Housemates make me feel isolated

Maybe you could speak to just one of them on her own and tell her how you feel? She is bound to tell the others,especially if she is close to them. If they are half -decent they will come up with some sort of a plan to try and include you,such as inviting you for a night out ,or knocking on your door to tell you there`s a good film about to start on TV if you wanted to come and watch it. It could be that they all think that you are happy with the set up,and maybe think you have lots of friends outside of where you live. Good luck.

I probably should have mentioned that I did bring this up with two of them (together). My work schedule changed so that I would be working a Friday night when they had planned to go for a meal. They didn't ask me to go and kept talking out the "girls night out". I just said that it was making me feel left out but nothing has changed. I couldn't go but none of them knew the rota had changed. Speaking to half of them changed nothing.

If this is the case then they are likely not worth being friends with. You're worth more, learn to enjoy your own company, focus on study, and have plenty of leisure time with other people. Don't feel bad about them. You shouldn't have to grovel to be included. Just my two cents.

I like this! I want to remain friends but I don't feel like I should bother. Thank-you. This was the reality check I needed.

It was quite hard to think of a title but I'll try to explain. I live with 4 other girls and we all lived either with each other or were in adjoining corridors from first year. Going into 2nd year we were all friends.

However since then the atmosphere where we live is getting worse. I often sleep at coursemate's houses just to keep away. We haven't had a falling out and I am not isolated intentionally but the other girls are much more friendly with each other than they are with me. The past week has been torture and I have come home for the weekend. I feel so alone and isolated but they are friendly to me. Its hard to explain.

It makes me hate university because I feel so unwelcome where I live. I pick up extra hours at work just to avoid them which only makes things worse because they all become closer as a group.

Should I suggest doing something the 5 of us and grit my teeth at how I feel I'm missing out on certain things? I don't know their 'in' jokes/gossip/chit-chat.

I feel like I'm in a cycle of avoiding them and feeling more isolated when I come back or being where we live and feeling like an outsider. To those who say move out, I have a new room for the summer break and next year, I'm just struggling to live there right now.

The more you try to avoid your housemates, the more of an outsider you will become. You mention there being an atmosphere in the house, but you say the girls are friendly to you. The only thing they seem to have done is arrange a night out when you were at work. Have you tried planning something for a night everyone is free?

As someone else mentioned buddy, you are worth 10 x more than them. Invite your friends over while they are there, and show them that you dont need them. They will be begging for your friendship. ^^

I probably should have mentioned that I did bring this up with two of them (together). My work schedule changed so that I would be working a Friday night when they had planned to go for a meal. They didn't ask me to go and kept talking out the "girls night out". I just said that it was making me feel left out but nothing has changed. I couldn't go but none of them knew the rota had changed. Speaking to half of them changed nothing.

it sounds like you may have made it sounds like they were leaving you out of this one thing rather than overall? maybe you should try again