I'm 27 (female) and am seeing a man in his late 40's. He has never been married and has had a lot of sexual partners through his life -likely unprotected sex as he wanted to have it with me (irresponsible I know but that's not my point). I don't think he had had sex for a year though, he has been seeing me for months we haven't had sex yet.
Im scared of getting an sti. I would always use a condom but what I mainly worried about is HPV since this can be caught with protection even. I'm too old to get vaccinated even though I've never had sex before. What I want to know though is how does hpv infection work..I mean it's likely he has had lots of strains of it (low risk and high risk) in his past so does this mean I will be at risk of catching all these hpv strains from him? Or will he likely have cleared most hpv strains if he hasn't had sex in 6 months? It's ok for him, I'm a 'clean' virgin but he could have caught all sorts in his past lol.
They don't test for hpv so I'm just trying to protect myself. Is his sexual history a good enough reason to refuse sex with him? Or am I over worrying? I'm concerned about the risk of cervical cancer and oral cancer from hpv in particular because I use a steroid nasal spray all year round (nasonex) which might lower my oral immunity/make me less likely to clear hpv.. Just a thought but I've been worrying about it.