Sleeping with a guy I don&#x27;t find attractive

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Original post by robynofficer97

I agree that you should probably stop sleeping with each other/seeing each other, not in a stuck up way but attraction is important just like personality!

Although, there must be something that drew you to start seeing him in the first place and sleeping with him? Or was it just the confidence that he had? If you reassure him that he doesn't need to be embarrassed or anything things might improve and if he thinks more positively about his appearance/is more confident he may be more likely to get in shape :smile:

We don't see or chat to each other often as we both have pretty busy lives. But we make time for one another when we can, like once a week, and have slept together two or three times. He's getting a little better, took his top off last time. So I guess time will tell. I'm even willing to work out on Skype with him to just get the ball rolling. He has natural broad shoulders and quite a large ahem lol so I am pleased with that. It's just his physique. I liked his confidence, he was borderline arrogant but I didn't really mind it at times. He had some major surgery a few months ago which made him lose confidence and gain weight. I don't want to stop seeing him because I enjoy his company and like spending time with him.

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Original post by Gambit92

Where's your self respect?

Up your... :smile:

Original post by IBBOOM

Are you hot?

If so, that is one lucky dude.

I am

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And this is why aesthetics and a superficially confident personality are the most important things for men. Just dump him and if you are a real woman tell him the truth regarding why, that will be a lot more help to his life in the long term.

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Deanio

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I think you should leave him tbh, don't do something that doesn't make you happy.
You're clearly going to break up eventually so why carry on with things now if it's not working out.

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Illegal Algebra

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Looool. Why on earth are you having sex with him hahahahah. Hahahahahahahha

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Rakas21

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I don't think you need to dump him since you've not cheated and seem to still like everything else about him. I do think you should give him an ultimatum though.. he has 6 months to be the man you know he can be or you will seek a more desirable mate.

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Tbh if i was the guy and knew this i'd dump her ass in a second. Hermit myself for as long as it takes to become a sick shredded slaying machine. Then **** hotter girls and rub it in her face.

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unprinted

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Do you enjoy the sex?

If not, then you have your answer.

If you do, then you need to work on his self-confidence by pointing out that you do enjoy the sex. Then you can encourage him to do the things that would help you enjoy it even more.

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Original post by Tom_Ford

Tbh if i was the guy and knew this i'd dump her ass in a second. Hermit myself for as long as it takes to become a sick shredded slaying machine. Then **** hotter girls and rub it in her face.

Aw diddums :emo:

Original post by Rakas21

I don't think you need to dump him since you've not cheated and seem to still like everything else about him. I do think you should give him an ultimatum though.. he has 6 months to be the man you know he can be or you will seek a more desirable mate.

I think I'll give that a go, thank you. I did mention that he's different in bed, but he just says its been a long time etc.

Original post by Deanio

I think you should leave him tbh, don't do something that doesn't make you happy.
You're clearly going to break up eventually so why carry on with things now if it's not working out.

He does make me happy, just doesn't sexually appeal to me at the moment. The two are mutually exclusive

Original post by Tom_Ford

And this is why aesthetics and a superficially confident personality are the most important things for men. Just dump him and if you are a real woman tell him the truth regarding why, that will be a lot more help to his life in the long term.

Oh please. I wont leave a guy just because he's let himself go. We have talked about weight and I have said I liked toned or defined men rather than bulky steroid popping men with tiny penises.

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Original post by Anonymous

Aw diddums :emo:

I think I'll give that a go, thank you. I did mention that he's different in bed, but he just says its been a long time etc.

He does make me happy, just doesn't sexually appeal to me at the moment. The two are mutually exclusive

Oh please. I wont leave a guy just because he's let himself go. We have talked about weight and I have said I liked toned or defined men rather than bulky steroid popping men with tiny penises.

Toned is such a **** word, don't say toned, say "low body fat percentage". I'm not on steds mate, I am just genetically gifted.

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Original post by unprinted

Do you enjoy the sex?

If not, then you have your answer.

If you do, then you need to work on his self-confidence by pointing out that you do enjoy the sex. Then you can encourage him to do the things that would help you enjoy it even more.

It was ok, but its getting better everytime. I was with a much older guy before him and he has said that he's a little insecure about that. He still hasn't been able to make me orgasm and normally I am able to go 2 or 3 times. I just enjoy the way he looks after me, and just his personality. He is pretty funny too.

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Original post by Tom_Ford

Toned is such a **** word, don't say toned, say "low body fat percentage". I'm not on steds mate, I am just genetically gifted.

WATCH OUT! We've got a badass over here!

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