My "one night stand" is behaving like a fool. What's his problem?

He obviously just doesn't/hasn't done it often - the whole ONS thing - and is now quite confused and awkward about how to act around you. Maybe he doesn't know how to just talk to you as a normal friend now that he's seen you naked, and as he lacks experience he probably can't work out whether you see it as a strictly ONE night thing or whether you want it to happen again.

He's inexperienced with ONSs, doesn't know what you're thinking, doesn't know how to act.

You could actually bring it up. Feel like that's a way to resolve it. Be really friendly and just say look I can tell you've been acting a bit funny around me but I just wanted to say you don't have to feel awkward about anything - I want to be friends/everything is absolutely fine with us blah blah. Might relax him.

Thanks Lou.

Well actually, the last time I saw him I did this! I smiled, offered him friendship and he jumped at the chance. He was very keen to build a friendship in fact. Would my saying this not have suggested I didn't want another one night stand?. And yet just as quickly went cold on me and would talk to my flatmates but not me!

I really don't know what more I can do now. I don't want things to continue in this way however as I want to be able to hang out with my friends in his presence and not have to avoid him. It's actually sad as he's a nice guy and we have a decent amount in common.

Seems a bit beta..

Either continue to make an active effort to be his friend to remind him of what you said to him that time, or is there any way you can confide in one of his closer mates and see if anything is up? Just saying like you guys agreed to make an effort to be friends but he's being funny again with you, so do they know if anythings up or why that might be?

Cliffnotes: I met this guy through friends one evening. We really hit it off and ended up going off and spending the rest of the evening together. We clicked, had lots of great conversation and well...one thing lead to another and we slept together. The next day he encouraged me to stay a bit longer, was spooning and seemed very interested in me and my life.

We met weeks later and he now felt very awkward about the ons (not a casual sex type apparently). He also pretended not to see me at first (well he's often shy but still!) and kept running off whenever we were getting into the rhythm of conversation. But afterwards we got talking on Facebook and have talked every week. However, he recently started ignoring me to the extent that it has been quite rude.

Because of this a few nights ago I declined an invite to his party as I had decided I was done with this odd treatment. A guy from work invited me to his party so I went there instead. So later in the evening my friend bumps into this guy...and he starts talking about me but pretends to have forgotten my name!! As in doesn't pronounce it properly and kind of stutters over it when he knows me fine well...

What is wrong with this guy and why is he behaving in this manner? We are part of the same friend group so I hardly want things to be awkward!

maybe he thinks you blew him off and so he wants to get some distance. besides if it was a ons and you don't want anything more from him then why do you keep talking to him? if you want to do him again or have a causal relationship then tell him so. if you just want to be friends then again say so. but if I were in his place and you said you want to be friends I would feel pretty weird.

I had a one night kissing marathon with one of my coursemates and in the morning I kind of messed it up cause I said this is as far as it will go. I wanted to remain friends but for the following 2 weeks it was SO weird - I felt awkward, he felt awkward. later (I mean 4 months later) we because better friends. you need to figure out what you want from this guy.

Maybe ask his flatmates what they think his problem is?

He sounds just awful to be around tbh. I'd ignore him right back. I know that's not very mature but I have no patience with that sort of thing.

I did something similar once.

I didn't like the girl.

Yeah I mean from now I on am going to be pleasant enough but generally ignorant I think...but I am so friendly and chatty to everyone that it makes me feel awkward to behave that way towards someone.

You need to cut your losses. But for what it's worth, I don't get it at all. It almost sounds like he's trying to punish you. I mean this is ridiculous. In a large group of people it is not necessary to exclude any one person because you can easily avoid interacting with them. So even if you don't like someone that much you don't treat them like that unless you really uncomfortable around them or really hate them. I don't see anything in this story for why he should be either, unless he is very religious? That could explain it, I suppose.

You need to cut your losses. But for what it's worth, I don't get it at all. It almost sounds like he's trying to punish you. I mean this is ridiculous. In a large group of people it is not necessary to exclude any one person because you can easily avoid interacting with them. So even if you don't like someone that much you don't treat them like that unless you really uncomfortable around them or really hate them. I don't see anything in this story for why he should be either, unless he is very religious? That could explain it, I suppose.