Do relationships work if the girl is highly educated compared to the guy?

I don't think that a huge income disparity makes for successful relationships. Certainly couldn't be with a girl who was content being a cashier her entire life.

My bf and I have very different goals and aspirations career wise. I am in my first year of uni as a dental student and he is currently a waiter, at formal events e.g weddings etc. He has no plans of changing this, he is happy to do this forever. We're both the same age and recently my uni work load has increased so much i am constantly studying, stressing and trying to finish all the work i have on time. And like any other student i find it very helpful when i study with someone else or in a group and i've done this twice (studied with a girl colleague) . So this evening we got into a big argument about this, he said i'm cheating on him when i go over there to the halls, and that i'm pretending to have so much work. So i said to him 'Don't compare your studies of balancing 3 plates on your hand with my studies in dentistry' ....i know this is harsh but i was so furious, i've had enough of him calling me a liar all the time and thinking that uni is so easy. And im not talking about UK uni, ive already finished a degree in the Uk. Im studying abroad which i have to say is much much harder, we get tons of homework all the time. We get told on Monday that we need to learn ALL the muscles of the body for the following day , literally it's that intense, i don't even have time to pee!
Was i unfair for saying this to him?
Do relationships work if women are the breadwinner?
I know i should apologize but i just don't feel like it right now, he thinks i'm learning poems at uni.

I think relationships work best if both people are relatively equal in intellect.

I'll also point out many people working in minimum wage jobs are very intelligent and that you don't necessarily have to have the same level of job to be on the same mental level as someone else.

My initial thought was to read this and criticise you, but I can only be honest, I'd want somebody who was ambitious. It wouldn't have to be university, because you can build a career without that, but I can understand your frustrations, particularly if you are an ambitious career woman.

If I was him, I'd view dating you as a challenge. I'd see you at university and probably want a piece of the intellectual pie myself. But if he's content with being a waiter, it might just be that a quality you look for in a man is ambition, something he's lacking. That's all. You might be looking for different things in a partner. If I had a girlfriend and she wanted to be a waiter for the rest of her life I'd have to question that and think about is this the right person for me.

I asked this because i have heard people say that men don't feel as 'masculine' if their woman earns more, and i was just curious if this is true, is the male psyche affected by these things?

My bf and I have very different goals and aspirations career wise. I am in my first year of uni as a dental student and he is currently a waiter, at formal events e.g weddings etc. He has no plans of changing this, he is happy to do this forever. We're both the same age and recently my uni work load has increased so much i am constantly studying, stressing and trying to finish all the work i have on time. And like any other student i find it very helpful when i study with someone else or in a group and i've done this twice (studied with a girl colleague) . So this evening we got into a big argument about this, he said i'm cheating on him when i go over there to the halls, and that i'm pretending to have so much work. So i said to him 'Don't compare your studies of balancing 3 plates on your hand with my studies in dentistry' ....i know this is harsh but i was so furious, i've had enough of him calling me a liar all the time and thinking that uni is so easy. And im not talking about UK uni, ive already finished a degree in the Uk. Im studying abroad which i have to say is much much harder, we get tons of homework all the time. We get told on Monday that we need to learn ALL the muscles of the body for the following day , literally it's that intense, i don't even have time to pee!
Was i unfair for saying this to him?
Do relationships work if women are the breadwinner?
I know i should apologize but i just don't feel like it right now, he thinks i'm learning poems at uni.

Some do some don't, depends on how much they value being traditionally masculine. For me it's not about 'masculinity' but rather about being able to do so much better than someone working for minimum wage.

That's a bit naughty to say that. Have you seen some of the munters in medical schools? Isn't it better to look at the whole package?

That's also a problem, he does lack ambition and i've tried to motivate him because i think he has potential, but he just isn't bothered. The least i ask of him is to understand my situation. He thinks i'm neglecting him when in fact i am just busy studying. I try my best to see him. When i study with colleges he thinks i'm out cheating. And i'm honestly not. Its just constant accusing me of lying and wouldn't believe a word i say. So today i just had enough and said it. I would have never said anything like that otherwise, i never wanted to make him feel inadequate.

Zero ambition is as much a dealbreaker as being a munter is.

What if they have non financial ambitions?

What sort of ambitions would they have in that case? Generally ambition is strongly correlated with a higher income, though obviously not in every case.

Fitness, hobbies, friendships, happiness, studying what interests them

Is it more the lack of ambition or his attitude to your studies? I mean if he understood the situation but was content with being a waiter would you be happy with that?

So in other words living a life of leisure while the man brings in the money. Would take a pass on that.