Anyone else saving themselves for marriage?

Religious or not, anyone else saving themselves? I had this conversation with a friend recently and said there was a difference in intercourse and making love/having sex. You can get intimate with someone and not actually have full on intercourse. What do you think?

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Reply 1

Zarek

To be honest, you're crazy. Live a little. There's plenty of happily married people who have enjoyed an extended period of sexual bliss in the run up..

Reply 2

Protégé

I had the same mindset a while back. But I just don't see a point to saving myself anymore.

Edit: I had more the "if I love her" view though, marriage doesn't mean a thing to me.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 3

m93100

yeah

but I don't mind if the guy is not a virgin

Reply 4

username1467365

No way, although I do want it to be a meaningful thing...

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Reply 5

tillytots

I don't see why you'd wait. Just because you aren't married doesn't mean you don't love the person. In fact many non- married couples are happier than those that are.

Reply 6

murielle

I'm saving myself for the right person,don't want to do something and regret it for the rest of my life. :smile:

Reply 7

German123

Original post by Protégé

I had the same mindset a while back. But I just don't see a point to saving myself anymore.

Edit: I had more the "if I love her" view though, marriage doesn't mean a thing to me.

May I ask why?

Reply 8

Ssskinz

Yeah I'm waiting. Why not? Why waste your time on people that you might not even marry..

Reply 9

username504651

Original post by murielle

I'm saving myself for the right person,don't want to do something and regret it for the rest of my life. :smile:

I had this view...well more about 'saving myself til I was in love'. Then I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend and realised that it wasn't as big of a deal as I was making it out to be :smile:

Reply 10

Protégé

Original post by German123

May I ask why?

It's kind of complicated and hard to explain for me. I don't really find it to be logical to be honest. I just found it to be restricting for no reason. I screw a girl that I'm not going to marry, what about it? I've rid myself of self imposed rules based on emotion. I'm not going to always associate sex with emotion, because that's dangerous. I don't care much for sex so I'm not going to pursue it but if I get caught up in the moment I'm not going to stop myself.

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Reply 11

German123

Original post by Protégé

It's kind of complicated and hard to explain for me. I don't really find it to be logical to be honest. I just found it to be restricting for no reason. I screw a girl that I'm not going to marry, what about it? I've rid myself of self imposed rules based on emotion. I don't care much for sex so I'm not going to pursue it but if I get caught up in the moment I'm not going to stop myself.

Cool.I guess people have different thoughts on this.

Reply 12

Protégé

Original post by German123

Cool.I guess people have different thoughts on this.

I would probably still feel bad after I do it so I'd rather not. I still haven't recovered from another girl and I feel guilty just thinking about another girl. Even just having a sexting partner makes me feel weird. She doesn't live in the UK so I haven't done anything with her but it still feels.. wrong.

Reply 13

EllieC130

Used to be my plan but now I've kind of realised it limits the guys who would put up with it...

Reply 14

rosebud114

No I know I won't be able to, so what is the point of making myself feel awful when I finally do lose my virginity before marriage?

Reply 15

Protégé

Original post by EllieC130

Used to be my plan but now I've kind of realised it limits the guys who would put up with it...

Do what you want. Don't change to suit a potential partner's needs. I know that a lot of guys would be happy with that.

Reply 16

Tai Ga

I was, but I don't think I'll be able to hold out much longer :frown:

Will probably lose it in uni.

Reply 17

chocolatesauce

Yes saving myself, I think it's very meaningful.
Its like we share something totally unique and sexy, no one else can have him but ME and vice versa... I don't feel the need to be 'wanted' or 'used' by a bunch of others for no reason other than 'Oh I Think he looks Hot'.