Why are you single?

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Dog ugly, out of shape, no self confidence, shy around new people, few friends, inexperienced, plenty of people out there better than me.

Pick one.

Reply 41

RabidRabies

Original post by Dr Pesto

That's interesting, why do you think that is?

And the other thing is, I do actually want a partner, I just think it's kind of strange to question someone on why they don't currently have one.

Well I guess it might be because they're just curious? If you seem like someone who would enjoy being in a relationship and have the "right" qualities, maybe they just want to know why?
I think sometimes people forget that even if you do want to be with someone, you don't just look in a catalogue and pick one, getting close to someone requires effort XD

Reply 42

ann_kayy

Original post by Dr Pesto

Does anyone else think this is a strange thing to ask someone? I've been asked why I don't have a girlfriend a couple of times already this year, and I never really know what to say in response. It's as if, in many people's eyes, being in a relationship should be the default for human beings, and if you aren't in one you should have a reason or excuse for yourself.

I'm comfortable being single, but I can't help going on the defensive when somebody asks me why I am, even though I know sometimes it's said almost as a compliment. Does anyone else feel like this?

how old are you? people could ask due to the fact that your age could be a time in which relationships could (not should) be formed for the future or something like that.

Reply 43

zKlown

Original post by bittr n swt

Ahh you sound pretty cool online bro. Try and act like you are online in real life, should help.

Be confident

I wasn't been serious, I'm normal looking lol

But I can be socially awkward at times.

Reply 44

gemmam

I remember getting asked this when I was single and I agree its a strange thing to ask.

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Reply 45

username47781

Still single after some bad luck but now I currently have no desire to be in a relationship anytime soon.

Reply 46

username677182

Relationships are hassle and time consuming.

If I spend on average 12 hours a day, 5 days a week working.
That's 60 hours out of the 168 hours we're given.

That leaves me with 108 hours, I (try to) spend 7 hours a day, 7 days a week sleeping.
That's 49 hours out of the 108 I had remaining.

That leaves me with 59 hours, I spend roughly an hour and a half every day consuming food and drinking lukewarm coffee.
That's another 10.5 hours off the 59 that were left.

That leaves me with 48.5 hours, I spend at least 3 hours a day socialising with my family and friends, or posting pointless comments on TSR.
That's another 21 hours taken from the 48.5 remaining.

That leaves me with 27.5 hours, I spend between 45 minutes - 2 hours a night dealing with work related stuff.
That's another (up to) 14 hours stolen from the 27.5 that were left.

That leaves me with 13.5 hours, I like to spend a good 1 and a half hours each evening to just relax, watch telly, exercise and generally do my own thing.
That takes 10.5 hours off the 13.5 hours I had.

I'm now left with 3 hours, across the whole week. I can't cram a relationship into 3 spare hours.
I'd rather have an extra 25 minutes in bed each day.

That's why I'm single.

Reply 47

Dr Pesto

Original post by ann_kayy

how old are you? people could ask due to the fact that your age could be a time in which relationships could (not should) be formed for the future or something like that.

I'm 22, so still far too young to be "settling down". I know plenty of people do get married at that age and before, but I certainly wouldn't want to.

Reply 48

Tiger Rag

I find it bothers other people more than it does me. :s-smilie:

Reply 49

MissLalaxx

I actually don't know... I think it has to do with me being extremely picky. Don't care how good looking you are if you're vibe is wrong! BYE!

Reply 50

DanB1991

Bitches be kray?

Seriously though, not met the right girl yet :rolleyes:

Reply 51

kenni12

I'm single because most of the girls I try to form bonds with don't seem to give a ****, when ever I try to form a relationship with a girl I like, It always ends up being one sided, with me always starting up the conversation, always asking the questions, calling 1st, texting 1st, messaging 1st, etc and her adding insult to injury by not replying to my last messages in time or even worse,ever.
I've had people telling me many times(not just family members and loved ones) that I'm good-looking, I'm kind, I'm upfront, I'm this and that, so I don't know why I should assume that I am unattractive?, so now I just assume that I always go for the wrong girls(maybe she doesn't like black men, maybe she's a lesbian, maybe she prefers older men, maybe she doesn't like my lifestyle, etc), even asking a girl to go on a date with me is a challenge. But still I try to look at the bright side, at least I spent nothing on them.
Also, even if I got into a relationship now, I know fully well that if any girl came to me for just a fling I did be like "why didn't this happen when I was single?". I know a guy who broke up with his girlfriend because he shagged 5 other girls behind her back, yet a single guy like me couldn't get one. So I want to get into as many flings as possible before I find someone I'm ready to love til death.