Jealous of a distant friend

Nothing I can think of.

I've been through the same thing, and I wish someone had given me the same advice. Everyone is offering her sympathy, and it will only encourage the idea that she needs it.

I was just looking for some advice regarding my friend, not sympathy. I didnt need to be told I need a kick up my arse. Get a kick up your arse yourself.

What about writing? You could write about your experiences with your diagnosis as part of a blog, which you could advertise to people generally or medical students that may be interested etc.

Exercise and sport?

Learn new hobbies: such as guitar or piano, new languages, computer programming?

Take part in online courses to further develop yourself in something which you hold interest. You could even try going to college.

Look I dont know what lead you to become depressed but look anywhere and they certainly don't advise a kick up the ass, in fact they specifically advise against it. 'Snap out of it' 'get your act together' mentality doesn't work. These people need support in order that they can help themselves. Whenever people tried the kick up the ass approach with me in order to get me to make an effort it lasted a really short time before I began to feel like even worse a failure for failing the person who had such high expectations.

The process is slow and gradual if you want to make any long term recovery. Of course self help techniques matter but they need additional support to implement them depending on the level of depression they're suffering.

You're approach really is a cop out

Unfortunately im in such a state that its impossible for my brain to learn anything new. Im already doing a three week drama course which for me is already a lot.

This person has no additional support. Unless she joins a support group I guess. Call me a cop out all you want. It worked for me, and I'm happy now. I don't need to read about how "they" don't advise it. It's behind me now.

Thank you for your support.

You're welcome! I don't know why this thread seems to have attracted such arse holes but it's a shame because a Iot of the advice surrounding these issues is usually quite helpful and supportive on here.

I dont know why either. I can only deduce that im not really the cause of her annoyance, there must be something else bothering her, what that is only she knows.

Clearly, whatever it is she's definitely not fine. Some serious issues there.

First of all, I think all of the problems you are having is due to you being pessimistic in life. Try thinking positive, you have a life better than a lot more unfortunate than you, when you think of those less fortunate, you will be grateful for the things that you have in your life. You are a person loved by people around you, like your family and even the friend you have mentioned. I think you should be proud and happy of her achievements in life and could learn from her being positive and work hard on the life you want to achieve, without making any excuses. I know its hard but with your hard work of rebuilding yourself, there will be times that other difficulties will get in your way, but there will always be a bright future in front of you.

First of all can we stop the bickering please, also any horrible or unhelpful posts will get removed and most likely warned, bullying is not going to be tolerated, thanks.

First of all I know youre trying to be helpful so thanks for that.
That being said, I think im a bit beyond the "think positive and imagine the starving children in Africa" technique. Its a bit of a misconception that thinking of other peoples suffering can relieve your own.
But I do acknowledge that helping other people can often make you feel better about yourself. Im just not in a position to do that right now.