Is she really *this* busy?

I'm one of the few who gave OP sympathy for his feelings of insecurity, the terms 'suck it up' and 'you're selfish' were used. Gender makes a difference, because it helps him realise that there is more to this than what is being said-because there is.

Thanks to Bandicoot this is turning into a "herr derr gender equality thing"

"Gender makes a difference" because you've selfishly made this a gender thing - something I never asked for, and something no one but you has brought up.

If you're worried about your male issues, go to create another thread.

Unfortunately this is true...although his experiences obviously have a meaning and depicts something he feels strong about, for which I respect

I hope that my original comments were some sort of help (Dodgypirate)...

Indeed they were!

He's obviously had a hard time in the dating world

Who needs a girlfriend anyway!

Difference is, GF are free

Are they really though??? Think about it, jewellery, clothes, nights out, buying a new sofa...

I don't think you quite get what I mean.

I think it's from his family experience that you've been quite insensitive to in my opinion, which is somewhat ironic considering how much help you've had for your oversensitivity with your girlfriend; making me suppose if the real issue here is self-absorption on your behalf. It's also concerning to see you mock rather than empathise with someone who has possibly had a hard time in the dating world, considering how you have admitted that your current psychological weaknesses are a product of your own hard times in the dating world.

In your defence, his posts have been assumption-ridden, dramatic, somewhat sexist, and spoken as fact not theory, but seemingly based on experience and with good intentions.

I think it's from his family experience that you've been quite insensitive to in my opinion, which is somewhat ironic considering how much help you've had for your oversensitivity with your girlfriend; making me suppose if the real issue here is self-absorption on your behalf. It's also concerning to see you mock rather than empathise with someone who has possibly had a hard time in the dating world, considering how you have admitted that your current psychological weaknesses are a product of your own hard times in the dating world.

In your defence, his posts have been assumption-ridden, dramatic, somewhat sexist, and spoken as fact not theory, but seemingly based on experience and with good intentions.

I think he went on the offence once I showed Redpill hostilities.

My posts weren't the best, however I do feel the women on here have been slightly harsh on him for his insecurities too. example

'lol anyone else detect bitterness in 'I hope she passes all her coursework'?

I think it's from his family experience that you've been quite insensitive to in my opinion, which is somewhat ironic considering how much help you've had for your oversensitivity with your girlfriend; making me suppose if the real issue here is self-absorption on your behalf. It's also concerning to see you mock rather than empathise with someone who has possibly had a hard time in the dating world, considering how you have admitted that your current psychological weaknesses are a product of your own hard times in the dating world.

In your defence, his posts have been assumption-ridden, dramatic, somewhat sexist, and spoken as fact not theory, but seemingly based on experience and with good intentions.

Or is it some excuse?


My GF and I have been together for 10 months now. Everything has been great. Yes we've had ups and downs like every other couple, but we always seem to settle it quickly.

Anyway, she's on her last year of 3 year maths degree, and according to her and the work I've seen when I've been around hers, it's really stressful.

She has 2 major maths coursework due in soon, one which she has just finished, and then she has a long maths exercise to do too.

She told me things would get really stressful and that we wouldn't be able to see each other as much. That we shouldn't 'promise' each other times we could meet (?)

Of course we've spoken on the phone a couple of times and by text, so she hasn't gone completely AWOL, but even her closest friends tell me this is how she acts when she's busy/stressed.

Should I just take her word for it?

I'm assuming by your whining that either you're not a University student, or if you are that you're not doing a particularly academic subject.

Speak to any final year student doing a difficult degree subject and when the deadlines start to pile up it's not uncommon for them to be doing 14 hours work or more per day, and speaking from personal experience when you're in one of those periods all you want to do when you do finish working for the day is go home, have some food, and collapse.

At the end of the day her degree has to come before you, and if you can't see that then quite frankly you're incredibly selfish and she deserves better than you.

Yet she retracted the comment soon after (??)

Or is it some excuse?


My GF and I have been together for 10 months now. Everything has been great. Yes we've had ups and downs like every other couple, but we always seem to settle it quickly.

Anyway, she's on her last year of 3 year maths degree, and according to her and the work I've seen when I've been around hers, it's really stressful.

She has 2 major maths coursework due in soon, one which she has just finished, and then she has a long maths exercise to do too.

She told me things would get really stressful and that we wouldn't be able to see each other as much. That we shouldn't 'promise' each other times we could meet (?)

Of course we've spoken on the phone a couple of times and by text, so she hasn't gone completely AWOL, but even her closest friends tell me this is how she acts when she's busy/stressed.

Should I just take her word for it?

I'm assuming by your whining that either you're not a University student, or if you are that you're not doing a particularly academic subject.

Speak to any final year student doing a difficult degree subject and when the deadlines start to pile up it's not uncommon for them to be doing 14 hours work or more per day, and speaking from personal experience when you're in one of those periods all you want to do when you do finish working for the day is go home, have some food, and collapse.

At the end of the day her degree has to come before you, and if you can't see that then quite frankly you're incredibly selfish and she deserves better than you.