I like my flat mate...

We have hooked up (kissed in bed) a lot of times since September, last time was last Wednesday after a night out. I'm really starting to like him but he doesn't want a relationship, he's told me. We get on really well in the day, and nothings ever awkward.

He said he didn't want me to get attached and that he wants it to be cool between us, and if i started to we should stop. I said I wouldn't and am not , just enjoy being chilled and getting with him after nights out. The truth is, I am, i really like him and we really do get on well. It's sad that he doesn't want a relationship, he's even told me, how cool and hot and how well we get in, it's weird.

We're in first year university, and it's just messing with my head. Last night we went out and i said should i come to his room after, and he just did a hand single like 'maybe', i got a little upset by this, and i think he could tell. All night after this he was putting his arm round me and getting me to smile and dance. I won't be asking him again, as he clearly had all the power.

I really don't know what to do, i'd be upset if i saw him with other people though.

We have hooked up (kissed in bed) a lot of times since September, last time was last Wednesday after a night out. I'm really starting to like him but he doesn't want a relationship, he's told me. We get on really well in the day, and nothings ever awkward.

He said he didn't want me to get attached and that he wants it to be cool between us, and if i started to we should stop. I said I wouldn't and am not , just enjoy being chilled and getting with him after nights out. The truth is, I am, i really like him and we really do get on well. It's sad that he doesn't want a relationship, he's even told me, how cool and hot and how well we get in, it's weird.

We're in first year university, and it's just messing with my head. Last night we went out and i said should i come to his room after, and he just did a hand single like 'maybe', i got a little upset by this, and i think he could tell. All night after this he was putting his arm round me and getting me to smile and dance. I won't be asking him again, as he clearly had all the power.

I really don't know what to do, i'd be upset if i saw him with other people though. He always asks if i got with people at night, and i tell him the truth. He says i'm so hot though, so i don't understand why he doesn't want to carry on?

From a male perspective relationships are hell. He has set up an understanding that you complied to and it works best for him. Most of us young men just want some fun and the idea of a serious relationship seems pointless when all we want is certain aspects of it rather than the whole package. There is no reason he would stop what you two are currently doing because he is getting all the good aspects of a relationship minus the bull**** and baggage that normally comes with them.

From a male perspective relationships are hell. He has set up an understanding that you complied to and it works best for him. Most of us young men just want some fun and the idea of a serious relationship seems pointless when all we want is certain aspects of it rather than the whole package. There is no reason he would stop what you two are currently doing because he is getting all the good aspects of a relationship minus the bull**** and baggage that normally comes with them.

Hey - thanks, you're right but he seems to have stopped it but we get on so well in the day. He also says he wants to pick me up and we play football together and he grabs my waist and ****. but then in the evening doesn't seem so keen to get with me at the mo? I'm really confused...