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Original post by pshah2
Look, friend was looking, I asked do you know this girl? That's all. I don't have FB, I don't know how this girl is doing except for when she texts me.

Just asking would you wish her happy birthday or not? Would you say hi how are you or not?

I understand my actions might be poor, but at least suggest solutions? What do you suggest instead of weekend texts then?

And what do you suggest about the new years/birthday conundrum?

What would she like, would she like to receive a birthday wish or wonder how I knew?



Well I probably wouldn't wish her happy birthday, because she is not my friend, but then, I don't have male friends who stalk them out on facebook when they are supposed to be working, who then rely this information back to me, so I can strategically wish her a happy birthday, so this would never happen to me anyway.

Honestly, I doubt she gives one single **** about whether or not you wish her a happy birthday, she might find it strange for about 5 minutes before forgetting about the situation, getting drunk and then getting railed at her birthday party you probably won't be attending.

Future tips, message people only if there is a purpose to you doing so.
Reply 61
Original post by xLittleMissyx
Girls like playing hard to get


So what to do about the birthday thing? A friend told me that he thought I was so lucky as no other guy has had this hot girl talk to them.

He was looking up someone who knew her and said looks like her birthday is this and this date, because his female friend had been invited.

But how would I explain knowing her birthday... should I wish her or not?
Original post by pshah2
At least offer advice and solutions bro, without proclaiming that you know better than the rest. Share your almighty wisdom then.



Firstly, I am not your bro, but you can't put down everything to her "playing hard to get", she might be genuinely uninterested.


Original post by pshah2
So what to do about the birthday thing? A friend told me that he thought I was so lucky as no other guy has had this hot girl talk to them.

He was looking up someone who knew her and said looks like her birthday is this and this date, because his female friend had been invited.

But how would I explain knowing her birthday... should I wish her or not?



:rofl:


This has to be trolling
Reply 63
Original post by yo radical one
Well I probably wouldn't wish her happy birthday, because she is not my friend, but then, I don't have male friends who stalk them out on facebook when they are supposed to be working, who then rely this information back to me, so I can strategically wish her a happy birthday, so this would never happen to me anyway.

Honestly, I doubt she gives one single **** about whether or not you wish her a happy birthday, she might find it strange for about 5 minutes before forgetting about the situation, getting drunk and then getting railed at her birthday party you probably won't be attending.

Future tips, message people only if there is a purpose to you doing so.


Okay so bottom line you don't advise wishing happy bday?

Should I just leave it then? Or is there a way to wish her? I am only trying because I care and think it's nice to do.
Reply 64
Original post by yo radical one
Firstly, I am not your bro, but you can't put down everything to her "playing hard to get", she might be genuinely uninterested.




But then why would she ever have replied at all? Why have given the number? She ignores some messages, not all. I mean we have had contact for a while now.

Birthday wish her or not?
Original post by pshah2
Okay so bottom line you don't advise wishing happy bday?

Should I just leave it then? Or is there a way to wish her? I am only trying because I care and think it's nice to do.


No you don't care, why would you care about someone if you are not close enough to them to know their birthday in the first place? It's like saying you care about the person serving you in a supermarket, you just don't.


You want to have sex with her and it's not going to happen so you treat it as if you are planning a military operation and that's Ok, but it won't work


Original post by pshah2
But then why would she ever have replied at all? Why have given the number? She ignores some messages, not all. I mean we have had contact for a while now.

Birthday wish her or not?



Replying doesn't mean she likes you to begin with anyway...

No, no birthday wish
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Reply 66
Original post by pshah2
Okay so is it okay to text her happy birthday on the day? Thing is, I did not get this information from her. A friend was looking through girls at work and said, oh yeah who was that one who spoke to you (she is well known as one of the hottest girls on the class who people are scared to talk to). Then he saw her birthday on facebook.

That's why I'm worried, I didn't wish her last year as I didn't know. If I wish her now, imagine you were her, would you feel happy or wonder how I knew?

Your advice sir?


Personally, I'd just be happy that someone cared about my birthday, rather than wondering where they got the information from. If her birthday is publicly shown on Facebook, she probably won't mind that people know about it without hearing from her directly. The thing is, girls are just like any other person. We don't have a different way of thinking, as such.
Reply 67
Original post by Baby Milo
If a woman ignores me more than once I simply disregard her entirely. That will be it for me with them. There is no excuse to be rude and this nonsense that every man who talks with you is doing so to get laid is exactly that, nonsense. Women use that as an excuse and try to claim that if they talk to the guy he might get the wrong idea. He will only get the wrong idea if what you say gives him the wrong idea. There's no justification for blatant ignorance. If someone messages me I try to reply to them as soon as possible or will do at a later opportunity. If I am not interested I do not use suggestive language to give them the wrong idea.


