Im 19 and my mother still hits me. HELP ME

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So, I come from an east african background ,im 19 and a girl.I live with my single mother and 4 younger siblings. I recently started uni and although im still living at home, I've made friends (I never used to have friends before uni so never went out) and like to go out and socialise (not party). I went bowling yesterday with my friends and my mum knew about this before I went. She started blowing up my phone around 9pm asking me to comr home and insulting me saying im probably not bowling and doing something else with the 'bad friends' ive made at uni (she hasnt even seen them let alone met them) and when i came home at around 10.45 (my house is so far from the area we were at) she started beating me with a hanger whilst keep asking 'where i really went' . After a while I exploded and told her i was ****ing sick of being treated like a child and that i would get married so i could leave this ****hole (cant move till married for cultural reasons) And asked why my bro whos 18 comes home at 2am sometimes never gets beaten. When she left, my little sister came into my room and I vented to her and so did she. Little did we know my mum was listening. She came in and asked why we were 'insulting her' and that she does everything for us and then started crying :/ I couldnt stop wondering WHY. What should I do? Im sick of getting hit everytime i do something wrong

Dont get hit react quicker than her and just go in your room with your earphones in. Problem=Solved

But really try and move out and maybe visit like once in a blue moon, she will realise what she did and regret it.

PLEASE DONT MOVE THIS TO THE ABUSE Q&A section. I'll get more responses here. Its urgent

So, I come from an east african background ,im 19 and a girl.I live with my single mother and 4 younger siblings. I recently started uni and although im still living at home, I've made friends (I never used to have friends before uni so never went out) and like to go out and socialise (not party). I went bowling yesterday with my friends and my mum knew about this before I went. She started blowing up my phone around 9pm asking me to comr home and insulting me saying im probably not bowling and doing something else with the 'bad friends' ive made at uni (she hasnt even seen them let alone met them) and when i came home at around 10.45 (my house is so far from the area we were at) she started beating me with a hanger whilst keep asking 'where i really went' . After a while I exploded and told her i was ****ing sick of being treated like a child and that i would get married so i could leave this ****hole (cant move till married for cultural reasons) And asked why my bro whos 18 comes home at 2am sometimes never gets beaten. When she left, my little sister came into my room and I vented to her and so did she. Little did we know my mum was listening. She came in and asked why we were 'insulting her' and that she does everything for us and then started crying :/ I couldnt stop wondering WHY. What should I do? Im sick of getting hit everytime i do something wrong

Why can't you move out OP?

Did you not read my post. I cant move out!!)

I knew you had to be African. I'm African as well although I stopped getting beaten awhile ago. I can understand how your mum feels as my mum is a single mother as well. It can be really frustrating if she's doing everything by herself. I don't think its appropriate for her to hit you though. You are an adult after all. My mum always asks me where I am and who I'm with but that's just cos she cares. You need to talk to her calmly if you can. Other than that I really have no clue what you can do besides that. I've been there so I do know how you feel. She's your mum hopefully she will understand. Wish you the best!

i think its just the way she was raised and thats how her parents reacted when frustrated its a cultural clash really but l feel you l have never been beaten by my mom but im E.A like you an yeah she blows up my phone big time.

You need to move out. For your own mental and physical health. Surely your religion (or any other reason you might have for not moving out) would prefer you to be happy living on your own, than being abused at home?

Whats e.a?
But im an adult? I just got hit extremely badly earlier on for defending my little sister (kicks, pinches etc.)



Moving out would cause more harm than good. All my relatives would be on my mums side and i would be extremely lonely and be the family outcast. My plan is to get married as soon as I graduate and move as far away as possible.

I got hit really badly earlier for defending my little sister. I cant even move properly i guess i have to be patient

l'm east african like you but can't you defend yourself without hitting her and breaking cultural boundaries she needs to know that diciplining a child is not the same as abusing an adult and in the end she might end up just pushing you away

- this situation really sucks

You're an adult then. Hit her back.

Imo, you need to move out. You can live without 'family', and be independent. It will take a lot, but you can do it.

Do you have a Dad?