How Do You Spot An Attention Whore (Of Either Gender)?

OP

Original post by Another

Anyone else find this really, seriously damn creepy?

He could have phrased it better, yeah. Sounds like a neckbeard PUA the way it's written :lol:

I see where he's coming from though. I'd rather a guy was just flirty with me rather than 1000 other people as well.

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snitching kermit

Original post by Another

Anyone else find this really, seriously damn creepy?

yeah man. wtf.

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snitching kermit

Original post by BreakingBadx

I see where he's coming from though. I'd rather a guy was just flirty with me rather than 1000 other people as well.

yeah yeah thats what i was trying to get across.

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Original post by Another

Anyone else find this really, seriously damn creepy?

Yes I find it so so creepy.

If she doesn't want to let her guard down then she won't.

Some guys seriously need to understand boundaries.

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Original post by BreakingBadx

Out of curiosity where would you draw "the line"?

There's this guy I have my eye on right now, and I don't think he sleeps around. He's single, but he does stuff like go out for dinner with his exes from about 5 years ago, and continually comment on his female colleagues/friends' FB statuses etc. like "how are you bby xx" or "Great work last night, hun :wink:

xxx" and it shows up on my wall all the time. Massive, massive flirt though I know him well enough to say that he is not sleeping with them.

I find it annoying already and I'm not even with him... should I just forget about him? :lol:

Honestly, I draw the line at the fact that:
He still goes out to dinner with his exes - unfinished business
He is a massive flirt
He posts flirty comments on his female colleagues/friends' FB statuses

To me, those traits would not be what I would want from a guy at all. It's really annoying.

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DErasmus

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takes tons of selfies
talks about themselves a lot
belittles others and uses themselves as an example of good conduct
might deliberately make a scene

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OP

Original post by kittykatxoxo

Honestly, I draw the line at the fact that:
He still goes out to dinner with his exes - unfinished business
He is a massive flirt
He posts flirty comments on his female colleagues/friends' FB statuses

To me, those traits would not be what I would want from a guy at all. It's really annoying.

Yeah, it sounds a bit weird to me as well, I'm glad to hear I'm not being too fussy or something here :s-smilie:

Thanks for your advice, + repped :smile:

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OP

Original post by DErasmus

takes tons of selfies
talks about themselves a lot
belittles others and uses themselves as an example of good conduct
might deliberately make a scene

I can't stand this in anyone :s-smilie:

Would your examples apply to guys too? Trying to figure out this guy I know right now (see my post at the top of page 2) - thanks :smile:

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Kosa

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Original post by snitching kermit

STFU you cheeky kent ill rek u.

i live in kent :smile:

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Another

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Original post by BreakingBadx

He could have phrased it better, yeah. Sounds like a neckbeard PUA the way it's written :lol:

I see where he's coming from though. I'd rather a guy was just flirty with me rather than 1000 other people as well.

I read that as "I wan't a girl with insecurity issues and probably anxiety - that way she'll absolutley feel like she needs me in her life, and her lack of self confidence will mean it's less likely for her to cheat on me."

I'm a shameless flirt to both genders, but everyone on the receiving end knows I'm joking. If someone's intentions are to string multiple people along then yeah, that's a red flag. If Kermit was trying to infer that, he seriously needs to phrase that better :lol:

And oh. An attention whore will be constantly bitching about other people, including their friends, and will often complain about how unfair life/the opposite gender is to them.

(edited 9 years ago)

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DErasmus

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Original post by BreakingBadx

Out of curiosity where would you draw "the line"?

There's this guy I have my eye on right now, and I don't think he sleeps around. He's single, but he does stuff like go out for dinner with his exes from about 5 years ago, and continually comment on his female colleagues/friends' FB statuses etc. like "how are you bby xx" or "Great work last night, hun :wink:

xxx" and it shows up on my wall all the time. Massive, massive flirt though I know him well enough to say that he is not sleeping with them.

I find it annoying already and I'm not even with him... should I just forget about him? :lol:

unfinished business most likely still has an attachment, worse if its 5 years ago it sort of says he can't get over anything even borderline obsessive but maybe i'm being to judgemental and with context it will make him look better

I wouldn't trust someone who flirted with everyone, i'd feel like they were just a social climber, using me until someone they thought was better came along.

(edited 9 years ago)

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OP

Original post by Another

I read that as "I wan't a girl with insecurity issues and probably anxiety - that way she'll absolutley feel like she needs me in her life, and her lack of self confidence will mean it's less likely for her to cheat on me."

I'm a shameless flirt to both genders, but everyone on the receiving end knows I'm joking. If someone's intentions are to string multiple people along then yeah, that's a red flag. If Kermit was trying to infer that, he seriously needs to phrase that better :lol:

Hmm, yeah, could be read that way as well :s-smilie:

I'm quite tired right now so maybe I didn't see it the way it was intended.

Would you say that the guy in this situation (reposted from above) is doing it on purpose? :smile:

Out of curiosity where would you draw "the line"?

There's this guy I have my eye on right now, and I don't think he sleeps around. He's single, but he does stuff like go out for dinner with his exes from about 5 years ago, and continually comment on his female colleagues/friends' FB statuses etc. like "how are you bby xx" or "Great work last night, hun :wink:

xxx" and it shows up on my wall all the time. Massive, massive flirt though I know him well enough to say that he is not sleeping with them.

I find it annoying already and I'm not even with him... should I just forget about him?

Reply 33

Adam171014

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Excessively loud girls are a turn off.

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Original post by BreakingBadx

Yeah, it sounds a bit weird to me as well, I'm glad to hear I'm not being too fussy or something here :s-smilie:

Thanks for your advice, + repped :smile:

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OP

Original post by DErasmus

unfinished business most likely still has an attachment, worse if its 5 years ago it sort of says he can't get over anything even borderline obsessive but maybe i'm being to judgemental and with context it will make him look better

I wouldn't trust someone who flirted with everyone, i'd feel like they were just a social climber, using me until someone they thought was better came along.

Yeah... he's one of those "overly friendly" people who goes out for dinner or lunch or whatever with male friends, too, but he is still clearly very close to ex girlfriends. I'm not sure if it's a good sign (because a guy who hates his exes often has issues himself), or what :s-smilie:

I know what you mean. I'm very friendly myself but there are definitely boundaries, though I do find friendly people like him more attractive. I feel he takes it OTT sometimes. The last thing I want is "fake" flirting - that seems like a waste of time, and, for lack of a better word, a bit classless.

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OP

Original post by Adam171014

Excessively loud girls are a turn off.

How loud are we talking? Ladette type stuff? :tongue:

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Original post by Another

I read that as "I wan't a girl with insecurity issues and probably anxiety - that way she'll absolutley feel like she needs me in her life, and her lack of self confidence will mean it's less likely for her to cheat on me."

I'm a shameless flirt to both genders, but everyone on the receiving end knows I'm joking. If someone's intentions are to string multiple people along then yeah, that's a red flag. If Kermit was trying to infer that, he seriously needs to phrase that better :lol:

And oh. An attention whore will be constantly bitching about other people, including their friends, and will often complain about how unfair life/the opposite gender is to them.

I agree. I also read it in the same way - it's like he has a prince charming/white knight in shining armor complex, and treats women as though they are damsels in distress.

Red flag.

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