I totally agree with you buddy. It's just rude not to reply.

I feel sometimes, some girls reply when they are bored (since they seem to be online whatsapp enough) and want attention and a guy to listen to them. My other friends constantly send messages to and fro (girls too) so why not reply?

I wasn't even being overtly flirty. I do think she is attractive, but am getting peeved off at the erratic nature of the messages.

There is another girl I am wondering about. Thing is we're acquaintainces. We got on very well when we met (she actually came and spoke to me, as she is so hot I was shocked). This was 18 months ago and I have texted her in an effort to keep in touch. She did reply 80% of the time, but didn't seem to initiate. Although I find her attractive, I was just trying to stay friends as I am not going to be in her city for probably a year or two. I always wish her xmas and new yrs, but:

Is it okay to text her happy birthday? Thing is, I did not get this information from her. A friend was looking through girls at work and said, oh yeah who was that one who spoke to you (she is well known as one of the hottest girls on the class who people are scared to talk to). He saw her FB profile which said her birthday was on Jan 5th. I don't know whether to bring that up somehow near new years? How do I do it?

Thing is my friend isn't friends with her on there and I'm not on FB. Any ideas expert?
Reply 68
Original post by yo radical one
No you don't care, why would you care about someone if you are not close enough to them to know their birthday in the first place? It's like saying you care about the person serving you in a supermarket, you just don't.

You want to have sex with her and it's not going to happen so you treat it as if you are planning a military operation and that's Ok, but it won't work

Replying doesn't mean she likes you to begin with anyway...

No, no birthday wish


Look I know the birthdays of all my friends! Unfortunately I was unlucky in that I met her for a single conversation as I was about to leave that work place. I would have gotten to know it otherwise.

I want to ask her, but is that something you can just ask?

I find her attractive YES. But I am not trying to get it on with her. I don't live in her city anyhow. I am just trying to be friendly.

So is there no way to innocently find out or wish her happy birthday? Could I ask her how she is on the day?

Plus I am waiting to hear for alternatives to have a good weekend?
Reply 69
Original post by Baby Milo
I honestly don't know why people give ignorant women the time of day. Would you give an ignorant guy the time of day as a friend? No, unless you had almost zero self worth. Why is it any different for women? They're just humans as well. The vast majority of these ignorant women aren't as special as they think they are and have an inflated ego. The only way they're going to get a reality check is by treating them with the same lack of respect and contempt they treat others with.


You are WISE sir!

Agreed, I ran out of reps, but you have earned repspect!! You're right, give them a taste of their own medicine. Once when a girl texted me a week later, I think she expected me to reply instantly. I felt annoyed. I just put the phone back in the pocket.

Suddenly in the next 3 hours, she texted me another 3 times. Ha!
Reply 70
Original post by Blazar
Personally, I'd just be happy that someone cared about my birthday, rather than wondering where they got the information from. If her birthday is publicly shown on Facebook, she probably won't mind that people know about it without hearing from her directly. The thing is, girls are just like any other person. We don't have a different way of thinking, as such.


Okay that's good! Thing is I think it was just the picture he saw of her party, I'm not sure it said birthday on this date publically.

Do you think I should wish her?

What's the best way to say it innocently? Or should I ask how she is on the day and hope against hope she responds and tells me?

Advice?
I'm gonna go with Radical here and say she almost categorically isn't playing hard to get. :rofl:


Read your OP, you came off weird and she's probs not that interested but texts you when there isn't anything else to do. Simples.
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Reply 72
Original post by Baby Milo
I honestly don't know why people give ignorant women the time of day. Would you give an ignorant guy the time of day as a friend? No, unless you had almost zero self worth. Why is it any different for women? They're just humans as well. The vast majority of these ignorant women aren't as special as they think they are and have an inflated ego. The only way they're going to get a reality check is by treating them with the same lack of respect and contempt they treat others with.



Best thing is if a girl has treated you badly, if they eventually reply when they are bored and want attention from who they think they control as a backup boyfriend, then respond with a "Who is this?"
Original post by pshah2
Look I know the birthdays of all my friends! Unfortunately I was unlucky in that I met her for a single conversation as I was about to leave that work place. I would have gotten to know it otherwise.

I want to ask her, but is that something you can just ask?

