signs he isn't interested anymore?

Have you invited him to do anything with you?

Invite him to do something, giving more than one day, and see what the response is.

Are you making an effort to maintain that interest?

Can you explain what you mean by this?

No offence but it just sounds like you expect him to do all the chasing :P

It wouldn't be a waste of time if you'd learnt something from it.

I have to same problem as OP even though I did stuff with the guy, admitted im falling for him but he got so mental I had to take it back and agree to be sex friend. And now...whenever k try to initiate a sexy convo he replies with "idk" or "maybe". He sometimes writes to me first but when I reply he doesn't write back....
Guess it means I should **** off?

No. We take it in turns to message each other. If I feel like messaging him I do. Most of the time I'd plan to call him and he 'd beat me to it.

This time around he's just not responding like he used to.

Messaging someone is easy and doesn't take much thought.

Organizing a date ect, on the otherhand...

You must know what I mean by "chase".

Maybe something happened on the date that made him change his mind. Think about it, it was fine before you guys went out that day and saying 'I enjoyed spending time with you' might be just a polite way of saying 'it was nice but I don't know if I want to repeat it'.


Ask him out in a way that is not forward that way he doesn't feel the need to let you down easily, if he's thinking about it. Just say 'I'm going to ____, want to tag along?' This means you were already going but wouldn't mind his company if he wants to spend time with you.

I get what you mean. There's just nothing I ever wanna do. I usually go with the flow,but I'll give it a go. Thanks



I thought that too..but when he's told stories about girls in the past he's mentioned how he's let her down /told her it wasnt working out and his methods of rejection were pretty straight forward.

I'll give it a go. He messaged me earlier to say hi and we've been speaking throughout the day.

Well if you're not interested, you're not interested.

No point trying to make an effort if you're not in it for the long haul.

But it doesn't seem fair to not make an effort yourself if you actually are interested.

If a girl never invited me to do things with her the same way I invited her I'd definitely think she wasn't that interested in me (& probably back off gradually as her actions continue to confirm my belief).

I've never really thought about how he must feel to be honest. The first time I asked when i would see him he was actually surprised I wanted to see him. If I'm not interested trust me I wouldn't be going out on dates for the sake of it. He messaged me yesterday and today I messaged him to say I hope he has a good day.. I know it's a small effort, but he's at work so I shall give him a call tomorrow.

I've never really thought about how he must feel to be honest. The first time I asked when i would see him he was actually surprised I wanted to see him. If I'm not interested trust me I wouldn't be going out on dates for the sake of it. He messaged me yesterday and today I messaged him to say I hope he has a good day.. I know it's a small effort, but he's at work so I shall give him a call tomorrow.

You hoped he had a good day? Wow bet he was falling over himself with joy at receiving that text. I would suggest pushing the boat out a bit more both in texting and dating. If he's making all the effort then and not receiving any effort back its bound to be a drag in a relationship. If he can't even get a kiss of you after X amount of dates then he will picking up on your uncomfortable disposition towards him. If he feels like he's just pulling you along and your not bothered or indifferent he'll pick up on that. If he's making all the suggestions and initiating it's bound to get tiresome, you have to initiate to show you are interested particularly after it sounds like he initiated first and continues to do so. Sending bland boring text like you would to anyone is bound to die a quick death particularly if he's busy at work.

Oh and the funny part of this is that you feel that you've wasted time with him. Try being the person making the effort instead of just sitting back whining about it not all quite falling into your lap after making no effort, poor you.