Is she really *this* busy?

You sound like you're being a bit self-centred about this - her desire for space has nothing to do with you, she has a lot of work to do, is likely as simple as that!

You need to get used to the idea that your relationship is not the most important thing in her life right now, she is rightly prioritising her degree over it. You should want to support her in that. Even if she does mostly want to go to Bath because it's the best uni for her master's, so what, she's being smart about things.

Just suck it up right now, encourage her with her coursework, and look forward to spending more time together in the Summer.

so 2 questions

a) how would you feel if he was the one in 3rd year/doing Masters and needing space

b) How would you react if she chose to broke up with him now during this time, because he wasn't being ambitious enough in the interim etc.?

One of those guys, indeed

look mate I'm just warning you, I saw my dad get divorce-raped by my mum, nothing is innocent where sex is involved. It's a biological world devoid of the social demand for morality we have created, and if you give her any reason to dump you, she is likely to jump on it. This means a) if you complain about not getting to see her, the women will hate you for selfish and weak demeanour-LOOK at the responses to your insecurity, b) if you do not improve yourself in the interim esp. career-wise, you will receive little sympathy in the worst case scenario…it happened to me!

I have witnessed these boards for long enough to know that, except in heartless-bitch gladly-cheats scenario where they're like 'you deserve better' because of the denial they would ever do that that comes from emotional etachment, there is a general pro-women bias to counter the occasional stupid misogynist troll thread. It's a product of both the age group of this site and the times, I warn you now because when this thread gets moved I'll be unable to discuss it with you.

There's no need to flip this around bro.

there's not? Eh, you're the one saying you got insecure about the idea of distance and minimal contact. The ladies here (with the odd exception) did not sympathise with you for it, I warned you of the stakes at hand, it's your call now, read between the lines.

Stopped reading

good luck to you then. Remember: if you say or show you're insecure, you are ****ed. Make the most of yourself in this siesta, and when she comes back remind her why you are the **** and had no need to worry. You have very few other options that end happily.

"Divorce-raped" ...

evicted from the house, 70-30 equity split after promised a 5-50, meant he took up 2 jobs works 60 hour week. Developed depression, Mum used this against him to say why he was unfit for child custody in court. Mum cheated on him with my now stepdad and now works 40 hrs max. Dad paid part of mortgage of old house to Mum as part of equity split for apx. 3 years. My sister will only associate with him as father if he agrees to the terms Mum was right, he was abusive and did not deserve us.

You missed the point

haha I cannot conceive of a gf making this compromise in reverse, sorry to say.

Poor you

Sad you call it "divorced-raped" lol

He obviously did something very wrong I'm sorry to say.

yes my dad is such a pathetic little **** who deserves to die that Mum should cheat on him.

This is unfortunately probably true...if the situation was flipped I am fairly sure that the responses would be a lot different...

About me saying about compromise, that is why so few people can maintain long relationships, as in this age both sexes wants and expectations of their partners have reached an un-achievable level

Even in today's modern world, there are still embargo's about relationships and how they 'supposedly' should be...

I agree with Dodgypirate, flipping the situation is not needed. The thread should be focused on helping the guy out, not flipping the issue to see how people would react...if the boot was on the other foot

so 2 questions

a) how would you feel if he was the one in 3rd year/doing Masters and needing space

Settle down sweetums, don't bring your family's woes into my thread!

This is unfortunately probably true...if the situation was flipped I am fairly sure that the responses would be a lot different...

About me saying about compromise, that is why so few people can maintain long relationships, as in this age both sexes wants and expectations of their partners have reached an un-achievable level

Even in today's modern world, there are still embargo's about relationships and how they 'supposedly' should be...

I agree with Dodgypirate, flipping the situation is not needed. The thread should be focused on helping the guy out, not flipping the issue to see how people would react...if the boot was on the other foot

Gender makes no difference. The OP just needs to accept that his girlfriends degree comes before him.

Gender makes no difference. The OP just needs to accept that his girlfriends degree comes before him.