How do I get a muslim girl to be my GF(not like other threads)

You need the permission of the Wali (her dad)

You don't understand religion or religious thinking

I could go on the TSR Islamic society/see the posts of serious Muslims and find so many things which I could provide a strong Islamic argument are technically Haram (I don't actually care enough to do this.)


Yet these Muslims do not see themselves as committing sin, heck there are schools of Islamic thinking which hold that taking photos of oneself is Haram, yet our good friend Abdul-Karim, despite taking Islam seriously, posts his pics on this website, there are also Imans who disagree and say that photography is Halal. The point I am making is that religion is as much a subjective relationship with yourself as it is with laws, it's not objective.

Ditch her.

Do not even go near to zina

One would rather be hit by an iron rod than touch a non-mahram woman. Do you not see the danger of what you are doing

Audhubillah. May allah protect us all
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I understand, I am sure she felt the same way at first when we met.
We didnt really talk to look at each other.

But now things have changed. She said to me she has never really liked any one. (when we first met).
And I am sure when she came here she did not expect to like someone like me.
breaking contact will just strengthen the desire.

or a muslim ruler

I dont think I am 100% ready for marriage.
This is a huge commitment.
I have no house, still at uni etc.

There is.. but with her dad present.

This. tbf If you make the choice to be in such a backwards and restrictive religion, then you've gotta stop whining about bits of it you don't like.

Well then, this is exactly why marriage is there. If you're not fully commited to being with her for the rest of your life, it's unfair on her. As above, if you want to be together, her wali must be present for future interactions.

Really, so If i want to go to dinner, her dad needs to be there.
that is too awkward.
I dont mind meeting her parents and family after we have developed a relationship.

Well then, this is exactly why marriage is there. If you're not fully commited to being with her for the rest of your life, it's unfair on her. As above, if you want to be together, her wali must be present for future interactions.

I cant commit because I dont have the right stuff for marriage.
I can offer her love only now.
But no house, no money to live.

I'm not an ideal representation of a 'Good Muslim', nevertheless.

As far as im concerned, if you intend to do things the islamic way. You just have to marry her. That doesnt mean the two of you have to move in together or anything it just means you can be around each other, in a halal way. removing this haramness that oozes from this situation >.>

I see no reason why you can't marry her? If you like her as much as you say you do. Unless your intentions are to just have her companionship for a little bit, then dump her and find yourself someone "better" to marry. Lots of young muslims get married young, have lovely long term relationships and then some get married young and it doesn't work out, either way it's both fine.

If you don't have long term intentions with this girl, then back off and develop some self control, something that would help this is to stop having study dates with a bunch of girls? and stop the unnecessary chatter with girls?

But Muslim "Girlfriend" is HUGE oxymoron, because we all know it's haram bruh.

I cant commit because I dont have the right stuff for marriage.
I can offer her love only now.
But no house, no money to live.

There are no good Muslims right.?

Certainly it is written that only Allah knows who is destined for paradise and who is not, if this is true, then nobody actually has the right to tell OP what to do, since they (by Islamic teaching) are in no real position to know.


It was an example, the different Islamic schools (Hanifi, Maliki etc) have different rulings on this matter, so ultimately it boils down to what the individual Muslim can reconcile with his or her own conscience.

Marriage at 19, to extreme.

Not good enough.

Either accept becoming a moderate Muslim (where you don't follow certain rules because you find it unfitting for modern society) or break off whatever you have with this girl.

What do those schools say about dating,

Your religion is awkward like that.