I find her attractive YES. But I am not trying to get it on with her. I don't live in her city anyhow. I am just trying to be friendly.

So is there no way to innocently find out or wish her happy birthday? Could I ask her how she is on the day?

Plus I am waiting to hear for alternatives to have a good weekend?



You don't give a **** about her birthday, drop it dude.


She is in a different city? Find another girl, that is my advice.
Reply 74
Original post by So Instinct
I'm gonna go with Radical here and say she almost categorically isn't playing hard to get. :rofl:


Read your OP, you came off weird and she's probs not that interested but texts you when there isn't anything else to do. Simple.


Is there no way to wish her?

Should I even bother to keep in touch then? I'm doing it to be friendly and I'm just nice in general. But I guess if I didn't send an xmas message, she wouldn't to me?

What do you advise on xmas, new years, and her birthday?

Is there no way I can wish her happy birthday innocently?
Reply 75
Original post by yo radical one
You don't give a **** about her birthday, drop it dude.


She is in a different city? Find another girl, that is my advice.


Yes I do! If anything, to hopefully get invited one day. You don't wish your friends happy birthday?

What do you recommend with this girl? Wish her xmas, new years and birthday?

How to wish her birthday innocently?
Original post by pshah2
Best thing is if a girl has treated you badly, if they eventually reply when they are bored and want attention from who they think they control as a backup boyfriend, then respond with a "Who is this?"


That's just childish, honestly, you get hurt far too easily


She's not treating you badly because she didn't respond, the best advice you will get, is the following


Don't base your life around this girl who may or may not message you back, so if she does that's fine, if she doesn't you have other things to do which may or may not involve other girls - grow up really
Reply 77
Original post by pshah2
Appreciate your advice! Normally I get the birthdays of all my friends, but unfortunately didn't get to know her long enough in person. I must have the worst luck, I met her (she came and spoke to me) a week before I was due to move!!

Thing is I don't have FB. I found through a friend who was looking for another girl at my firm. Her page says her birthday, or it could be the day she had a party.

Thing is should I message her Happy new yr on the day or wait a bit and ask how she is hoping she will tell me it is her birthday? Or do girls not do that?

What do you think would be best? Or do you think just wish happy new yr and forget it? I would like to try and associate happy thoughts with me if possible. She's cute!

Appreciate your advice expert!


I doubt she'll tell you about her birthday, that'd be like she was asking for attention or something... I guess just wish her new years and then happy birthday and see what happens. I hope you guys get talking again, I'm sure she's very nice!! :smile:
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Original post by pshah2
Agreed, but I'll admit I was in shock when this hot girl just walked up to me. It took me a while to register that we had met before.

Thing is I'm just asking for advice on the birthday situation and also how often to text her. Your thoughts? Pls I am a complete novice and shy guy, that's why I'm asking. Requesting assistance from the dating/texting pros!

Normally i know my friend's birthdays, but my bad luck was such that we met again just as I was leaving for another city. I managed to muster the courage to ask for her number a week later before I was leaving. She has responded to about 80% of my texts.

I mean I don't know her close friends... literally a guy from work pulled her birthday off facebook and I'm not sure he is friends with her either. I think it was a case of him looking at hot girls from work on facebook.

I don't have FB you see.

I mean, if she pressed me and said, who told you? The fact that her responses are a bit more erratic, I'm slightly worried about being bold with wishing her. That's why i was wondering whether I could be told by her herself around the date.


That's a good sign that she gave you her number now what you need to do is text her once in a while. Xmas and new years seem like good times to text perhaps you can ask her what she's doing around new years? If she mentions anything about her birthday pretend like you didn't know it will look slightly creepy if tell that your already know.

Also never text more than once wait for a response first before you text again, if she ignores you then text her another day.
Original post by pshah2
Best thing is if a girl has treated you badly, if they eventually reply when they are bored and want attention from who they think they control as a backup boyfriend, then respond with a "Who is this?"


The only people I text with any regularity are close friends or bfs. I'm busy, I don't text when I'm socialising and I'll respond*when I'm ready. Also as a tip guys whose only lines are 'how are you?'/'what are you up to'/'have a nice weekend' are boring as hell and don't encourage enthusiasm. You've bored her and she's not interested. She'll only reply now and again as a vague notion of politeness but she's hoping you'll just give up because, really, how can she tell you she wishes she never gave you her number?

Back up boyfriend? Control? You think too highly of yourself if you think she deems you*that important. Harsh but true. Stop obsessing and move on.

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