It's not a matter of whether someone
should feel insecure. Some people do, most people don't. Most people say you shouldn't feel insecure because it's your face, it's what you were born with, it's who you are. Those that do feel insecure don't necessarily have BDD. Body dysmorphia is way more extreme than mere insecurity. Your post in the other thread wasn't well thought out. You take it as something less extreme than it actually is.
I started dealing with body dysmorphia when I was about 11 years old. I started dealing with anorexia (diagnosed as "EDNOS", but I think EDNOS is bs) at 16. Although I've lost a hell of a lot of weight, I still can't view my body as "normal" people do. When people tell me "Vixen, every time I see you you look thinner and thinner, it's like you're disappearing" I just think to myself "what the **** are you on about? My face looks like a ****ing beach ball, my waist looks like Homer Simpson's, and my stomach makes me look like I'm 9 months pregnant with twins!" (I don't say that to them.
) In reality my body fat percentage is about 23%, my weight is ~129lbs, I'm about 5'1. (My goal weight is about 115lbs.) My measurements at the moment are almost 35-29-35, which is a size 10/12 boobs and waist and a size 8/10's hips. When I look at the numbers I know I'm not as huge as I make out to be, but my mind can't help but see a morbidly obese cow when it sees what's in the mirror.
In cases like mine (which are common amongst those who have eating disorders) I don't just hate my body and I'm not just insecure about it, I'm actually really disgusted by it. I constantly wear things like capes or huge cardigans when I go out because I'm terrified of people seeing my body. I refuse to be in family pictures because I just can't have people spread those around so others can see what a fat cow I am. For my birthday my sister made a poster filled with pictures of me and our family and I never looked at it since the moment she actually showed it to me because I don't know how to look at my face and my body without feeling the urge to leave the room. In the mornings, however, after I wake up and weigh or measure my body, I spent a good 5-10 minutes fixating on my body when I look in the mirror. I've become a recluse and a hermit because I feel like if I go outside or even out with my friends then people will see how fat I am and judge me because of that. One side of my mind tells me I'm being stupid, but the other side says "it might be stupid, but it's true". On Christmas I had cousins come over and these people have been really close to my family since before I was born, and they've seen me (and even bullied me) when I at my highest weight, yet still I was too afraid to show them my fat face even though this is the smallest I've ever been in my life. In front of them I wore a hoodie with the hood on, or I'd wear a snood on top of my hoodie. My house was boiling and I was sweating, but still I just couldn't show them my face. One of my cousins frequently says that I look "emaciated" (I don't) and her brother gets scared when he sees me because he can't believe that I've lost so much weight, but still, that isn't enough to change the way I view myself.
This view is really, really similar to how people with BDD view themselves. Some might even be more extreme and self harm by cutting those parts of the body that they hate. I think that's called self-mutilation in the context of BDD, but I can't remember.
In that post you made in the other thread you related BDD with body fat percentage and weight. If a person with a chubby face manages to lose the fat then they'll stop feeling so insecure. This is what happens with "normal" people. Those who
actually suffer BDD won't stop feeling insecure, they won't stop feeling so chubby and they won't stop hating their faces (or whatever body part they fixate on). Things like body dysmorphia and eating disorders are rarely to do with weight, but rather some underlying issue. Weight is simply just the medium which they use to release their frustration/anger/sadness/whatever.