Am I a jerk?

Firstly, who gives a **** about "the rules" whatever they may be. The "rules" that are set out by other people and perhaps society don't apply to every single situation. You're not supposed to act how others think you should act, act how you think you should act.
Secondly, you're not really negotiating, you're just trying to get to the bottom of why she is giving you what you perceive as the cold shoulder. Also if you have a bit of a sit down over a coffee you can have a proper chat and then determine whether or not you are best suited to be friends or not. There's nothing wrong with that whatsoever.

Well I don't care now.

Ok. 19. haha

I suggest cutting contact OP. She doesn't seem to value you as a person and from your description of her she just used you to fuel the attention she desperately craved. She doesn't view you in a romantic or sexual sense so rather than be her personal lapdog, try be your own person and find people worthy of your respect. All the best.

Sometimes the friendship cannot just work well after that kind of rejection

I'm 16. Why don't you come on over baby, we could shake shake shake.( don't like Taylor swift but that song is stupidly catchy).

I suggest cutting contact OP. She doesn't seem to value you as a person and from your description of her she just used you to fuel the attention she desperately craved. She doesn't view you in a romantic or sexual sense so rather than be her personal lapdog, try be your own person and find people worthy of your respect. All the best.

Read my edited post.

Clearly your pride has been hurt somewhat but that feeling won't last. She has been a good friend to you for a year now, and when the first feelings of rejection have passed over you will wonder why you didn't stay friends with her.
Have you had feelings for her since the beginning?

Who is to say it can't?
Maybe it can work, and maybe in can't. That depends entirely on the OP.

Well it kind of went to a next level and I thought maybe she did like me. And no I didnt fancy her at all to begin with, its only been since I spent time with her.

For the OP to want to end it just like that is there really any point to continue the friendship. The OP's comments say it all

I guess I'd take any sort of genuine friends right now

maybe it's just temporary though? ive been angry at people sometimes and i've wanted to cut contact with them, but it mostly passes eventually.

This one doesn't look like it is going to pass

The rules aren't written in stone, but I'm not going to go all Elliot Rodger. Secondly I don't care about being friends anymore.

well what do you mean to a next level? are you sure you weren't just misreading the signs?
sometimes when we fancy someone badly we can interpret everything they say and do in a different way and take it to mean that they have the same feelings for us.

Do you have any other friends besides her? Maybe you could spend more time with them and just gradually cut her off

How does she not value him as a person? Maybe she just doesn't see him in that way, that doesn't mean that she doesn't respect him.

I wanted to spend time together like couples do. Yet she seemed like the idea of that was pretty awful, not even like she 'would rather not' or something softer. Of course I misread the signs but now I am left wondering if I never saw her again would I be bothered? And the answer to that is no.