GIRLS! Would you mind being a housewife?

Cool, if you actually met me you would instantly take back calling me old-fashioned. Also, since you took the liberty of interjecting into my reply to someone else, how about you address what I actually said to that person. Do you work full-time? Is your husband rich?

People in that situation are often bored out of their minds and seek out work just to escape from the mindless tedium. Even if you are rich enough to holiday all the time, it can only be so much fun, especially for intelligent people.

I can't imagine not wanting to have interesting work and especially I can't imagine having my income totally dependent on a man.

Have you ever considered that for some people the stress is part of what they enjoy? The buzz of working flat out knowing that you have to get XYZ done.

Also, why would you volunteer doing the jobs most on TSR aspire to? If you're a doctor or lawyer whose services are literally worth hundreds of pounds an hour it seems daft to just do it for free.

Something that is never open to me as I am a man

Although I'm not sure I would actually want it, for my own sanity and the unfairness of it. But something like a shared part time set up would be appealing. Or we both have lower paying jobs which are more enjoyable and give us more free time compared to just me having a higher paid/longer hours more stressful job. I would definitely become resentful if I had to work a hard full time job whilst my significant other didn't work at all in the long term. It would definitely strain a relationship as I would feel I am being taken for granted.

I'm not someone who needs a 24/7 job to feel fulfilled. There is lots of other stuff to do, volunteering, hobbies, child rearing etc. What happens if I wanted to spend more time with my children than with a job? Working part time and then having more time to do this other stuff would definitely be appealing to me. Women seem to have more options open to them in what is deemed acceptable, they can be anything from full on house wife to full on career woman as well as what lies between. Which is good. But this flexibility doesn't really exist for men.

Lots of females on here are saying they would never want that but that isn't the point. You have the choice. Plus you may change your mind when you are sick to death of your job and the option to work less comes open later on in your life for whatever reason, maybe you are having a child. Men get sod all paternity leave. So already in that situation they are getting funneled into being the main bread earner.

Aw, that's cute.

I interjected into your reply because you were telling someone they were living in fantasy land, while I know? the opposite to be true. What you expressed was an old-fashioned view; whether you're old-fashioned in general is a different matter.

My husband and I are both full-time students; before we went back to education, yes he was significantly richer than me, and will quite possibly be again in the future depending on what specific fields we work in.

At least you'll have that choice to seek out work whether you want to or not. I'm not saying being a housewife would be perfect but it must be easier than doing a stressful job that didn't bring much in.

I'm doing medicine and I know I'd never ever do that for free, but if i had the choice to not have to work and take up another hobby, I'd do that in a heartbeat.

Our lives are just surrounded by education from birth and then constant work until we retire by which it's kinda too late to do most of what we want to do. There's so much I'd love to be able to explore that I can't because of the fact that I'll be working for the rest of my working life.

I vaguely agree with you. It's not about just being bored out of your mind, it's about the fact that there'll be a choice. A choice to work or take up a hobby or other leisure activities. Like, who wouldn't want that?

I'm content with the fact that I'll always be working, grateful even but if i had the choice not to work and take up something new I'd do that in a heartbeat.

50s-60s style, stay at home housewife. Being financially dependent on your partner, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kid(s) until your partner got back.

Assume that your future husband is a decent one, who does not take you foregranted, and actually gives you the money for things, plus an allowance, etc.

The values of the ideal 50s-60s era home, just for the sake of this scenario.

Would you mind being a housewife?

Wouldn't that mean your degree was a waste of time?

Do you not think you'd miss the buzz of working in intense situations? Also, how do you know you won't be able to give up work? I mean you might be able to even do it marrying another doc, but certainly if you married someone earning couple of hundred grand plus it'd be an option.

It's cute that you're on a forum for students who are nearly all younger than you, telling them they're old-fashioned. Did you consider that? No.

You don't seem to know anything about this matter, actually. You just revealed that neither of you work so that puts you in the minority I'm afraid.

The buzz of working in intense and high pressure situations is one of the advantages and enjoyments of my course. But that is one of the only benefits and that's almost balanced out by numerous disadvantages involved too.

Yes I might be able to completely give up work but that's unlikely, at most I'll be working part time.

Haha, you appear to be living proof that chronological age has nothing to do with how outmoded your views are. You also appear to be incapable of basic comprehension, since you clearly missed (or chose to overlook) the part where I mentioned that we'd gone *back* to education (I also didn't say that we don't work - just that we're full-time students. As it happens, we both work, just as we did before this degree and throughout our first degrees). It may also surprise you to learn that, being that little bit older, I know quite a few other married couples who - shock, horror - are also decidedly more modern than the view you're putting across.

Again: you expressed a backwards opinion; I pointed out that that's not how things work in the real world outside of your head. If you can't get over that, that's your problem.

Good you've changed your language to I "appear" to be something (to you) rather than telling me that I am. That's great I won't read it and you can keep it to yourself from now on.

You said that you are both full-time students. Now you choose to qualify what you meant by that. Good for you that's got nothing to do with me. I asked you two very specific questions and your answer was no to both of them.

Go study some more, I can see why that would be good for you. In the future you should learn not to use ad hominem and straw-man arguments so people will take what you say seriously.