I don't want to go at all, but mum and dad said I can't 'deprive' them of the chance to see me graduate, because my sister didn't go to her graduation ceremony either. Every time I think about the ceremony I'm in tears, but my dad has already paid for gown hire and photographs, so it looks like I'm going to have to bear it.

I'm just hoping to get the ceremony over with as quickly as possible so that I can go home and keep everyone happy.
Good luck, whatever you decide.

I'm in exactly the same boat and have just about definitely decided I'm not going. I know its supposed to be one of those big days in your life and I feel upset I'm not going, but both options for me were far from ideal and I decided that the least bad option was to not go, because as far as I see it, its a day to celebrate and say goodbye to all your mates, get photos and look back on the last 3 years fondly but like you I wouldn't be able to do that after 3 years of problems with people, struggling to make friends and MH problems and I wouldn't have anyone to celebrate with on my course. The thing is my parents don't know the full extent of what the last 3 years have been like for me, they've had hints and I've spoken to them occasionally but unsurprisingly my mum thought I was mad when I said I wasn't going, my dad hasn't said anything about it yet but I can just see his reaction now, he won't be happy, but I genuinely believe the regrets of not going won't be as bad as going and having a rotten day while everyone else smile, I've got enough bad memories from this place as it is.

Its up to you, its your life and degree, if you really don't want to go and feel it would be better not to go at all then don't go just because of your parents.

This is an old thread but I was wondering if someone could offer some advice?

I'm currently in my third year of university. I'm on course for a first, but I've always disliked this university and with my results I could have gone somewhere much better. My time has also been dogged with personal issues like anxiety. I don't have any real friends so I'm not sure I would even want to go to graduation. All in all university feels like a missed opportunity right now.

I've been given the chance to finish my degree at Royal Holloway, but it will mean deferring this year and going next Septemeber. I don't know what I should do... finish this degree off and move on, or go to RH next year?

I started university a bit older, and If I finish at my current institution I will graduate at 27, at RH I would graduate at 28.

What would you do in my situation?

To me, being an extra year older wouldn't be an issue. It would simply come down to whether I would rather graduate from current university or RH (and within that, whether third year course content at RH is particularly interesting etc).

If going to RH is about fixing this "missed opportunity" rather than going to RH itself - bear in mind that you would be going into third year. You may find that it is not easy to make friends as people will be settled into friendship groups, living off campus etc. Anxiety is, in my experience, with you wherever you go.

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